Collarchat.com

Join Our Community		 Collarchat.com

Home  Login  Search 

RE: Has anyone found "the one"


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: Has anyone found "the one" Page: <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4 5   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 4:14:51 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


Posts: 6719
Joined: 8/7/2007
Status: offline 		Yes, I found 'the one" but unfortunately he died in the trilogy.  Those sending condolences to me in my widowed state, please send in lieu of flowers and plants, a donation to your favored charity.

(in reply to completenz)
Profile   Post #: 41
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 4:57:03 PM   
e01n


Posts: 1472
Status: offline 		Oh, I've met "The One"... then she hooked up with my ex-high school girlfriend.
Then I met the other "The One"... she was all lies and deceit in the end.
And then after that, there was "The One"... only she was still living with her husband...

This myth of "The One" is toxic and has to die... I refuse to have it in my system any longer.

Is there someone I believe can fit with me? Yes. I'd like to meet her one of these days. Chances are, she'll say I'm not her One and move on to the same painful truth that I have after a number of years of suffering and misery.

I could be wrong - I frequently am... but I doubt it in this case.

< Message edited by e01n -- 8/28/2007 5:00:19 PM >

(in reply to WinsomeDefiance)
Profile   Post #: 42
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 4:59:30 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


Posts: 4253
Status: offline 		"The One" is a myth that only happens in fairy tails

_____________________________

Are we having fun, yet?

(in reply to e01n)
Profile   Post #: 43
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 6:23:39 PM   
rmanrr


Posts: 358
Joined: 7/25/2006
Status: offline 		Greetings
interesting that you failed to mention this other Man during your last two months...took a whole 5 days after release too in order for a collar to be placed...finally is it real time considering you are in California and He is in New Zealand? A whole new meaning to LDR heh heh. Further....have you returned the collars from your previous situation?


_____________________________

Be Well, Be Careful

Jarl Rmanrr

"the road untravelled is the loneliest." Me
Courage...the ability to overcome obstacles during the course.
"to be insane is to be original!"...Me

(in reply to sphynxE)
Profile   Post #: 44
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 6:29:29 PM   
rmanrr


Posts: 358
Joined: 7/25/2006
Status: offline 		Greetings My Lady
Remind Me to never get you upset...heh heh...pulled out the long tom arty did you? and followed it up with an airstrike!....then a bit of napalm just to make things nice and toasty!...I love it all...nothing you said was untrue as you were right there with Me listening to My explanations and concerns....I love you and what you said goes absolutely ditto for Me. (ps...15 days) heh heh


_____________________________

Be Well, Be Careful

Jarl Rmanrr

"the road untravelled is the loneliest." Me
Courage...the ability to overcome obstacles during the course.
"to be insane is to be original!"...Me

(in reply to littlebitxxx)
Profile   Post #: 45
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 6:30:34 PM   
mmb1


Posts: 304
Joined: 8/3/2007
Status: offline 		Finding the "one" here is as good a chance as finding the "one" in a supermarket!  If you do, that is great, if you don't well keep dreaming!

(in reply to rmanrr)
Profile   Post #: 46
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 6:33:12 PM   
michaelOfGeorgia


Posts: 4253
Status: offline 		I think it's more like finding a a needle in a hundred haystacks...but that's just me

_____________________________

Are we having fun, yet?

(in reply to mmb1)
Profile   Post #: 47
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 6:37:21 PM   
mmb1


Posts: 304
Joined: 8/3/2007
Status: offline 		I agree and no still not having fun yet, but you are correct....a needle in a haystack or 1000 agreed!  And none are pardon the expression, pricking me in the ass.

(in reply to michaelOfGeorgia)
Profile   Post #: 48
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/28/2007 9:00:20 PM   
akisha


Posts: 2071
Joined: 6/25/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

I think it's more like finding a a needle in a hundred haystacks...but that's just me


LMAO!!

It's not that bad for goodness sake lol   I've met some absolutely wonderful people from on this site. Granted not all ended up being an intimate long term relationship but I've made some really good (yes real life) friends. Denika and her adorable husband for starters. I even met a most wonderul man that i got to claim as mine if only for a while *S* but nothing in life is guarranteed so be it. Take what comes your way. enjoy every minute of it and take away the positives when it's over and move on.

It blows me away how many people seem to dwell so heavily on the negative side of things, holy crap!!!  Has anyone ever thought that maybe they haven't met anyone for a long term relationship because they are going in with a really bad attitude?? That maybe be being so massively negative you are sending out HUGE vibes of it and turning potentially wonderful partners off really fast.

I know personally that negative people really turn me off and I refuse to keep them around me because I will not allow thier negativity to affect my life. I can't stand pessimists and people that bitch and complain all the time about anything. If something isn't working for you.. Then change it. You don't like your job? get a new one! Hate where you live? Then move!!  In an unhappy relationship? Then either figure out how to fix it or LEAVE!!

First thing to learn is to be happy being single. Be happy spending time with yourself! Be happy with yourself as a person. And for christ sake realize that just because you want a partner tomorrow doesn't mean you'll get one. It might take months or years to find someone. Thing is, partners are like shoes, you have to keep trying different ones on to see which fit the best and don't cramp your toes at the end of the day.

Do that and guess what... finding a partner that fits into your life is soo much easier. No one can make you happy. No one can be everything to you. It's not humanly possible!!!!  Figure out what it is you need in a partner, and everything else is workable.

Anything is possible if you want it bad enough. So the excuses that ohh I can't move, I can't find a better job, I can't find someone to love me and adore me and worship me. Get over yourself. You can do pretty much anything if you put your mind to it. It just takes time, desire, determination and perseverance.

< Message edited by akisha -- 8/28/2007 9:03:07 PM >

_____________________________

I'm confused.... No wait!!! Maybe I'm not

It's not a blonde moment! It's momentary peroxide posioning. ;)

Your pain makes me smile ~ Happy Bunny

532-095-649

(in reply to michaelOfGeorgia)
Profile   Post #: 49
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/29/2007 8:37:19 AM   
e01n


Posts: 1472
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: akisha
quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia: I think it's more like finding a a needle in a hundred haystacks...but that's just me
It's not that bad for goodness sake lol
No, it isn't that bad - unless there's something else that's going on that needs to be addressed.

For me, I believe I've found Someone very special that I can possibly grow old alongside. Maybe. Only time will tell. But would I consider her "The One"? Far from it... because that would require that She equally feel that I'm Her "The One" as well.

That might be the case. Far more likely that I'm "The Right Now."

The myth of such a flavor of monogamy is toxic. NB: not monogamy itself, just the built-up mythology surrounding it as expressed in "The One." Better to see through it and find that each and every "mistake" is a learning experience to be avoided next time out the door.

Me, I know better than to move to a different state based solely on a few email and phone conversations - there's going to need to be some serious in-person time of a shorter duration before I pack up the U-Haul... again. I'm also analyzing the heck out of everything that gets said, looking for the bits that don't add up... again. Same with those girls that say charming things like "My girlfriend thinks you're cute. Want her over for a fuck?" That's generally my cue these days to go make popcorn and pull up a chair and watch... again.

YMMV. But my point is this: do I regret any of my "education"? Nope. Not for a second. Does it make me bitter and soured on the idea of relationships? Nope. Not for a second. I am definitely much more selective these days in my choices of partners...

And none of this is to say that the reverse isn't true either. I'm me - I often suffer from foot-in-mouth disease and can be a massive asshole on many occasions. I often do my best to persuade people not to consider me as a partner. The chances that I'm their "One" and they're my "One" simultaneously and on a lasting basis are between slim and none.

I refuse to cause that flavor of suffering in someone. It's tawdry and cheap and utterly common. Why not get it for free by watching the evening news?

(in reply to akisha)
Profile   Post #: 50
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/29/2007 8:42:30 AM   
slaveish


Posts: 1086
Joined: 2/19/2007
Status: offline 		I haven't found the one anywhere ... but ... I'm not looking very hard.

_____________________________

You only lose what you cling to. ~~Gautama Sidharta

If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other. ~~Mother Teresa

(in reply to e01n)
Profile   Post #: 51
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/29/2007 8:58:05 AM   
kellytx


Posts: 2
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline 		I'm not sure if I believe in 'the one' or not. I never really spent much time pondering it. I created my profile here a while ago to make friends in the local community. I met a few people and there just wasn't anything there besides friendship. Then I found a profile that caught my eye for some unknown reason. I waffled and wasted time trying to decide whether to send him a message when he sent me one about some interests that we share.

After chatting for a while, we agreed to meet for lunch. After lunch ended, we decided we weren't finished talking so we drove to the scenic spots in the city and spent six hours talking and getting to know each other. At the time, we both swore we were not looking for a relationship and were just looking to meet friends. Well, since then we have changed our minds. I still don't know if he is 'the one' but I do know when I look at him I realize that I want to be with him for the rest of my life.

So, it is possible and when it happens, it is glorious.

(in reply to slaveish)
Profile   Post #: 52
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/29/2007 3:31:28 PM   
onmykneesforhim


Posts: 112
Joined: 6/18/2006
Status: offline

I thought that  "The One" was only in the Matrix???


quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

"The One" is a myth that only happens in fairy tails


But seriously, 
iammachine has said it ALL!!

I don't believe in "the one"....
but I've made some great friends!

(in reply to michaelOfGeorgia)
Profile   Post #: 53
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/29/2007 3:34:31 PM   
DiurnalVampire


Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		I found Angel here... so yes
Ive met many others here and elsewhere also.

DV


_____________________________

I will be your Dominate if you will be my submit - Fox

Snarko Ergo Sum
If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb

*Owner of Fox - collared 10/13/07*
VampiresLair

(in reply to plspickme)
Profile   Post #: 54
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/29/2007 4:00:28 PM   
iammachine


Posts: 1549
Joined: 1/25/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

"The One" is a myth that only happens in fairy tails


Or the Highlander... there can be only one! :)


_____________________________

I still hear you scream... in every breath, every single motion

(in reply to michaelOfGeorgia)
Profile   Post #: 55
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/29/2007 6:13:09 PM   
gypsygrl


Posts: 1471
Joined: 10/8/2005
From: new york state
Status: offline
quote:

Everywhere one seeks to produce meaning, to make the world signify, to render it visible.
We are not, however, in danger of lacking meaning; quite the contrary, we are gorged with meaning and it is killing u


I don't know about 'the one' but I was struck by the tag line.  It sounds like something baudrillard might have written but I'm only guessing.

Sorry for the hijack.


_____________________________

“To be happy is to be able to become aware of oneself without fright.” ~Walter Benjamin


(in reply to e01n)
Profile   Post #: 56
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/29/2007 7:12:00 PM   
slaveluci


Posts: 4294
Joined: 3/2/2007
From: Little Rock, AR
Status: offline 		Contrary to the opinions of all those out there who haven't found their "One," I indeed have found mine and we made initial contact here on CM.  Been together nearly 16 months now, I moved 4 states away to live with Him, and we'll be married soon.  Neither of us have ever been happier.  Don't buy the negativity - it CAN happen and, for us, it HAS happened.  Best of luck................luci

_____________________________

To choose a good book, look in an inquisitor’s prohibited list. ~John Aikin

(in reply to plspickme)
Profile   Post #: 57
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/29/2007 11:21:21 PM   
MstrSkyWoIf


Posts: 238
Joined: 10/26/2005
Status: offline 		Yes it is possible to find someone here as long as you are willing to put up with the BS until you find the one you seek.... But when you do life can not be better. I could not have asked for a better match... We are very private about our relationship because of the bull that can happen here sometimes but it is no less special.. After all this on line life is not where real life is lived.

_____________________________

this is just my opinion, I do not claim to be an expert on life. I am just Me, Love me or Hate me I really don't care. I am the culmination of my life's experiences. I am an ever changing block of clay molded by life's experiences on a daily basis.

(in reply to plspickme)
Profile   Post #: 58
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/29/2007 11:23:45 PM   
MstrSkyWoIf


Posts: 238
Joined: 10/26/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveluci

Contrary to the opinions of all those out there who haven't found their "One," I indeed have found mine and we made initial contact here on CM.  Been together nearly 16 months now, I moved 4 states away to live with Him, and we'll be married soon.  Neither of us have ever been happier.  Don't buy the negativity - it CAN happen and, for us, it HAS happened.  Best of luck................luci


It is wonderful isn't it so many here paint a grim picture of what is possible but then when it happens it is like WOW where have you been all my life....

_____________________________

this is just my opinion, I do not claim to be an expert on life. I am just Me, Love me or Hate me I really don't care. I am the culmination of my life's experiences. I am an ever changing block of clay molded by life's experiences on a daily basis.

(in reply to slaveluci)
Profile   Post #: 59
RE: Has anyone found "the one" - 8/29/2007 11:28:05 PM   
LDRandAstarte


Posts: 504
Joined: 12/31/2005
Status: offline 		Nope did not find her here. found her in Yeehaw personals!

_____________________________

When I die, I want to go like my grandpa who died peacefully in his sleep. Not screaming in terror like the other three passengers in his car.

(in reply to plspickme)
Profile   Post #: 60
Page:   <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4 5   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> RE: Has anyone found "the one" Page: <<   < prev  1 2 [3] 4 5   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2024
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.578