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daddysprop247 -> RE: No Limits: How far would you go? (9/20/2007 1:20:59 PM)
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...this thread has turned into something very disturbing and quite disgusting honestly, but i'm grateful for the way it has worked to show the true colors of many, both good and ugly. it is true what many have said, "limits" threads in general tend to evoke strong feelings in people and often lead to the nastiest of arguments. someone mentioned my way of repeating myself in these threads...and that is true, because my feelings all limits (as they relate to my own experiences and lifestyle) have never waivered. it's more than a bit ridiculous to me that so many take issue with the way my Master and i live, on a bdsm website of all places. the truth is we don't live very differently than any other committed M/s couple...in comparison to some we're extreme, in comparison to others we're ultra mild. it's all a matter of perspective. i suppose the difference could be that we share more than most....because we're not ashamed, see nothing seedy or inappropriate about our life together, and because we feel that certain M/s dynamics don't get the acknowledgement, acceptance or understanding that they should. i think back to when i was a "newbie," and how invaluable it was to me to find a good M/s community, on and offline, that showed me the sort of relationship i could have and that absolutely nothing was wrong with it if that was my choice. castlrealm and even collarme were unknown to me at the time, thankfully.
so, some believe i'm apparently incapable of consent because at one time, several years ago, i was deemed mentally incompetent by a very crappy mental health and legal system. i won't lie or make light of it, it was an extremely rough time in my life, where i was dealing with many drastic changes all at once and not processing it all too well, and my depression, which has been with me all of my life and will likely always be a part of me, reached a low point. but i got it together, with the love, support, and much-needed kicks-in-the-bum of my Master, and saw it through to the other side. yes, i'm still depressed, because it's an illness with me, not a fleeting state of mind. but i'm far less depressed, and far more content than i have ever been in my life and ever thought i could be. and more importantly, i am at peace, because i know that i have found my path and true life's purpose.
yes, i use the word abuse to refer to some of the things my Master subjects me to. but please know that i am using the term literally, to refer to activities done with the intent of causing physical or emotional harm. many here, by my definition, are similarly abused, but would never refer to it as such and that is fine. i assign no connotations to the word abuse. it is neither positive nor negative, right or wrong, it just is.
as for those who believe little or nothing that i have to say, that is certainly your right, but please don't be naive enough to think that no one lives this way, that no one believes in consensual M/s dynamics without limits or boundaries (whichever term you prefer), and please please do not assume that everyone feels a part of the so-called "bdsm community" and follows the mantras of SSC, "you always have the right to leave or say no," etc. and, believe it or not, we are not all looney tunes, but regular folk who laugh, cry, eat, sleep, watch TV and walk the dog like everyone else. some realize this because they live and breathe it...owned, BeingChewsie, Bita, being just a few here...and others realize it because they have the open-mindedness and perceptiveness to understand that simply because a way of life may differ from their own personal reality or comfort zone, that does not make it unbelievable or sick or any potentially less precious and fulfilling to someone else.
now with that hopefully this thread will either die or be drastically diverted. ..i'm off to eat some pizza and snuggle up with my Master.
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