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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/19/2007 11:07:37 PM

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Not a sub, but that does not stop me from posting where I have a big thought on the subject. Phoenix does that to me ALL THE FREEKING TIME!!! Last time was when she got into he car after work one night last week. Said we need to talk, but I don't want to do it here, so when we get home and the kids are in bed. . .OK that would take about six and a half minutes. Oh hell no! I made her tell me right there because I flipped a bit worrying. You know what it was about? She spent a minute amount of her work money that evening on work cloths. Like $20. That was it!

People should not do this to people they even remotely like. I think I would rather be shot out of a cannon before someone does this to me.

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 1:20:12 AM

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If someone is taking the time to call me and tell me "we need to talk" then by golly... spill your guts now! ummm yea, I don't do games, and that to me stinks of a mind screw!

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 1:38:01 AM

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I am getting really worried now - does anyone know how she is?

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 2:35:06 AM

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I hope she's ok

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 3:07:37 AM

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Honey... we need to talk....

(worry)

(fret)

(Clean like mad hoping to distract)

(worry some more)

(WORRRY)

(quietly panic)

(worry)

(Worry AND panic as she hears the car door slam)

(greet and do all the regular things that need to be done while waiting for the conversation...)

(Get really really nervous)

(WORRY)

(A bit out of breath with nervousness as he sits down to talk)

"I've been thinking... we need to put in a new deck. What do you think?"

(cry and laugh all at the same time because all that worry was useless and now it's just plain funny)

And she says he isn't an emotional masochist!!!! This is the stuff games are made of!!!

(Hope all is well ghita)

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 4:41:49 AM

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*makes a fresh pot for the Ghita vigil* we're all on pins and needles waiting for your return.... *hugs*

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 4:50:35 AM

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*pouring my cuppa joe for the wait*

Huggz and good vibes have been going from me since I first started reading this thread yesterday. I really do hope all is well for Ghita.

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 5:24:18 AM

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Still worrying and hoping all is well.

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 5:39:14 AM

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I am still betting that it is way out of proportion what she is thinking, because men just don't think that way.......

look, if he said when I get home we are gonna have a talk, bitch-----
THEN she should get on her knees in the corner and start wailing.
I can about guarentee he said need and not NEED
Like I said it is only fraught with the 9th level of hell when women say it.

(or it is about the rim job and not washing)
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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 5:40:51 AM

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i've been waiting too.

i really hope everything's OK.

i also HATE the "we need to talk" line. Even if it's followed by "don't worry, it's no big deal". It makes me WORRY.

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 5:41:18 AM

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Well, it's 6:40 Colorado Time and I just saw Ghita here in the room and was tickled I'd get to find out what happened. But...then she was gone.

I checked the list of folks online and...yup, her name shows up reading stuff here at 6:32:56 AM...but still no message!

But...she's back now; perhaps it's a long message!

Beverly

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 5:43:00 AM

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OMG...RON!

It was NOT about a rim job......and...might I just say....WOW.....all the outpouring of support....(and not so supportive moments too!...lmao...)

Thanks guys....Im gonna put you all back into suspense for just a few minutes longer because its gonna take me a minute or two to write out everything that happened last night. wow what a rollercoaster of emotion.....and yes ron...it included actually..five...shots of tequila...the clear silver good stuff too....that was for me...I dont know how much he drank....

Oh...and Sir did actually read this thread....late last night...he just chuckled and shook his head and said..."damn girls are silly"

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 5:44:01 AM

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removed because while I was scarcasing she posted.

Ron

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 5:52:37 AM

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She's Okayyyyy, she's Okayyyyyyyy!!!

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 6:01:35 AM

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Well for once i know what is going on since i spoke with her other half on the phone. Ill say this much she is going to be fine During the talk i offered her Sir a sheep and a beagle puppy in trade for her. The rest of the talk ill keep to myself for now as to not mess with on going talks.

Eric
And if you are reading this A ill go as high as a cow a sheep and a couple of chickens.

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 6:16:24 AM

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Sigh...where to begin. Well, after the mid day phone call that started this thread, I set to doing massive amounts of house cleaning. What else is a chick to do? Oh..and I also changed the oil in his truck. I tried to call him back several times just to get some re-assurance but he had turned his phone off. Add in more head bashing here. So after doing all the laundry, cutting the tile for the new kitchen countertops, changing his oil, replacing two broken boards in the fence, and washing the dog, it was close to 5pm and he still wasnt home. I knew we were having company for dinner so I went ahead and fed the kids some baked chicken and cut up some fruit for them. While they were eating in the living room I went to take a bath. The bath helped...so did the waterproof vibrator....

He got home while I was drying my hair. He does that whole, going about his normal afterwork routine like nothings going on. I followed him around, picking up all the wet stinky clothes he keeps leaving in a trail around the house. Finally he settles down into the bathtub (Im also remodeling the shower so its baths for us..) and I sit down on the little rug on the outside of the bathtub. This is kind of our daily "catch up" time to chat without the kids so Im just sitting quietly waiting for him to start.

Apparently he wants me to change the way I tell him when there are people I want to fuck. Anyway, I know that sounds a bit odd...but if you know us, well..it isnt really. I have always had no problem pointing out chicks I think are rather sexy to him....but Ive had troubles mentioning when I have the hots for a dude...and well...its come up several times recently..both in person and once online. So sometimes I feel kinda uncomfortable when I know Im supposed to tell him what Im thinking but like..its easier to talk about chicks cause that something we kinda share but with dudes well..Im all on my own and he wanted to discuss with me ways to make me feel more comfortable about opening up on that sort of thing.

Ok....so that was the main talking thing...said he called in the middle of the day to mention it because he was having a long day and was worried he would forget if he didnt tell me to remind him when he got home. MEN!

And then there was more.....it get better...LOTS better...grins...

For some of you....Ive had conversations on the private side, some on the phone, others in emails, some have even talked to my Sir. So some of you might understand this more than others. When I first met my Sir, it was in a vanilla work setting...but there was just something about him that drew me to him. Was the first guy I ever got the courage to ask out myself. We dated for a few months before I threw out the BDSM card. Actually I invited him to a party but didnt tell him it was a Play party until we knocked on the door and it was opened. The strangest thing happened...damn if he hadnt known the people throwing the party for over 20 years!! So, over time, we discussed it all...this was 5 years ago now. He had been around the lifestyle, but not "in" it..for a long time. Unfortunantly he had some pretty screwed up misconceptions about it all and was one of the people who believed all submissives were door mats and all dominants just wanted to treat women like dirt. Over time he's slowly gotten over that and through meeting lots and lots of the people in the community I look up to with respect and trust, he has begun to realize alot more of the depth of a real working D/s relationship. Im not trying to downplay the "part time" roleplayers...because some of yall are great...but most of the ones he met, were alot more into the fantasy aspects and he saw more of the degrading aspects than an actual relationship. He only met them at play parties and things, so never saw the "real" person. Over time, he has said over and over to me that he "doesnt want a submissive, he wants a wife"...and I keep telling him that to me its the same damn thing....

so finally...last night...he sits me down and says..."the more I read, and the more I learn...the more happy I am that I have you, and if who you are is a submissive then I could never want anything less"

So I got this really really pretty sterling silver collar with a heart locket on it. Which in truth, he bought the necklace part of it a while ago, for me to wear to BDSM events...but had told me that to him, all it was was a peice of jewelry and to not think of it emotionally as anything more....so when last night he put the new locket thingy on it and said that from now on, it truly is his collar...well....now Im getting all emotional again....

We've also had the long standing "title" issue. At play parties and events Ive usually used the term "Boss" (Anyone ever watched "cool hand luke"?). We do it more as a comedy thing...but its what we had agreed on because he absolutly HATES the word Sir...its a hold over from the military...he was never an officer so if anyone calls him Sir they get the whole "dammit I work for a living" comment. The only other person who deserves the title "Sir" in his eyes is a knight and apparently that aint ever gonna happen to him either. So although I refer to him as "my Sir" when in conversation, I never use that to him directly...at least not on purpose...sometimes it slips out in the middle of a scene and he ignores it but....And Master..he truly just has a lot of negitive feelings towards that word...so after quite a bit of deliberation...he's agreed on Daddy.

So after the company finally left about 11pm.....well....things got a bit more physical and my butt and back are still sore this morning...and so is something else....

All in all it was a wonderful evening and between all that and the bottle of tequila we downed....I could really use an omelette....

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 6:17:50 AM

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Eric...he says he wants two yaks and a horse!

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 6:19:47 AM

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and

again!

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 6:22:23 AM

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heh heh heh........ he DID collar her!!!

Congratulations, Ghita!

Men! Ya know, I'd heard about that "oh...I just wanted to say something then, so I wouldn't forget now" thang. ugg Yours sounds like a sweet guy; congrats, again!!!

B

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RE: "We need to talk....." - 9/20/2007 6:24:08 AM

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Ok....so that was the main talking thing...said he called in the middle of the day to mention it because he was having a long day and was worried he would forget if he didnt tell me to remind him when he got home. MEN!

And the overwhelming majority of people out here think that I am just a nasty, scarcastic, curmudgeonly asshole, devoid of higher order of thought.

A prophet is without honor in his own country, by god.

But I am warning you, don't bring this sniveling shit up again, unless it is about the rimjob, hear?

The Prophet mnottertail

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