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Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/20/2007 10:22:49 PM

laurell3

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In the past week I've gotten five emails on cm merely saying only "hi" from different people....I ponder how to respond to this....how could "hi" be a proper introduction? I am no longer looking and merely here to talk to friends and this is stated in my profile so the "hi" emails should realize this if they can read.

Any thoughts on an appropriate response to or reason behind the number of "hi"s?
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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/20/2007 10:25:46 PM

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I think the idea for the "hi" e-mails is that they don't always get a response, so why put an effort into something that probably will be ignored. I can see that.

On the other hand, I generally ignore those e-mails since I'm not going to put in effort if they are not. Most certainly a Catch 22.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/20/2007 10:27:31 PM

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/20/2007 10:30:51 PM

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Sometimes I send 'hi' back.
Or let them know that more than 'hi' tends to get better results.
Lately I've been not answering them at all, but that makes me feel bad so I'm going back to the other two options lol.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/20/2007 10:38:15 PM

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I give what I get...lol.

If you send me "Hi", I will reply with "Hi". If you send me a kind letter of introduction, you will receive a kind reply, even if it is to say I'm not interested due to distance or whatever. If you send me a rude introduction you can bet my reply isn't going to be "okay, let's hook up right now!".

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/20/2007 10:41:51 PM

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Hi

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/20/2007 10:59:27 PM

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For once I'm going to agree with Latex.

Think of it in a public setting. When someone comes up to you, they usually say some sort of greeting. Hi, Hello, How are you etc. They're probably not going to break out in some long drawn out speech about who they are, what they're looking for, their interests.

I understand that the internet is different. The 'standards' (for lack of a better term) are different for communication. A person can tell you their interests, their likes/dislikes, what they're looking for etc. in one e-mail, and be done with it.

With that said, if/when I get a "Hi" e-mail, I determine whether I'm going to respond by their profile. Sometimes (and yes, this has happened to me), a person who has a well-written/well-thought out profile will just say "Hi" because they're profile says all they need to say as an introduction.

But, if they send me a "Hi" e-mail, and either their profile is full of grammar mistakes/typos, or there's nothing written, then I delete them. Or there's something I don't agree with, making me think we won't be compatible, I send a polite, Thanks, but no thanks.

It just all depends on how you want to respond.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/20/2007 11:31:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: laurell3

In the past week I've gotten five emails on cm merely saying only "hi" from different people....I ponder how to respond to this....how could "hi" be a proper introduction? I am no longer looking and merely here to talk to friends and this is stated in my profile so the "hi" emails should realize this if they can read.

Any thoughts on an appropriate response to or reason behind the number of "hi"s?
l

If all they send me is "hi" it's not only likely that I won't respond, but also that I'll block them. If they can't even write a sentence they're not worth my time.

Not to mention that all to date that wrote just "hi" to me and I have responded to all turned out to be timewasters and very obvious wankers who clearly didn't read my profile.

I do make exceptions, but those two routes are the most common.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/20/2007 11:38:43 PM

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I find it really hard to reply to a hi... It's not impossible, obviously, but it's much harder than the interested person beginning some type of conversation. I'll reply to the occasional Hi, but only if there's something in a profile I can actually talk about.
Anything more than hi makes it a lot easier to get conversation flowing.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/21/2007 12:45:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RumpusParable
If all they send me is "hi" it's not only likely that I won't respond, but also that I'll block them. If they can't even write a sentence they're not worth my time.

Not to mention that all to date that wrote just "hi" to me and I have responded to all turned out to be timewasters and very obvious wankers who clearly didn't read my profile.

I do make exceptions, but those two routes are the most common.

I agree. If someone sends me a "Hi," or even a "Hi, how are you?" chances are they have not read my profile -- they have just been looking at pics and are shooting off random messages to anyone they think looks attractive.

If I were looking, I might look at their profiles and assess whether or not to send a "Hi" back. But since I'm happily owned, and my profile clearly says so, I assume that anyone wanting to contact me would have something to say that could at least take up a whole sentence (and "How are you?" really doesn't count, in my book.)

This is the net, not a cocktail party, and I don't really think the same rules of etiquette apply. If you want to meet someone at a cocktail party, "Hi" makes sense. Here, you'd better say a little bit more, IMO.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/21/2007 1:34:17 AM

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for me it depends how i am feeling at the time. i might take time to perv them and if i think they are interesting i will say "hi" back. if i am not in the mood i will delete. if someone puts some effort in maybe i wont reply right away but i will most times reciprocate. sometimes folks might only say "hi" because they are shy.

personally i couldnt see myself sending someone an email that only said "hi". i would feel pretty weird doing that.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/21/2007 1:39:06 AM

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Just saying Hi makes me think that the person has not taken the time to read my profile and is just taking pot luck that i will reply. Having said that they may just be shy, but then a male Dom should not be..... Also, having said that, my profile is nothing to get excited about at the moment as i have just joined and could not think of a single really interesting thing to say haha! Will get back to that......!

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/21/2007 2:00:30 AM

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I dunno.

I think "hi, I like to be tied up and sodomized" would be more of an attention grabber.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/21/2007 2:08:50 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: litleone8620
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For once I'm going to agree with Latex.

Think of it in a public setting. When someone comes up to you, they usually say some sort of greeting. Hi, Hello, How are you etc. They're probably not going to break out in some long drawn out speech about who they are, what they're looking for, their interests.

I understand that the internet is different. The 'standards' (for lack of a better term) are different for communication. A person can tell you their interests, their likes/dislikes, what they're looking for etc. in one e-mail, and be done with it.

With that said, if/when I get a "Hi" e-mail, I determine whether I'm going to respond by their profile. Sometimes (and yes, this has happened to me), a person who has a well-written/well-thought out profile will just say "Hi" because they're profile says all they need to say as an introduction.

But, if they send me a "Hi" e-mail, and either their profile is full of grammar mistakes/typos, or there's nothing written, then I delete them. Or there's something I don't agree with, making me think we won't be compatible, I send a polite, Thanks, but no thanks.

It just all depends on how you want to respond.

I really liked all of this but, especially, the part I high-lighted. Some of us have taken the time to write well thought out profiles that give a good amount of information about who we are.

Also, a Latex and Litleone pointed out, sometimes "Hi" is an appropriate way to start a conversation. I know I have issues with people using e-mail like it's an instant messenger. I HATE that! I have to keep refreshing my browser, looking for the next response. Oh, the pain! I like things to be simple.

Lastly, the O.P. mentions that their profile clearly states that they are no longer looking; that they only welcome friendships. Why should I write out a long "letter of introduction" when all I'm looking to do is have a friendly conversation with someone who happens to suffer from insomnia, like I do?

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/21/2007 2:09:16 AM

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Yes i think that would do it too!

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/21/2007 2:11:11 AM

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sorry that was in repsonse to RRafe....

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/21/2007 2:17:04 AM

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"Hi" is as bad as:

hw r u
how are you?
wazzup? (yes, I actually got that one)
wanna chat?
I want you to be my mistress (big furking deal, never heard that one before

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/21/2007 2:23:19 AM

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Oh geeze, not the "hi" message. No really, I don't mind them, I answer everything I get, even if it's just a "Hi" I normally will send them a "Hiya back atcha." A couple of people who started out with just a "hi " and my return of HIya have turned into many more pleasent notes, that I enjoy.

I'd much rather get a "Hi" message then a "Suck me" message any day.

Not having a profile pic keeps a lotta the unwanted random notes at bay. So I don't have to wade through 30 or so notes everytime I log on, so it's pretty easy for me to return note for note.

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/21/2007 2:28:04 AM

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If someone writes me just a "Hi", I look at their profile and if they are relatively new, I point out that this is probably not the best way to get a response. My own profile has been left deliberately short as I was getting so many responses from subs/slaves who had tailored their introductory message to what they 'thought' I was looking for. This makes me more willing to reply to just a "Hi", even if to say the usual 'thanks but no thanks'

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RE: Is "hi" enough to respond to? - 9/21/2007 3:13:48 AM

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If someone says 'hi' I will say 'hi' back.

If I'm reeeeeally bored I'll reply to a second one-liner with a one-liner.

If they don't catch my interest after that I don't see a point in replying.

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