Twicehappy2x
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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen But its not as simple as saying that its the addicts' fault for not trying While (as you stated, thank you) i did not say that, you are correct, i implied it. At some point in time they need to choose not to be an addict anymore. There are too many programs out there to help them get off of drugs, alcohol, what have you. It is up to each individual to decide whether or not to quit. Whether or not to seek help. Like i said earlier, if we used just a little bit of the money we spend on enforcing drug laws on better programs, they could be so much better than they are now. quote:
A world of abuse and suffering being what these people experience, with no idea of anything else, explains fully to me why they end up as they do. That these people, some of them at any rate, have suffered i do not dispute. That they have no idea it can be any different, i do. With todays technology, television, radio, internet access even the destitute can use at any public library, if anybody takes the time to look, they can see there is a better way out there. quote:
combined with the lack of aspiration to escape such a life through effort (hardly surprising given such an environment to grow up in This is the meat of the matter "a lack of aspiration". Every human being has to desire and actively pursue any change they want to make in their life. It is not that the opportunity is not out there, if you work at it hard enough. It is that it is "too hard" for some. The choice to do that hard work, physically, emotionally and spiritually is again, one each individual must make. If they choose the easy way out, that is up to them. quote:
I wonder at whether many of us would have not incurred some sort of substance abuse problem, given what they have been through and the state of their lives at quite young ages? It always seems to stem from abusive family relationships - ranging from the active (violence, sexual abuse and the like) through to the passive (parents who simply don't care, having given up on life already). I do not and will not accept this as an excuse from any one. You can decide to let this abuse (of any type) be your crutch, let it dictate the decline or waste of your of your life or you can use it. Let it make you stronger, learn from it, learn what not to do, what not to allow around your own life, around your own children. My mom and my dad separated (i did have 2 other "moms" in the house). My mother married another man. I lost any and every type of virginity a child possesses before my 6th birthday. At 11 years of age i left home, pregnant with my stepfathers child. Bikers took me in, bikers got me an abortion. A biker gave me a place to live and took care of me in exchange for childcare for his son. At 13 i became another bikers old lady. Before our second child was born he was killed. I survived, without becoming a drug addict, ever. I became stronger, tempered by the fires of my life rather than melted by it. I have RA, when i am in a flare sometimes i have tears running down my face with every step i take to get down the stairs. I can legally be a drug addict, hell my doctor would be over joyed if i took all the dope she gives me, she knows i do not. I am still not a drug addict. I made choices. Every one can make or not make the same choices i did. I know, not everybody is that strong, again, it is up to them to chose strength over despair. Even if they lack that type of personal strength, there is help to them, but they must decide to seek it out, to take it when it is offered.
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The human heart is not a finite container but an ever expanding universe with all the stars contained there in.
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