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ORIGINAL: iammachine

Lets see, how about a little contrast

You dehumanized another woman by calling her a "thing" and a "booty call"
You've called a woman you hardly know a skank
You have blamed this other woman for your partner's failing, citing that she has "issues" because he played her, too
Your contrast of yourself as a "cute little blonde" to a "unrefined, vulgar BBW" really served no point, except maybe to jab

Shame on us? Shame on you!

Oh, in addition, fat chicks don't kiss well because they don't have practice? Here's my getting down in the dirt with the others (and you) for the day.... clearly they have enough practice to bag "your man" so they can't be that bad! :)

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Please don't reply to tell me how wrong i am ...messed up i am .... etc.  Constructive words are not mean and those i've read but sadly

Sadly, sometimes the words that we most need to hear, are the ones that we least want to.

Personal attacks are never really called for or constructive, just like your derision for the other other woman isn't really all that constructive, either. I kind of like that term, it puts things in perspective, and has a nice ring to it, "other other woman." Think about that for a bit maybe.

You say "the wife knew everything," I am still asking.... have you spoken directly with the wife, or are you taking a dishonest person for his word? This isn't me simply being mean, though I admit that I'm not a very nice person. It's an honest question, that will answer a lot.

I, for one, am not entirely crying foul to playing with a married man if his wife did, in fact know about it and gave the "relationship" her blessing. Given the history of dishonesty and the fact that the marriage fell apart in short order.... things don't quite add up for me. If you're content with 2 + 2 equaling 5 in your world, that's you're prerogative, I like living in a real world with hard facts.

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I'm sorry that i reached out in this community and i hope that those of you that are so self richeous and live in perfect lives ..never have something horrible done to you and if you do ... don't come here looking for help.

I was hurt two days ago posting this board because of my own situation.  Now i'm hurt for those people with such nasty fingers.  I hope you all find your happines.

Yup, my life is fabulous! I am happy and I rule! Go me! Can we get the machine cheerleading squad in here? Maybe some fanfare?

What do you want and what did you expect? You asked for advice, and you got it. It wasn't what you wanted to hear, so now you're going to cry about it? Alright, so some people were more tactful and/or polite than others, but the overall message is the same: Take the rose colored glasses off and actually look at things in a real light, with your own eyes.

As I have mentioned, I am not a nice person. If I really want to, I can dump a lot of sugar to make a pill easier to swallow. The way I see it though... we're all adults here, and I don't particularly feel the need to hold your hand. I'll kiss my neice's knee when she gets a boo boo, but a full grown adult should learn that when you fall, you stand up and keep walking, maybe make a pitstop at the first aid kit, but you keep walking! If it'll make you feel better I can get a hello kitty bandaid and a lolli pop for you.

Seriously, if you air your personal problems on a public forum, expect to hear it how it is. Or it least, how it sounds by your description of it. Thicker skin, let me show you it (sorry, having lolcat moment...).

So anyway, as I was toddling off to grab a tasty beverage, I had an insight. I have had plenty of horrible stuff happen to me, just like you, just like everyone else. I agree, it sucks. Being a big people means having big people problems that really can't be solved so well with a hello kitty bandaid and a lolli pop (as much as that idea might make me smile...). The difference is, and this is just my personal perspective here (cover ass statement, for the win!), I didn't look to anyone to help me. Sure, I talked to people, I asked for advice - but when it comes to help, well, that generally only comes to those that help themselves.

I think what really gets me, is that the impression that I get from you pretty such says to me  "waaa, it's all so unfair, I needed help and you were mean to me!" On top of that, you say that something horrible was done to you. Going back to my not being a very nice person, I have little patience for victims. I will qualify that statement by clarifying what I mean, in that I have no patience for people that protray themselves as passive players in their own dramas. You knew he was married, you smelled something fishy, and yet.... you chose to ignore it. That was your decision. Now, after all is said and done, you still give the impression of desperately looking for a reason to continue enabling this man to hurt you.

My heart really isn't one to bleed to begin with.  Sad stories of volunteers is like getting blood from a stone.

So, when all is said and done and the day is over, my life goes on. Does yours?

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia


Kind regards

A big, fat, vulgar, rough chick who's never been kissed.