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ultsub -> RE: male submission (11/3/2007 7:45:53 PM)
I've always looked at it as I'm strong enough to put myself aside and submit. It's a challenge to me to be strong enough to endure things that are typically not "pleasant" but are pleasing.

lateralist1 -> RE: male submission (11/4/2007 3:38:14 AM)
Thankyou I had worked out that some men see submission as a challenge. Lets face it it's not exactly difficult as a man in a male dominated world to dominate women. I just can't help dominating men. I've done the submissive bit I didn't like it one little bit.

lateralist1 -> RE: male submission (11/8/2007 8:03:52 AM)
Ok looks as if this thread has died a death which is a shame because it was really interesting to read what male subs think. It happens so rarely on these boards. If anyone else would like to comment then please do. If not then thankyou everyone who took part. You have really helped me to clarify what I am looking for. And that I have to go out and find him as I doubt he is going to have the sense to find me lol. Take care Beth

bipolarber -> RE: male submission (11/8/2007 8:44:18 AM)
Wow, an entire thread went by without either a flame war, or a hijack! (Where did we go wrong?) LOL

lateralist1 -> RE: male submission (11/8/2007 9:10:15 AM)
It's cause I'm such a nice Domme lol. Flames never really do any good except to allienate people from the only people that we have who can possibly understand us. Since I have been on this site I have watched so many people disintegrate before my eyes and eventually close their profiles down because of the heavey handedness of some people on these boards. I did say some. Not many but a significant number.I'm glad most of us can act decently towards others who may not quite see it our way.

ultsub -> RE: male submission (11/11/2007 4:51:18 PM)
I don't see submission as a weakness. It's a power exchange -- I'm strong, trusting and confident enough to give up any semblance of control that I ultimately have as I do have a free will. Submission for me is a challenge to push myself to endure that lack of control.

talltxsub -> RE: male submission (11/12/2007 10:36:53 AM)
I'm not sure how many strong women want a "wimp" for a submissive, but there are probably as many tastes as there are personalities.

Mezrem -> RE: male submission (11/12/2007 7:32:44 PM)
New to the boards but this looks like a good one to throw my two cents into. I have been in the lifestyle for about ten years now. In that ten years I have met some amazing people who have both taken me to task when I messed up... and showed me the right way things should be done. That said some of my best teachers where submissive men. I might have at one time lumped these people in the "wimp" group. Much like finding I am not alone in this thing we do, I am grateful to be shown the error of my ways.

lockmeupplease -> RE: male submission (11/12/2007 7:47:25 PM)
I see it as a strength. I actually considered myself weaker when I wasn't willing to admit that I really needed to submit. Now I am owned and feel much stronger becuase I was able to get over my own macho baloney that kept me from submitting years ago.

kineticsub -> RE: male submission (11/13/2007 3:37:16 PM)
Neither one, really. I don't see it as a strength or a weakness - it's just who I am. Thinking about it though, while it may not nessacarily a strength, I deifently wouldn't call it a weakness. The way I look at it is anything you're doing in your life that you actually learn something from makes you stronger.

danny193 -> RE: male submission (11/14/2007 9:44:11 AM)
I think my submissive tendencies have been both a great weakness and a great strength so far. By the term weakness I mean that through my submissive nature I have allowed people to exploit me without regard to myself personally, sexually or financially, and as such have felt worthless or humiliated. As for strength, when I have met the right dominant, I know that they appreciate my service and because of that they will care for me so that they don't lose me. :)

lateralist1 -> RE: male submission (11/14/2007 10:47:38 AM)
Ok Danny you have submissive tendencies and this has led you to feel worthless. So what you need is to either find a good Domme or a very very nice submissive woman. If you hook up with the wrong person those feelings of worthlessness could increase. I hope this post has allowed you to understand that you don't have to be weak to be submissive. It took me a great deal of effort to admit I was dominant but I have done it. I was weak and took the easy way out trying to be submissive. We are who we are. And really the only person who knows is you.

laurell3 -> RE: male submission (11/14/2007 10:50:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bipolarber Wow, an entire thread went by without either a flame war, or a hijack! (Where did we go wrong?) LOL (hijacks to talk about hijacking)

CollegeConundrum -> RE: male submission (11/14/2007 11:31:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lateralist1 I would like answers from male submissives only. Do you see submission as a weakness in yourself or a strength? Do you consider yourself a wimp? Thankyou in anticipation of your answers. No. No. Next?

lateralist1 -> RE: male submission (11/14/2007 12:32:50 PM)
How can no be an answer to either a weakness or a strength.? I presume you mean it's neither for you but you could have elaborated. There isn't a next. Ok I could get overly complicated but the questions were kept simple for a reason. I have been told so often by male submissives that they are not wimps but I have also been told by some that they have difficulty saying no to any women especially it seems ex partners. Which must cause them a problem forming a D/s relationship with one women. I am giving male submissives a chance to be completely honest about their submission. Unfortunately a person's perception can be coloured by other peoples' perceptions of their partner. And if women think they are only going to find wimpy submissive in the lifestyle then we are not going to get anymore women showing their dominant abilities. I think women cover up their dominant personalities because it's not really acceptable and a lot of men cover up their submissive personalities because that's seen as unacceptable. So if we can change the perceptions we might change the balance. Just a thought.

babyboyk -> RE: male submission (11/16/2007 8:31:25 AM)
i am who i am, and no-one can change that, lol. part of the make up of what i am, is that for one thing, i dislike being in charge of situations-i guess it takes strength to realise that- i guess why so many people end up out of their depths and struggle on blindly....

lateralist1 -> RE: male submission (11/16/2007 8:52:28 AM)
That sounds like most of my past managers lol. Struggling on blindly. Sometimes we are given authority and don't know what to do with it. Sometimes we seek it in vain. Now I may not appear very dominant because I'm friendly and nice. However I know quite a bit about helping people to change their mindset. Because that's often all it takes to change how they behave.

LadyRope -> RE: male submission (11/16/2007 9:25:51 AM)
Hello Lateralist; This is a wonderful thread you started,I enjoyed your answers as much as the male submissives...very enlightening and well done, thank you.

gregor2001us -> RE: male submission (11/16/2007 10:19:02 AM)
To answer Your questions, no i do not see my submissiveness as a weakness, nor do i think i am a wimp. I do not think strength or weekness or wimp are the correct words or standards to use to get att his, but then maybe i do not know what you are getting at really. I submit because i am compelled to do so by my nature. It is what feeds my kinkyness...and has been seemingly my core sexual desire form as far back as i can remember. Why i do not know. But i am also a confident person and in many areas of my life i am a leader. Physically strong, comfortable with who i am. So for me, i do not feel i am showing weakness by submitting, but rather i am being controled and by being controled i am sexually excited. That is as far as i have really gotten in understanding me. Cheers!

lateralist1 -> RE: male submission (11/16/2007 11:57:44 AM)
Thankyou LadyRope it is very kind of you to say so.

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