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lateralist1 -> RE: male submission (11/23/2007 9:29:58 AM)

Thankyou slavor.
Of course you want your partner to be safe.
However you may have tried something with one person and hated it and you may love it with the right partner.
Or even at a different time with the same partner.
The energy that is created in a D/s relationship varies tremendously.
Your Domme will sometimes create the right energy and sometimes she won't be able to depending on her cycle, biorythms and just everyday events as well as how you treat her and respond to her.



lateralist1 -> RE: male submission (11/23/2007 9:32:21 AM)

You have a great deal of maturity for one so young Einzelganger.



Slavor -> RE: male submission (11/23/2007 10:48:12 AM)

Nah , yea  she can , but if I will like her , I wont do to her bad things  and if yes , she can understand its personal life - real life , no D/s life ( if you ment these everyday events ) . If our relationship will be good and I think will be good , I am person who is good to woman , then I hope she will understand borders of safe and dangerous BDSM .



BayouSub -> RE: male submission (11/23/2007 2:24:15 PM)

quote:

Do you see submission as a weakness in yourself or a strength?
Do you consider yourself a wimp?


I am a man.  I happen to enjoy having a boss to obey and serve.  I like being controlled by a dominant.  I'm happy being a subordinate.  But otherwise, I am just an ordinary man.  My submission is neither a strength or weakness.  It's just something I enjoy. 

Do I consider myself a wimp?  No, submissive and wimp are not the same thing.   As I said above, I am an ordinary man who enjoys submitting to a dominant.  Many submissive men are very powerful in their vanilla lives.  Why do people connect submissive with wimp?




hands0n0knees -> RE: male submission (11/23/2007 4:39:49 PM)

I'm pleased to read of so many men feeling what I do believe to be genuine pride in their submission.

But try this thought experiment: if your work colleagues, friends, and family had to find out about your partiality for this lifestyle, would you prefer people to know that you were a sub or a dom?

I appreciate my implication perhaps says more about people's attitudes than about the reality of submission, but how endurant is that pride, exactly?



lateralist1 -> RE: male submission (11/24/2007 10:08:28 AM)

I agree BayouSub. The reason I asked the question is that I have been told by so many subs that they are not wimps.
As if I expected them to be.
From that I deduced that they think other male subs are.
Or that I assume that they are.
Which is totally wrong.
I try not to make asumptions about the nature of an individuals submissiveness.
Or about anything much really about people.
I just wish that people wouldn't make assumptions about my domination either.
Dommes are people as well lol.



lateralist1 -> RE: male submission (11/24/2007 10:26:39 AM)

That's a great question handsOnOknees.
I think you ought to post it and see what others think.
Obviously I would prefer them to know the truth.
That I am a Domme. Most people know. It's absolutely amazing how the grapevine works.
I get quite a mixed reaction from women.
Men tend to be less subtle.



Miss717 -> RE: male submission (12/23/2007 4:33:38 PM)

I find when a man truely submits...his real soul and who he craves to be he is in that moment....with very little ego...I enjoy watching my subs....i truely do...



petpete -> RE: male submission (12/23/2007 5:00:06 PM)

i think its something that gives me satisfaction to do. Its genetic and comes with my DNA. i would hate to be exposed with people that don't understand and have nothing to do with this lifestyle.. And i would strongly and fiercely be mad if some get the feeling that they may take advantage of my nature as a submissive. i would like to feel that my service is directed to a person that knows of me and who i am and that they tend to receive the same satisfaction but from the Dominants prospective...



cindyxdresser -> RE: male submission (1/5/2008 9:05:24 PM)

yes i am a wimp,a sissy,because i love being a submissive crossdresser



JBristol -> RE: male submission (1/6/2008 7:56:39 PM)

Excellent question Lateralist,
In every day life im  confident, and fairly outgoing, and have had lots of jobs with people working under/for me. But for a long time, (before i 'came out' if you like, into the scene) i did think there was something 'unmanly' (if that is a word!!) about my desires to submit.
I will never forget my first experience as a House slave at Club Pedestal (Femdom Club) which was the first time i had ever met other men that talked so openly and easily about their sub sides, and realised that there was nothing to be embarrased/ashamed of in following your heart. Yes i crave/enjoy humiliation, does that mean i have no respect for myself?  NO, NO, NO,   im following my heart and my path, and am now confident in my submission.
Is submission a weakness? Certainly not.
Is it a strength? im not sure i would class my self as being stronger because im a sub, though i do believe that learning how to deal with situations that im not particularly fond of without losing my head, or being forced to challenge/expand my limits in ways that i wouldnt naturally have tried, can surely be skills that can be very useful in everyday life. And once you realise that in life we all  sometimes have  to submit to the  trials and tribulations that beset us. Maybe, just maybe, we can manage to stay sane!!!!



egovillan -> RE: male submission (1/7/2008 12:55:19 AM)

I dont see the act of submission itself as being an example of strength or weakness, but how i display or who excatly you submit to. My biggest flaw in the past has been backing down or submitting to people whom i had little or no respect for or admired, i would open my door to salespeople, let myself being trapped into discussions of life with door-to-door mormons, and take shit from high school unfriendlies because i would think that i should be gratful that I had in fact recieved such company. That's weekness. No doubt about that about that. But since my last few years at school, i learned that i was in fact an intelligent, interesting individual who should be confident enough to choose his own identity in life and shouldn't have to be friends with those who don't respect me.

It took a a while, but now i've known for a while that being a submissive take strength, confidence and still requires the respect and love of the dominant. Only wish i knew that sooner, so i wouldnt be a dominant and would be what i would call a smart submissive.      



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