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MasterShibari -> Dance in BDSM (11/3/2007 5:32:03 PM)

Not too long ago, I was doing a slave training scene with a play partner of mine.  Rather randomly, an idea came upon me that deviated from the scene I had already constructed in my mind, and I ordered her to begin dancing.  She is a student of ballet, jazz, and modern dance (and I have taught her salsa), so she easily slipped into a rather entertaining and entirely seductive routine.  Drawing attention primarily to her hips and the curves of her body.

Dance is one of my passions in life, and it is something I have devoted myself to quite wholeheartedly.  I enjoy dancing to salsa, meringue, ballroom styles such as the waltz,  hip hop, raggaeton, swing, and even a little techno is I’m in the right mindset.  I’ve been classically trained in hip hop, salsa, and raggaeton, and have taken it so far as to professionally tour on a vaudeville show locally.  I would kill to learn tango, but have simply not had the time.

So, the question I am here to pose is this.  Has anyone else ever worked dance into a scene, and if so, how?  Or if not, how would you like to?  I am looking primarily for new ways to incorporate one of my passions in life, dance, with another of my passions, BDSM.  Stories, ideas, and fantasies are all welcomed from all perspectives.

Best wishes to you in your journey, wherever it ends up leading you.
M. Shibari




slaveofKaos -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/3/2007 6:04:09 PM)

I once had a Master who was in to humiliation, dancing is something I'm not very good at as I tend to be on the shy side and the only way I feel at all comfortable dancing is when I'm with a group of friends (meaning more than 3) and were all dancing together or with other people but near each other (I know I'm weird). Well my Master had me get out of bed and get the flogger. Once I handed it to him he told me to start dancing. I winced and started very slowly moving. All of a sudden I got hit with the flogger really hard, and he told me to dance and to make it look smooth and sexy. Well I tried my best, but anytime I was getting to shy and would slow down or it wasnt sexy or erotic enough I would get flogged. I was so humiliated, but by the end of it I was dancing and doing really well. Master was pleased to say the least and as much fun as I ended up having I still get very embarassed when I am made to dance but the flogger was a good motivational tool.




TNstepsout -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/3/2007 6:07:09 PM)

I took a little belly dance and once did a little dancing as part of a scene. I really wish I was better at it. I'm sure he liked it but ummm.... I probably looked pretty spastic.

On the other hand I'd love to teach a male sub to belly dance. That would be a scream. I know I'd feel much better about my skills.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/3/2007 6:11:02 PM)

Excellent question- except for having girls dance for their masters pleasure, either for aesthetic pleasure or like a stripper, or learn to dance to gain the knowledge of grace and body awareness, I have not known anyone specifically to have a scene through dance.  It's a beautiful idea though.




octavia -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/3/2007 6:15:20 PM)

That is a GREAT idea.  *drags someone to the computer to read the thread*

I dance pretty much whenever I hear music with a good rythm ( can't spell that word!) I have danced off and on for over ten years and love it.  One of the things that draws me to belly dance is the decidedly submissive feel to it.  I will be watching this thread attentively...

[:D]
oct




xoxi -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/3/2007 6:18:11 PM)

ooooh...I would absolutely love to dance for my Master.  I'm not a trained dancer or anything but I just want to move my hips and slide up against his body.

Excellent idea [:)]




DollMaster72 -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/3/2007 6:29:43 PM)

*drags someone back to the kitchen to fix dinner*  in fact when we were taking the corset pictures she has on her page,  she did some nice dancing.  She says she cant dance well in the corset, well yah it is constricting so maybe not all the shake of a belly dance.  It was still really hot, and you could see the differences in the poses and the pictures.
DM


quote:

ORIGINAL: octavia

That is a GREAT idea.  *drags someone to the computer to read the thread*

I dance pretty much whenever I hear music with a good rythm ( can't spell that word!) I have danced off and on for over ten years and love it.  One of the things that draws me to belly dance is the decidedly submissive feel to it.  I will be watching this thread attentively...

[:D]
oct




Gwynvyd -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/3/2007 6:35:34 PM)

I have danced both as a sub.. ( beldi dancing ) and as a Domme. I took dance for years... Jazz, Salsa, Ballroom... I love it all.

I once took a sub of mine.. and strapped him down to a chair... the candles were lit, music was down low... I had a sexy outfit on... I slowly danced around the room, singing to the song. I slowly did a strip tease.. removing my clothing down to the matching panties and bustier... I straddled his lap.. still dancing a bit and moving to the music... his hands are cuffed to the sides of the chair.. he could not touch me at all. In all of the movements and dancing I ended up masterbating myself to a screaming orgasim on his lap.. with him being unable to do a thing.
It was highly erotic... and when I set him free and gave him full liberty... *Big Smiles*

Gwyn,
Who still loves that dance scene in True Lies
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LInnwrSGLJU

You can thank me later...





ownedgirlie -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/3/2007 6:42:52 PM)

I dance for him fairly regularly.  Such dances typically include the use of toys - various dildos and the like, and he will often take a flogger or crop to me as I do.  He takes pictures and video of these dances, as well.

I have taken belly dancing classes.  While I don't call myself a bellydance by any means, I have been able to incporporate some of the hip movements into these dances, which he finds rather enjoyable.




DollMaster72 -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/3/2007 6:52:43 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Gwynvyd

I have danced both as a sub.. ( beldi dancing ) and as a Domme. I took dance for years... Jazz, Salsa, Ballroom... I love it all.

I once took a sub of mine.. and strapped him down to a chair... the candles were lit, music was down low... I had a sexy outfit on... I slowly danced around the room, singing to the song. I slowly did a strip tease.. removing my clothing down to the matching panties and bustier... I straddled his lap.. still dancing a bit and moving to the music... his hands are cuffed to the sides of the chair.. he could not touch me at all. In all of the movements and dancing I ended up masterbating myself to a screaming orgasim on his lap.. with him being unable to do a thing.
It was highly erotic... and when I set him free and gave him full liberty... *Big Smiles*

Gwyn,
Who still loves that dance scene in True Lies
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LInnwrSGLJU

You can thank me later...




Stop giving my girl ideas, she is feeling rather toppy tonight, leaned over my shoulder while reading your post and goes "mmmmmmm" in my ear.   I think I need to stand her in the corner for a few minutes.  Though it does sound really hot. 
Im a white boy and might need a transfusion to get some rythm but I would love to do something like that myself.




octavia -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/3/2007 7:03:22 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DollMaster72




Stop giving my girl ideas, she is feeling rather toppy tonight, leaned over my shoulder while reading your post and goes "mmmmmmm" in my ear.   I think I need to stand her in the corner for a few minutes.  Though it does sound really hot. 
Im a white boy and might need a transfusion to get some rythm but I would love to do something like that myself.


Perhaps you have confused bratty for toppy.  [8D]

note:  Of course no actual disrespect was intended during the making of this post.  




MasterShibari -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/4/2007 10:33:53 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DollMaster72

Im a white boy and might need a transfusion to get some rythm but I would love to do something like that myself.


I'm a white boy and I look damn good on the dance floor if I say so myself.  Thats a stereotype, and one that is pretty easily overcome.

I really like the idea of using it as a form of humiliation with someone who doesn't know how to dance.  Especially because, even as it is humiliating, in the long run it is good for their self confidence.  It takes a lot of confidence to be able to dance by yourself, its even harder to do so with no music playing.  Though you may have been humilaited at first, you said yourself you were a much better dancer by the end of it.  You may have been embarassed, but your strength grew at the same time.

M. Shibari




sexyred1 -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/4/2007 10:36:47 AM)

I love to dance, I am pretty good at it. I have danced for someone before a scene, it was quite fun.




bipolarber -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/4/2007 10:47:11 AM)

Incorperating dance into a scene is a great idea. I've never had the chance to do so before with any of the people I've played with, but I do remember a couple several years back who were regulars at a party we had in our city. She was ballet trained, and he was... appreciative. Just watching her move was a treat...

Ever watch the cult TV series "Firefly?" The girl who played River, (Summer Glau) moved like that a lot. Her Dom was a foot fetishist, and he was... really pleased with her, to say the least.




YesMistressIrish -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/4/2007 10:59:42 AM)

I have been a dancer since I was knee-high to a grasshopper. This subject has been on my mind for the last couple of weeks. When I have a new sub over, that is one of the ways I have them 'present' themselves to me. I pick out music for them, and have it on when they show at my front door. Then I suggest what I want to see, and have them slowly strip a little, not necessarily all the way.
 
I also have a dom/sub couple. We went out to dinner at a Greek restaurant a few days ago. They had a belly dancer and I had the sub join me on the dance floor. Three woman dancing sensuously together. The Belly dancer got the biggest grin on her face.
 
Dancing is one of the most erotic activities on the planet.
 
I had a first meet with a couple and a male slave at one of the best dance places here in town. Within 2 minutes of arriving, I had all of us on the floor dancing together to hot bluzy-jazz. It was a wonderful way to connect/Domme/inspect... without saying one word. 
 
I am having a sub take belly dancing classes with me. We are doing it at their house while the hubby is all tied up shibari style to bamboo and 'forced' to watch us. We have bare feet and he is a foot fetishist, so we all have a delicious time. I 'punish' him if he begins to 'enjoy' it too much and since he is a pain slut, and hits subspace while bound, then hits heaven while receiving certain types of pain. I digress...
 
Dancing is a beautiful expression of what lies inside of us. As a domme, guiding my sub friends to release all that energy is a spiritual experience for me. The exercise doesn't hurt either!
 
Music is a dynamite way to get to what lies inside, dancing to it is the release.......
 
Irish
ps: There is a new world wide dance craze going on in most major cities. It is fantastic! There is one place here every Sunday morning. You step up to the table near the front door, pay for your dance ticket, then never speak another word. You dance for about 3 hrs to a dj who picks out every kind of music you can imagine. This is done to take you up slowly at first, then faster, slower, faster, etc. You can wear whatever you like, dance with anyone, or by yourself. I plan to take subs and take scarves to tie with, even a waist 'collar' and leather leashes.  It cuts through all the social bullshit layers, and gets you in a great headspace. It is incredibly stimulating, and you feel totally relaxed at the end. I have done this with up to 200 people. Amazing experience!
http://www.movingarts.net/
http://www.waywebby.com/dancejam/
http://www.nurturedance.org/




thetragics -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/4/2007 11:20:58 AM)

I enjoy dancing while I flog.  I have always loved music and dance (not trained at all) and the music I choose to flog to always has a dark and hard beat to it that I love, ssssoooo I usually incorporate my own dancing into my flogging routines.  That way I get to merge 3 of my favorite things together, music, dance and flogging.  Never had much of an interest in having a sub dance for me, just doesn't do it for me.




hisannabelle -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/4/2007 11:31:07 AM)

greetings master shibari,

i have danced for several years (ballet, pointe, jazz, lyrical, hip hop, a bit of modern and bellydance). i had to mostly stop dancing due to health issues, but every now and then i will take a beginning ballet class or something just for fun. he is always trying to get me to dance for him but it makes me really nervous and i get extremely shy...which is odd, i guess, because i'm not shy at all performing in front of judges or crowds. he's never actually ordered me to do it...i guess because he knows it's something very personal for me...but it has definitely been on my mind especially for the last several months. i am working on overcoming my shyness so that i can feel more comfortable doing it during our play :) as for how to work it in...we don't really have structured scenes, as such, and we sort of just do what moves us, so finding a place to work it in would not be too difficult.

respectfully,
annabelle.




YesMistressIrish -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/4/2007 11:47:46 AM)

[:D] I remembered something else: A first date with a new sub. He had never been to a strip club in his life ao after dinner we got in the car I told him to drive us there. The dancers were great. Only one or two sets of fake boobs in the place, so all the women lookd very natural. One was obviously Irish with long red naturally curly hair, a little chubby butt, and freckles. She was a natural dancer and sweetly provocative. I knew she was the one to do a lap dance for me. For my sub: I picked out the one that he was drooling over, also very natural and sensuous.
 
When my Irish lady came over during break and asked if I would like a lap dance I told her I had been looking for her, as she was My pick. She got all excited saying I was the forst woamn to ver say yes in the year and a half that she had been dancing. She also said usually there was a 'no-hands' policy, but I was granted carte blanche with her! [8D] 
I had my sub sitting right next to me (unable to do a thing but watch) and my Irish dancer and I were moving together. Yum! The bouncer walked behind us several times, and I finally gave her a head's up that he and the manager were lurking. Then I got the other dancer to give my sub a lap dance. he was stiff as a board the whole time, arms at his sides, his eyes were like saucers. The combination of a little public humiliation, all the eye candy, the excitement, the danger (bad part of town); added up to a delicious 4 hr date. 
 
I plan to do this again. One sub has been given a 'head's up' and is NOT looking forward to it! [;)] He will have a wonderful time, but he doesn't know that yet.
 
[:D]
 
 
 




MasterShibari -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/4/2007 3:07:26 PM)

Thank you Irish for all the wonderful ideas and stories.

I'd also love it if people would list the music that they used.  When I was doing the scene, there was no music, she was dancing to her own rythem.  However, I know I will recreate scenes like this in the future and I would greatly enjoy hearing people's views on good styles of music to play.  Obviously R&B and bellydancing music is a good choice but I would like to hear other's ideas.




MidMichCowboy -> RE: Dance in BDSM (11/4/2007 3:58:41 PM)

Several years ago, I was dating this lady. We had discussed my "proclivities". She invited me over one night, cooked me a lovely meal with some great wine and asked me to have a seat in the living room. Candles and middle eastern music (she was a middle eastern dancer) and suddenly she walked in (in time with dramatic moment in music of course). She began a slow sensuous dance that was wonderful to watch. Suddenly at a crescendo finish, she dropped to her knees, bowed her head and asked for the privilege of submitting to me. It took my breath away. We were inseparable until she had to return down south for family obligations. Its still the most memorable submission in my life.




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