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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/18/2007 12:18:13 AM   
Aimtoplease101


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That's a road to ruin that I'd classify more as a denial technique, such as application of a large ice pack.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/18/2007 12:20:22 AM   
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I will share anything I find out about that.  


We're all looking forward to reading about your findings.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/25/2007 6:27:49 PM   
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Well, I tried the ruined orgasm method about a day or two after I last posted. I had my pet in the smother box, tied up and using his tongue while I teased him with my feet. As he started to orgasm, I cupped my hand hard over the head of his cock. It worked - sort of. I was able to contain the beginning of his ejaculation, but I underestimated the force of - how to say this? - the "spew." As the force from the buildup increased, it got past my hand and it shot from underneath my hand and landed on the carpet about a foot to the left. I asked my pet if any aspect of the orgasm was ruined, he indicated it was somewhat ruined.

We will have to try, and try, and try again.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/25/2007 6:29:56 PM   
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Now I also like that icepack trick. Thanks.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/25/2007 6:34:23 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

I'd say they're taking the long road around to ruin things. With most guy, all you have to do is mention their parents having sex and down it goes.

Master Fire




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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/25/2007 6:38:55 PM   
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Ms. Mlicious should be careful trying to cap this volcano.  She is likely to end up with a hole blown right through her hand.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/25/2007 6:41:59 PM   
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This is probably going to be very obvious, but I cannot work out what T&D stands for, please enlighten me.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/25/2007 6:43:11 PM   
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GMTA! I just posted about this. My sub claims to be satisfied after a good dribble. Sometimes, though, I'm not. I wonder if it's possible for a male to combine teasing and denial with a nice, explosive orgasm?

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/25/2007 6:47:25 PM   
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Simply, at orgasm FIRMLY pinch the very end of his cock and hold very tightly, but be careful you might blow his balls off.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/25/2007 6:49:53 PM   
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ShellyD, T and D is Tease and Denial.   Now someone tell me what GMTA stands for, please.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/25/2007 7:13:45 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal

ShellyD, T and D is Tease and Denial.   Now someone tell me what GMTA stands for, please.


Giggling My Tail Off?
Greater Minneapolis Transit Authority?
Greenwich Mean Time Approximate?
Give Me Teasing Anytime?

I'm stumped. Anyway, slavekal, whatever it means, I think you are one lucky guy to belong to Mlicious. She's to die for (figuratively speaking, I think). I wish Michigan was closer to Boston.


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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/25/2007 7:26:46 PM   
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She is.  Really, in every respect, she is everything a woman should be.  She is a quality person as well as being a wonderful domina.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/25/2007 11:02:33 PM   
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You know what they say about falling off the horse-  get back on and apply the whip!  We look forward to the continued adventures of Mistress Mlcious ...

Thanks, ATP

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/26/2007 7:44:08 AM   
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I'm with ATP on this one! Please keep us updated on your "experiments", Ms. Mlicious and slavekal!

Also, thanks slavekal for your reply to my earlier post. Everything I've seen re. Ms. Mlicious leads me to believe that she's exactly as you say. I love reading her remarks in the forums; her approach to femdom hits the target right in the bullseye, IMO.

Getting back to "ruined orgasms", I think one of the best ways to do it is the simple technique of stopping stimulation after the "point of no return" has been reached. Continued stimulation after the point of "ejaculatory inevitability" contributes greatly to the explosiveness and enjoyment of the orgasm, in my experience. Stopping stimulation after that point, but before ejaculation, results in a severely diminished orgasm. Not a terrible sensation, but pretty disappointing because it's not nearly what I was hoping for.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/27/2007 12:02:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: slavekal Now someone tell me what GMTA stands for, please.


Great minds think alike.

:)

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/27/2007 12:12:31 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mlicious
Well, I tried the ruined orgasm method about a day or two after I last posted. I had my pet in the smother box, tied up and using his tongue while I teased him with my feet. As he started to orgasm, I cupped my hand hard over the head of his cock. It worked - sort of. I was able to contain the beginning of his ejaculation, but I underestimated the force of - how to say this? - the "spew." As the force from the buildup increased, it got past my hand and it shot from underneath my hand and landed on the carpet about a foot to the left. I asked my pet if any aspect of the orgasm was ruined, he indicated it was somewhat ruined.

We will have to try, and try, and try again.

The method isn't so much to try and stop the flow of ejaculate by closing things off, but rather by the cessation of stimulation thereby building up to the point 'of no return' then stopping the stimulation and greatly reducing the amount of pleasure he's getting (although my boy says he doesn't derive any pleasure from it at all.) Creating some form of back-flow (if even possible) is not diminishing the pleasure derived but theoretically the amount of ejaculate deposited. As this is merely an aesthetic issue doesnt do anything about the physical pleasure he is or isn't getting.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/27/2007 3:02:16 PM   
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quote:

slavekal wrote: Now someone tell me what GMTA stands for, please.
Imajican wrote: Great minds think alike.

Wow, everyone wants to know.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/27/2007 5:31:04 PM   
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Lol--I had been following this thread and today managed to ruin MY OWN orgasm.  I will give details in my journal later this evening.  Briefly, my Miss had told me I could cum but that I had to make the process last at least an hour.  After an hour of edging, I inserted a vibrator in my rectum and after a minute of it hitting my prostate, I began to squirt without touching my cock.  It really sucked and did little to relieve the tension of a week of chastity. 

I now see why it can be an effective addition to chastity or tease-denial play.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/27/2007 6:10:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: beeble
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slavekal wrote: Now someone tell me what GMTA stands for, please.
Imajican wrote: Great minds think alike.

Wow, everyone wants to know.


Tis easy when it's the sharing of one really great mind, baby.

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RE: Ruined orgasms - 11/27/2007 7:03:14 PM   
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My Mistress will frequently ruin my orgasms. We've learned a lot about how to effectively do this, and what sort of effect it has on us afterwards. I thought I'd share what we've learned with you, as you may find this helpful.

A properly ruined orgasm is a climax wherein the male reaches the point of no return, and then all stimulation is immediately removed. This requires a bit of timing and some practice.  Stop too soon, and you may get a small dribble of semen, but the male will often still retain his sex drive and be able to climax afterwards. Wait too long, and he will get some satisfaction out of the deal. Timing, as they say, is everything.

Mistress has worked on me long enough that she now knows just the right time to stop stroking me. This process usually involves me tied very tightly down to the bed or some other piece of furniture. She will often tease me for a bit before going to the final act. Other times, she just dives in and goes all the way to the end as fast as possible.

One thing she always makes sure of, is that I don't know which it will be; a good cum, or a ruined orgasm.

As for the deed itself, it's quite an experience. When that moment is there, and you feel the oncoming orgasm reach its peak, it's like that moment on a roller coaster where you just crested that big hill, and the rush down the other side with all it's excitement is right in front of you.

Now imagine the coaster stopping as the track flattens out and someone tells you to step out of the car onto the walkway, as the ride is over. That's as close as I can describe it, and it doesn't even begin to actually describe the deed fully.

It's pretty horrible when it happens. Mistress makes sure I cannot rub my cock on anything to get the desperately needed stimulation. My cock will spurt impotently into or onto whatever she chooses, as I struggle to get some stimulation.

Afterwards, I find it leaves me in a very deep submissive zone. Admittedly, this is after a desperate and often angry moment when I wish I could 'take matters into my own hands'.

I love her having this sort of control over me. Not only does she control when and how I orgasm, she controls if I orgasm. It's a really great thing for her. She loves it. There are times I may wish otherwise, but I'm very glad to have given her such a level of control.

Why do we do this? Well for me, it has a lot to do with the T & D aspects, only taking it further. It's the ultimate form of denial, as afterwards I cannot cum, even if Mistress allows me to masturbate. My seed has already been spent. She has taken my ability to cum from me. She's literally stolen my orgasm. So it also connects to my biggest fetish; restriction and bondage. I am very turned on when Mistress restricts my movement with bondage, and this is an extension of that. She's bound my orgasm, and taken it from me.

As for her, she says it's a really powerful feeling that she can do something to me that feels really terrific or really awful, and I "allow" her to do this willingly. She likes the power to give it or take it as she sees fit.

-rook

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