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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/18/2007 7:59:57 PM

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One was because it was a poor match to begin with and I'd made a mistake to think I could make it work. Another was because we'd simply outgrown the relationship. Another was because I realized I'd given the collar too early and we both needed more time. These things happen for a variety of reasons.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/18/2007 8:11:08 PM

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Not to derail the thread, but yup yup yup I agree. I had this talk with Daddy a while ago, cause he thought me asking for things during play was topping from the bottom and I said nope as long as I ask in a non demanding way it's not topping from the bottom.

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Not saying this to you personally, MissMagnolia, but just making a point: You said he "asked." Asking and "demanding" are waaaaaayyy different things. Asking doesn't have to involve "whinging" or "whining" either for that matter. Asking is permissible in our home. Demanding and whining are not. Big difference............luci

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/18/2007 9:12:55 PM

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Not to derail the thread, but yup yup yup I agree. I had this talk with Daddy a while ago, cause he thought me asking for things during play was topping from the bottom and I said nope as long as I ask in a non demanding way it's not topping from the bottom.

Asking during play? Outside of scene related events/requests what would you ask for during play that you could not ask for outside of play? If its something you could ask for this thing in the cold light of day and you are waiting for a scene to pop the question, then I would consider that topping from the bottom. If its something like omg if he just moves an inch to the right thats really gonna hit my g-spot then "could you please move an inch to the right" well that's just normal.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/19/2007 4:04:24 AM

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adora, as long as you're BOTH whinging about the same thing, it's OK.

yay! thank you muches!

between bad work schedules and the school district SUCKING in letting the yardapes out for three days this week, its looking might near impossible till december. bleh!

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/19/2007 8:03:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss
Not to derail the thread, but yup yup yup I agree. I had this talk with Daddy a while ago, cause he thought me asking for things during play was topping from the bottom and I said nope as long as I ask in a non demanding way it's not topping from the bottom

People have varied opinions on what "topping" is, of course, but Master doesn't think asking is topping. Here's a couple links to old posts where I've explained how it works for us:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1303769/mpage_1/key_topping/tm.htm#1303857

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1255924/mpage_1/key_topping/tm.htm#1255959

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/19/2007 8:36:08 PM

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I have deal breakers.

I make them all very clear.

One time-gone-no second chances.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/20/2007 12:20:48 AM

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yup, he'd have just spanked me really hard and I'd ask him to run the little back massager over my skin, cause it's whicked tickly after the butts been spanked, I would politely say Daddy would you run car car over my butt?* car car is what we call it cause it looks like a car to me* Or I'd say Can we use the bunny fur flogger all things one could ask for in the light of day as well as a scene, now I didn't say please no, because I don't usualy but he usualy understands it's a request, and not a demand, so I dunno why he came up with it's topping from the bottom. But we worked it out:)

Edited to add we do sensation play just for the joy of it, in and out of scenes.

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Asking during play? Outside of scene related events/requests what would you ask for during play that you could not ask for outside of play? If its something you could ask for this thing in the cold light of day and you are waiting for a scene to pop the question, then I would consider that topping from the bottom. If its something like omg if he just moves an inch to the right thats really gonna hit my g-spot then "could you please move an inch to the right" well that's just normal.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/20/2007 11:46:07 AM

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Is it bcos you can't feel the attraction anymore? or is it bcos she did something wrong to you or your relationship?

There can be infinite amount of reasons for a release.

But you are making it sound in your question like the first and the second reason are entirely distinct and separate. A repeat pattern of inappropriate and incorrigible behavior will inadvertently lead to a loss of attraction.

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/20/2007 7:34:38 PM

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it was because she misspelled the word "because"

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RE: what made you to release your sub/slave? - 11/20/2007 8:25:29 PM

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Sometimes life just gets in the way.Things like distance,work,family and all the other things in day to day life.I wasnt released for anything i did or failed to do.We just didnt have enough time together to make it work.He happend to meet someone really great closer to him who has a lot more to offer.It really sucks but thats just the way it goes sometimes.

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