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Would you believe? - 11/25/2007 8:58:34 PM   
naturalsubwoman


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Status: offline 		Would you believe your daddy/dom if you found out he had profiles list on plentyoffish,and here on this site,and he says he posts for friends,but the profiles are for long term.....
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RE: Would you believe? - 11/25/2007 9:06:53 PM   
kittyinpink


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Status: offline 		I'm not a master, but in my own experience my ex had a pay profile and never bothered to cancel it.  I just assumed he didn't care... but when we broke up I went and looked at it and he had been updating and obviously using it while we were dating.  I feel like when you've made a commitment to someone you need to either delete your online profile, or edit it to let people know the searching light is off.  If not, he's probably just lining up someone in case you don't workout or he gets tired of you.


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RE: Would you believe? - 11/25/2007 9:10:28 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Have you asked him about them?...or are you just stewing in your own assumptions?....its all about communication...so communicate..as a side note however..how did you find out about his other profiles?...Tempting

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/25/2007 9:19:13 PM   
naturalsubwoman


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Status: offline 		He told me he was still on plentyoffish to talk to friends,and when he opened his gmail in front of me and I saw a plentyoffish style named email,which he said was nothing,I looked on plentyoffish and saw his profile.  I came to this site today to make friends and learn what I can,and I looked and saw him here too....

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/25/2007 9:25:03 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		ok...are you just going to remain naive, or realize your eyes have told you the truth.

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/25/2007 9:27:13 PM   
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RE: Would you believe? - 11/25/2007 9:31:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		There are ways to find out what he's doing.  It wouldn't be the most honest thing to do.  But it would probably answer your questions.

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/25/2007 9:33:15 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		If you have to start playing CSI and stalking the guy I would suggest to you that you should reexamine the relationship and your place in it.

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/25/2007 10:25:05 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		Is this post about the same guy as your other posts? Someone is in denial big time.

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/26/2007 7:51:30 AM   
SimplyMichael


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RE: Would you believe? - 11/26/2007 8:42:12 AM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: naturalsubwoman

Would you believe your daddy/dom if you found out he had profiles list on plentyoffish,and here on this site,and he says he posts for friends,but the profiles are for long term.....

Sure. Just because he may have profiles up on sites means only that he has profiles up on sites. Big deal

/shrug

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/26/2007 8:52:39 AM   
TwiztdErotic


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Status: offline 		simple problem, simple solution. I believe a keylogger may be what you need. it's not exactly honest, but it seems he's not exactly being honest either. If you'd like one, I can set you up.

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/26/2007 10:02:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TwiztdErotic

simple problem, simple solution. I believe a keylogger may be what you need. it's not exactly honest, but it seems he's not exactly being honest either. If you'd like one, I can set you up.

WoW....what a man

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/26/2007 10:50:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TwiztdErotic

simple problem, simple solution. I believe a keylogger may be what you need. it's not exactly honest, but it seems he's not exactly being honest either. If you'd like one, I can set you up.


Hey....WOW!

Friggin amazing!

Instead of...I don't know...advicing her to sit down and confront the dominant with these inconsistencies in an open and honest manner...the best advice apparently is for her to use dishonest and distrusting tactics to gain information.

As we all know the best way to make things better when you have the minor assumption that your partner is being dishonest is to be dishonest yourself.

I'm sure it will patch everything up and not create an even bigger rift of insecurity and mistrust as a result of her deceitful spying techinques over something that is very minor.

Aren't you that guy with the trainwreck relationship over in that 7am thread?


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RE: Would you believe? - 11/26/2007 10:54:29 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: naturalsubwoman

Would you believe your daddy/dom if you found out he had profiles list on plentyoffish,and here on this site,and he says he posts for friends,but the profiles are for long term.....


I'd sit down with him, talk about it, tell him I'm uncomfortable with him having profiles that he says are looking for friends but clearly say something different. Awhile later, I might check them again to see if they had been changed back.

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/26/2007 12:01:00 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		The problem isn't whether or not he's lying, the problem is he's already lost your trust. If you don't trust him, then it doesn't matter if he's cheating or not because you won't believe him either way. Next time get to know the person beforehand and judge their intents by their actions. And discuss ahead of time what you need in a relationship, what you  both need, and then decide on compatibility.

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/26/2007 12:04:42 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Keylogger!  The gift for those who need to know...

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/26/2007 12:06:42 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

quote:

ORIGINAL: TwiztdErotic

simple problem, simple solution. I believe a keylogger may be what you need. it's not exactly honest, but it seems he's not exactly being honest either. If you'd like one, I can set you up.


Hey....WOW!

Friggin amazing!

Instead of...I don't know...advicing her to sit down and confront the dominant with these inconsistencies in an open and honest manner...the best advice apparently is for her to use dishonest and distrusting tactics to gain information.

As we all know the best way to make things better when you have the minor assumption that your partner is being dishonest is to be dishonest yourself.

I'm sure it will patch everything up and not create an even bigger rift of insecurity and mistrust as a result of her deceitful spying techinques over something that is very minor.

Aren't you that guy with the trainwreck relationship over in that 7am thread?


MR....don't you know....that's how a MAN handles these kinds of things

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/26/2007 12:09:28 PM   
denouement


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Status: offline 		I think if it comes to the point of needing a Keylogger, the relationship is already dead.

If you're right in your suspicions, it's over.

If you're wrong and he finds out you've been monitoring him, it's over.

Trust your gut and have an adult conversation.

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RE: Would you believe? - 11/26/2007 12:27:59 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		I think people who use keyloggers need to have their asses whipped...

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