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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/1/2008 7:09:05 PM

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/1/2008 7:25:35 PM

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.......i have said before in a thread, but compelled to say it agian. my twin sister has spina bifida, so many imperfections. i tried to save her heart so many times from guys that looked at her as a freak. making fun of her, bringing her to feel no one will love her. she is paralised in bowels and bladder. so she wears a eliostomy and keliostomy bags. the man she is about to marry, *smiles real big*...tells her scars and imperfections are her beauty marks...beauty lies in the beholder, its a shame that the one who holds it doesnt see the beauty...

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/1/2008 7:26:50 PM

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I usually don't care what my body looks like.. Yes there are things I would love to change about it... ( the baby fat from having two kids that never seems to go away and makes me look like I am pregnant again.... drives me nuts) But I guess the way I feel about it is this: If they don't like the way I look then fuck them and feed them fish!!! Just means they can't/won't be able to understand what kind of person I am.. if all that matters is looks!! There are things about me I absolutley love ... ( my eyes, my hair, my brain, and my legs!!) But if the sight of me makes someone want to hurl.. then I guess it was just not meant to be! It might hurt my feelings for a milli-second, but oh well. I am happy with myself and that is all that matters...

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/1/2008 7:40:09 PM

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I usually don't care what my body looks like.. Yes there are things I would love to change about it... ( the baby fat from having two kids that never seems to go away and makes me look like I am pregnant again.... drives me nuts) But I guess the way I feel about it is this: If they don't like the way I look then fuck them and feed them fish!!! Just means they can't/won't be able to understand what kind of person I am.. if all that matters is looks!! There are things about me I absolutley love ... ( my eyes, my hair, my brain, and my legs!!) But if the sight of me makes someone want to hurl.. then I guess it was just not meant to be! It might hurt my feelings for a milli-second, but oh well. I am happy with myself and that is all that matters...

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/1/2008 9:43:17 PM

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lol ... yeah .... is that why I am SOOOOOOOOO loved or is it the boobs LoL ...

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/2/2008 6:37:57 PM

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Sometimes I'm insecure about my body. But I really try not to be.

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/5/2008 1:55:23 AM

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Oh, the gauntlet of body image issues.

I'm covered in stretch marks. They're old, from when I was roughly 11 and grew very rapidly, and blend in to my skin, but in the right light, you can see them. Silver stripes, across my hips, my thighs, my ass. I call them tiger stripes, and I adore them. It's like a bad ass tattoo, a metallic one at that.

Not everyone has felt the same way.

I'm 6'2, and 140lbs on a good day, and I have had lovers turn from me in disgust. Stretch marks. Translucent skin. Bones. As a teenager, I was even thinner than I am now: at one point, I was 6'2 and roughly 110lbs, after a bout of illness. My lover turned away from me, saddened, and told me he just couldn't get aroused because of how skinny I was. I've had people turn me down (normally, it's men), because my height turns them off. I've been told, harshly, that I need to go eat something, that I looked like I came out of a concentration camp.

And what I have to say to that is: bullshit.

There will always be people who will find faults. Let them. And grow from them. One of the most painful things was the look in my lover's eyes, when he told me he just couldn't become aroused because my body sickened him. It made me angry, but it honestly wasn't his fault -- he still cared for me, still held me and hugged me, but just wasn't attracted to me anymore. It was his loss. I left him, and found another lover who could appreciate my body, who could see past the spine and the knobby wrists and the hollow cheekbones, and they were there when I became healthy again.

I get knocked down all the time, but whatever. It's MY body, and if you don't like it, well, don't look then. ;)

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/5/2008 4:17:20 AM

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good question, i myself lost half of the top of my breast 12 months ago. So i have one nipple only at this point in time, the other breast is flat as your hand on top with a huge scar across the top of it, how does it make me feel ?? well honestly , like im half a woman, do i rush to tell anyone ? "NO"
it is something i am incredibly self conscious about, and will be for another year until i come up the list for re constructive surgery. i am a slim woman, and always looked after my looks and have no intention of growing old gracefully, so i assume that makes it even harder.

i have just started communication with a Master who i seem very compatible with, and we are both excited and will meet each other Real life in the next few weeks, that is why this post really caught my eye. Funny enough he knows so muh about me emotionally already, but i have yet to mention this. i do think after going through this that women are very harde on there bodys. i used to knock my breasts for being too large to stand up straight, now i would do anything just to have them back the way they were a year ago ....

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ps i hope you can uderstand me not wanting to sign my name , i am a memeber of CM btw

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/5/2008 10:35:20 AM

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My wife was 37 when she lost both breasts to cancer. She had reconstruction surgery but that was for her to be comfortable in clothes. Naked, you wouldn't fool anybody. She's 59 now, we'll be married 27 years in Oct. It's never made a difference in our relationship.

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/6/2008 6:05:33 AM

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I think men are far more forgiving of imperfections that you mention than we give them credit for if they are in love with the woman, and frankly I would not want to be with a man that was shallow enough to reject me for scars that I could not help having. I have some stretch marks that I used to be sensitive about after the birth of my son, Im not so much caring anymore. I do not feel self conscious over any of my body parts. I did let my Daddy know what I felt could be better about my body though.

I call the stretch marks in my girl her tiger claw tattoos. At least that's what they look like to me - they're gorgeous. And I find them much more meaningful than any other tattoos she could have (and one day might have) as they are there as a reminder of her son, who is so dear to both of us.

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/12/2008 3:56:37 PM

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I call the stretch marks in my girl her tiger claw tattoos. At least that's what they look like to me - they're gorgeous. And I find them much more meaningful than any other tattoos she could have (and one day might have) as they are there as a reminder of her son, who is so dear to both of us.

HELL YES! I call mine my tiger stripes! And to connect them with growth, and the bringing of life -- beautiful! Mine didn't come from giving birth, but from growing myself, but stretch marks from giving birth are all the MORE beautiful.

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/15/2008 5:48:03 AM

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Perception is a strange bedfellow. I had an idea when I started of what type of guy I would be attracted to. I had no idea at the time just how intense the Master/slave bond can be. What I soon learned is that ""Master" becomes the gold standard by all other men are judged. My Daniel is very large and highly intellegent. After being happily enslaved heart and soul, I took an inventory of the rest of the world of men and found to my surprise that they had shrunk to meager proportions.

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/16/2008 5:04:36 AM

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beauty is in the eye of the beholder

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/16/2008 7:31:09 AM

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In High School I was always a size 8. It used to drive me NUTS because the super 'pretty' girls all the boys would rave about were smaller than me. I wasn't fat to any degree but I have these 'soccer player' legs that are all muscle, hips meant to carry kids, and a heart shaped face. I would beat myself up over it. And now.... I would die a happy woman to be a size 8 again!! Two kids and hypertension later, I'm bigger, 'softer', and have stretch marks. I see women who are larger than me walk around confidently in skin tight clothes and I envy their confidence. Sometimes I like how I look, sometimes I don't at all. I see all my imperfections as though they were in neon lights. I know it's all mental, I just haven't found a way to totally get past it. (Off topic, I would LOVE to see those sexy little bras and panties in something bigger than a B or C cup size- why do I have to settle for white cotton just because I have big boobs? Grrr) I don't see what others do when they look at me, and I wish I could. I would love to see myself through my Master's eyes because He tells me all the time that I'm beautiful and I know by the emotion in His words He believes it.

As far as penis size in guys, I've been with everything from teeny tiny to painfully large. Yes, I prefer a man who is at least large enough to feel when we have sex but it's all in how they work it. I was with a guy for 2 years who wasn't blessed as far as size and the sex was boring and short, but at least he could make me climb the walls with great foreplay. Then again I was with a guy who was wonderfully large who didn't do any foreplay and was the worst sex I have ever had. He thought just because he had a nice size dick it meant he was good in bed. He only lasted two weeks before I walked away- I got tired of listening to how he KNEW he was biggest and best looking guy I ever dated. I don't stay with a man based on appearance, I just wish I could transfer that outlook onto how I view myself.

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/16/2008 9:20:11 AM

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I have some pretty bad self-image problems that I don't know if I will ever actually get over. I have tiny breasts and large thighs with an ass to match. No matter how hard I try, I never seem to look as good as I want to. And that's just my body... I don't like my face, either.

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/16/2008 10:30:46 AM

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Being “overweight” by normal standards, I have always had a rough time with self-esteem and being comfortable in my own skin. I go through periods when I think I am hot as hell, and then others where I wonder what in the world people are looking at. I find that when I think I am hot, that is when men respond.

OP, I have always been afraid of just that…someone seeing me naked and being appalled and leaving. When it gets down to getting naked with someone I am always self conscious to the point of being paranoid that He will go running, because of my weight. Thinking about this logically (really for the first time) I can see how silly that is, because if there is one imperfection that can’t be hidden it is being overweight.

In my (admittedly limited) experience however, every man I have ever been with has thought that was ludicrous. I have never been intimate with someone that did not say that I was beautiful (even though I did not believe them), and want more of me afterwards…so I need to remember that the next time I get naked with someone…

I think having scars, and imperfections makes O/one more sympathetic/empathetic (can't remember which is the correct term) to others in the same situation. I was with a man once that had a long scar down His back and when I asked about it, I could tell by His voice that He was self-conscious about it. Having imperfections of my own, I understood what He was thinking and I could put myself in His shoes and give Him the caring response that I would want.

W/we’re all people, and the more experience I get in life I realize that some people wear their “imperfections” on the outside and some on the inside. Most have a little of both. I doubt anyone gets through life without scars of some sort.

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/16/2008 10:46:34 AM

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I have some pretty bad self-image problems that I don't know if I will ever actually get over. I have tiny breasts and large thighs with an ass to match. No matter how hard I try, I never seem to look as good as I want to. And that's just my body... I don't like my face, either.

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/22/2008 7:30:40 PM

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I think Ive learned something--its all about how you feel about yourself, if you have issues with your body and are conscious of them the whole time then whoever you are with will notice them and respond in the same way that you do...I think if you just move confidently and lose yourself in the experience it is much more pleasant for everyone involved. I was so paranoid about my lovely youthful figure that I never allowed myself to be completely undressed (imagine!) that changed as I got older, I feel confident now, I have to be naked and it means I'm going to have some fun...

we're just made of meat you know, even the firm untorn meat is still...meat. Live well and be happy and focus outward and the real part of you will shine through and dazzle even the most biased eye.

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/22/2008 8:31:19 PM

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It seems that people tend to see imperfections in themselves easier than in others. I hope you don't mind I use you as an example zumala.

zumala sees these imperfections in herself - things she doesn't like. I look at her and all I can think is "Damn... she is gorgeous. I wish I had a flat tummy and nice skin like her."

I guess, what I'm trying to say, is that body imperfections really are insignifcant overall. They don't change who the person is, they give more information on the person behind the clothes. And beauty is clearly subjective.

So, zumala, if I can give you my larger breasts, can I have your flat stomach?

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RE: Body Imperfections - 8/23/2008 4:19:57 PM

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Scars are tattoos with better stories.

It's trite but it's true.

I'll take an imperfect woman with a lifetime of stories to tell over a perfect specimen who's devoid of life experience.

I really love that outlook! Thats really put a smile on my face

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