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RE: Would/could this be effective? - 11/30/2007 10:45:09 PM

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There's just too much that I can respond to here.. for those of you who have posted here, it's all been taken in and considered. The simple fact is, I know this situation much better than any of you do. seeing as how the only people who are truly able to know the full weight of the situation and what it is or isn't capable of is puppy and myself, it will be us that decide what it is we will be doing. I have spoken with her regarding everything that has been suggested and although we both feel that taking a break from anything 24/7 is necessary, we will continue to do what makes us happy so long as it continues to do so. she will be getting help, she will be getting on meds and she will be submitting if that's what she feels like doing. understand that I'm not pushing anything. for the time being, she has the final say in what she will or will not do so long as it's not going to cause her harm. So, to be perfectly clear, everything we have done or will do has been and will always be, totally consensual. keep that in mind the next time you want to bring up jail time, that's just absurd. Frankly, I'm not worried about it in the slightest bit. With that being said, I no longer see a reason to continue posting in this thread.

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RE: Would/could this be effective? - 11/30/2007 10:52:38 PM

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It is absurd? One could easily surmise from YOUR posts here that she lacks the capacity to consent to sex at all. Guess that's the problem with posting on a PUBLIC forum all the details of your life isn't it?

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RE: Would/could this be effective? - 11/30/2007 10:58:40 PM

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Yup, you always ''no longer see a reason to continue posting in this thread'' every time that your true character is discovered and pointed out. If you don't want advice or are going to sling it like a pile of crap into the wind, then STOP creating threads!! You may want to be checked out for some type of schizophreniform disorder of which there are many. You can google that.

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RE: Would/could this be effective? - 11/30/2007 11:49:30 PM

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I think I should do some matchmaking- have you taken a glance at satyrnymphs profile?

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RE: Would/could this be effective? - 11/30/2007 11:54:35 PM

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LA, I'm sure this is going to be humorous, but I can't get anything to come up under that name.

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RE: Would/could this be effective? - 12/1/2007 12:03:57 AM

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Sorry should have been more specific "satyrsnymph28"

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RE: Would/could this be effective? - 12/1/2007 5:22:40 AM

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* " and an observation... it is a natural reaction to try to solve a problem...the more complex the problem there can be a tendency to become very creative in trying to solve it....
square pegs do not fit into round holes...not even if you hit them with really big hammers...you can try but you see, then they aren't square pegs anymore. "*

TwiztdErotic?

Did you read any part of my post that I just quoted from? (the part that I did not quote from here as well?)
This is what concerns me, I believe you care about her...but the absent response that I made to the comments on that post suggests to me that you do not see how this is affecting you, and how that factor is going to make having a positive outcome much, much more difficult for both of you.

I actually understood your question and the frustration behind it. But behind the thinking of your original post there are 2 people who are not completely in control... she is not in control but neither are you... because her (over)reaction is driving you crazy.

If she were able to get the thereputic support she needed, while at the same time you received the personal support you need...there are ways or reinforcing her gains without FORCING them on her.

I am still wondering if she is not on meds... why that would be... her fears, your fears, the side effects she has experienced in the past?

All the therapy in the world is not going to FIX the chemical imbalance in her brain..and untreated Bi-Polar can mimic the features of many other psychiatric disorders, including BPD,
Also if she had had issues with drug addiction in the past then a "dual-diagnoses" program would probably be more apropriate for her.

Well, this is all I am going to offer here... my intent is not to caretake here but offer my support.

Best wishes to you both.

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RE: Would/could this be effective? - 12/1/2007 5:25:59 AM

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To very specific posters... the snarkiness did not improve upon the silence.

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RE: Would/could this be effective? - 12/1/2007 7:47:09 AM

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This entire thread did not improve upon the slience.But the snarkiness made ME feel better.

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RE: Would/could this be effective? - 12/1/2007 8:56:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TwiztdErotic

So..since she identifies herself as a switch and she's bisexual..I'm wondering..would it hurt to try things as a Dom/Domme couple and look for a girl to submit to both of us?

That would not be removing m/s from your relationship. Being a domme, like being a dom, requires a great of energy and effort on her part that I doubt she is able to provide. It would be entirely unfair to the new girl.

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RE: Would/could this be effective? - 12/1/2007 12:40:53 PM

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Sup.

I wasn't going to post on here but I feel compelled to now. I just want to say good luck and I hope that you will work on seeing the good things about each other. I know you have been close for two years and I hope she gets to a better place. Have you also thought about the effect that recent life events might have had on her...? Just saying :\

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