Jayxkes
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Joined: 7/8/2004 Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: shootingstar67 In the old guard you earned the title of "Master" by serving as a 24/7 slave for a year. I am sure they didn't like it but they paid their dues by doing it and earned the right to rule. However good the 'old guard' were, (or were not), that style is not the holy grail of BDSM relationships. I would like to talk to an actual member of the old guard, (yes I know), and just learn about the realities of their lifestyle. quote:
I t makes complete sense to me. I think some Masters could really use bottoming/submissive experience just for sensitivy training and understanding more the perspective of those beneath them. Undoubtedly, some do benefit from the experience, however it's not guarenteed at all and I think that the majority of dominants would not benefit from it. A submissive is very likely to have a very different experience from someone who is not submissive. Ergo, a dominant person is unlikely to learn very much from pretending to be submissive. quote:
Of course the one Master I ever suggested it to is never talking to me again. So Masters I am asking you. Would you ever consider bottoming? Not because you'd enjoy it but because it would make you a better dom? Well, if someone could convince me that it would make me a better dom, or person generally, then yes I would consider it. However though I've read numerous posts about it and even had a face to face discussion about it, no-one has ever been able to present a logical argument in favour of it. In fact mostly the argument seems to be dependant on a number of facts being ignored! To my mind, it's much akin to saying that most men would benefit from experiencing life, love and sex as a woman. (and maybe most women as men). Now that is something I love to be able to do! However, although I could have my body changed to resemble that of a woman, inside I'd still be a man, so I wouldn't actually 'feel' what a woman does. Exactly the same with a dominant as a sub, although they might do the same things, they would experience them as a dominant and NOT as a sub. I find that talking to my partners and other men and women, does a far better job.
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