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DominicsJoy -> Why the Administrators cannot allow blacklists, but there is a way to be proactive in the community. (12/10/2007 11:28:46 AM)
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I understand the concept of slander, but I also have met victims of predators. I have read your rules and to my understanding there is nothing keeping me from keeping a bad list of my own and providing it to those who request such information from my own area and experience. I am active in my community here, and beleive it is up to all of us to try to police and protect ourselves.
If you prefer not to get involved in domestic disputes, fine. But please, do not stop those who are new in the communities from getting needed background information. There are bad eggs. Not just in this lifestyle but everywhere. If you need to do a background check on a Dom or Domme, it is inadvisable to wait until after you are tied spread eagled and being whipped to within an inch of your life without regard to your safety. I suggest going to local munches, asking about others that you are interested in. Having safe calls set up and always doing your best to be careful. If this gets me in hot water with the Collarme administrators, so be it. I will continue to do my best to inform and educate. I have seen too many blindly go into this with trusting souls, just to come out beaten and battered.
Since most bdsm D/s operates outside of the conventional jurisdiction in regard to acceptability, you cannot simply waltz down to the local Police Department and do a background check on a potential partner.
I am careful, not cynical. Good Doms and Dommes exist... and by knowing yourself and your own needs/desires you can find a match. But for gosh sakes, please don't leap blindly into bed and expect Nirvana each and every time. Every sub/slave has a God given gift of judgement. Use your brain before you kneel and you will appreciate your Dominant all the more.
Best wishes-
Masters girl-joy
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