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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 8:08:18 AM

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there is no way I would engage in nonconsensual kink.

I did not post on the other thread because others stated everything I had to say about it....

I will say here that in my opinion taking chances of exposing others to our kink is repulsive to both of us... this is a hard limit for him and it is outside of his ethical boundaries... while it isn't rape exactly, it is still possible to be forcing someone to take part in your scene without their consent.

Part of the thing about semi public (and to be honest I do not even know what "semi-public"means, it is either public or it isn't. It is a word game to make it seem better than it is. It is like saying "she is a little pregnant") is the risk of being caught is the actual thrill of it... I just do not play games with other people that did not agree to them...

Julia,

Don't take this as an antagonsitic question, but I am curious to know if you have ever attended a Munch and/or about your position on Munches.

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 8:13:19 AM

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1. Totally naked in the car giving a BJ.

2. Humping in host's bathroom.

3. No panties

4. No panties, and thigh high stockings with a skirt that BARELY covers the tops of the stockings, so if you drop something, you're SOL.

And...my favorite...Halloween at the Palms in Las Vegas dressed as a school girl in a super short skirt that showed a little bit of butt cheek, white g-string, shirt unbuttoned to reveal a black velvet bra, and a very obvious collar with d-ring. YOu shoulda seen the look on people's faces when we left the Stratoshpere. You shoulda seen the look on the cab driver's face. Ahhh, the things you can get away with on Halloween!

BTW... just to clarify something...I consider the only truly risky and stupid thing we ever did was the naked in the car giving a BJ...we did that when we were young newlyweds with no UMs. We would never consider doing that now. The humping in a host's bathroom was really no big deal, considering that in the room down the hall, Friday night strip poker games were the norm.

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 9:08:50 AM

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Julia,

Don't take this as an antagonsitic question, but I am curious to know if you have ever attended a Munch and/or about your position on Munches

Let see, the munches were I live are held in a room of a pizza house where other patrons are kept out. People are not allowed to wear fetish gear either.

I have not been to any munches, although that will probably be changing soon enough because my Daddy wants me to accompany him to his local munch. I know what to expect... people do not flog each other half naked at them, nor do they give each other orgasms...

Edited to add, when I had been married to my ex for a few days we got caught in our truck by the cops completely naked going at it. We lived with his grandmother when we had gotten married and were looking for our own place, and too low on funds to "get a room".

But we were not on a public street, we were parked down the road from the landfill. It was also 2 am. We were not aroused by the possibility of discovery... in fact discovery was the last thing we wanted.

I have very few things that I am judgmental about, but I have no desire to come across people getting each other off that included me in their scene. I find it very disrespectful and rude. I also see a difference between accidently getting caught when one was trying not to get caught, and getting a thrill out of the possibility of discovery and indeed planning an entire scene that revolves around that... just me, etc

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 9:23:13 AM

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We can split hairs on this issue, but this is one issue I remain steadfast on, it is wrong to use other people that did not consent to help you orgasm...

Don't tell Keanu Reeves that, he has been an unwitting participant in my orgasms for a very long time

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 9:23:56 AM

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Julia,

Don't take this as an antagonsitic question, but I am curious to know if you have ever attended a Munch and/or about your position on Munches

Let see, the munches were I live are held in a room of a pizza house where other patrons are kept out. People are not allowed to wear fetish gear either.

I have not been to any munches, although that will probably be changing soon enough because my Daddy wants me to accompany him to his local munch. I know what to expect... people do not flog each other half naked at them, nor do they give each other orgasms...

Thanks for the answer, Julia.

I asked because Hubby and I attended a few local munches and decided not to go anymore because they were held in the same room as the rest of the patrons and people were openly talking about bdsm, and we decided we didn't want to be a part of a conversation that got "picked up" by a nearby table.

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 9:36:44 AM

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I didn't mention orgasm julia. BDSM isn't always sexual. And orgasm isn't always the goal.
Regardless - there is no consensual relationship or act.
Splitting hairs maybe. But walk out the door in clothing your Daddy wants you to wear, and I am not speaking just of tight PVC and tassles - it is still non consensual to someone.

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 9:40:56 AM

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Technically speaking, every time I leave the house with my collar on, I am non-consentually exposing the world at large to my kink.

Woof!

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 10:07:13 AM

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To me, as with a large part of BDSM, it is the intent behind the act.

I frequently go without bra or panties. I do it because sometimes my bra hurts me more than going without and I just prefer to go without panties. There is nothing sexual about it and it doesn't arouse me in any way. It isn't part of scene and it doesn't give us a thrill. I wear a collar out and sometimes I wear cuffs - again no thrill. But when it arouses you to talk to me while you aren't wearing a bra or panties, I'd call that involving me in your sex life.

If it arouses you to wear your collar out and have people see you in it, I'd call it involving them in your sex life. They play a part in the arousal but you haven't bothered to ask them how they feel about it. It's not the worst thing in the world, but I do consider it rude.

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 10:36:04 AM

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there have been numerous occurances of the flashing of the socially repulsive female nipples, while in public, but this slave's favorite has to be flashing the pope's apartment and private garden from the cupola atop the Vatican. Yee-haaaaa!

orgasming on the tram-ride back down San Jacinto mountain or while sitting at the slot machine in the casino, or some other public place...as he watches from across the crowded space, has also occurred.

one fabulous public experience that we attend every year, on the last Sunday in September, is the Folsom Street Fair. San Francisco's finest are a big presence, making sure that those who enjoy displaying their kink down Folsom Street from 11 am to 6 pm that day aren't harrassed or physically attacked by those who believe public displays of kink are unacceptable EVER. you can go in the buff, with a sign around your neck that reads "Human Toilet, please use" and just sit there on the sidewalk waiting for someone to take you up on it.
there are a few galleries at their site so you can get an idea of the festivities:
http://www.folsomstreetfair.com/index.php

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 10:48:43 AM

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Ha Beth! Folsom Street Fair brings back memories. I grew up in the Bay Area, and it seemed every darn time we went to SF to see an art gallery or a Giant's game, my dad would get us lost and that's how my siblings and I got exposed to the soft underbelly of SF. We were on our way to a vacation and left early in the morning and that's when we first saw the Tenderloin. One time, we ended up on Polk and my brother asked "Why are those two men holding hands, dad?"

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 5:26:25 PM

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Honestly I'm proud to show off my collar. I seriously don't care what other people say or think. If my Master was to put a leash on me I would go out like that without a problem. I used to wear a dogs choker collar for a long time (mainly because my dog died and it made me feel close to him on some level.)

This type of lifestyle is everywhere you look... you can't hide it. Why would you want to? Just because someone doesn't like it shouldn't make a difference. Granted doing certain things in public is a dfferent issue. But to show off your collar, or your mark (if you can) or show little signs (like Master pulling your hair, or snapping his fingers at you, etc) is telling the world what kind of relationship you have going on. They may disagree, or not... Who cares.. People seem to think it's a crime to be happy anymore. I love to show my affection for Master in public... I want the whole world to know I'm happy and who I belong to. Let alone have someone hear the conversations your having at the munches... This is just the type of thing of that this world is trying hide but can't.

Kind of like banning movies such as Harry potter because it has magic in it.. Or now with golden compass because it has something (I don't know what) to do with atheism and such.. It's just something you can't avoid. /shrug...

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 5:34:57 PM

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I didn't mention orgasm julia. BDSM isn't always sexual. And orgasm isn't always the goal.
Regardless - there is no consensual relationship or act.
Splitting hairs maybe. But walk out the door in clothing your Daddy wants you to wear, and I am not speaking just of tight PVC and tassles - it is still non consensual to someone.

the.dark.

My post is in regard to a very specific thing, which is getting sexual gratification by having people catch you "in the act", which is a fetish that revolves around intentionally being nonconsensual. I really do not understand what you mean about no consensual relationships, but that is ok, I do not need to understand it. I do understand that we all have boundaries, and when people tread on those boundaries we have to speak up. I find it a boundary of mine to have people screwing or getting oral sex in a theater where I could end up being exposed to their tryst. It would bother me even more if it were adults that were doing it for the expressed purpose of getting caught or the thrill of discovery.

I am sure you would not argue that rape is ok because all relationships are nonconsensual. It isn't ok to rape people, and it is not ok to use other people discovering you to get your rocks off. The line has to be drawn some place.. I drew my boundary, and others draw their own. It might not bother you to have someone behave in your space that way, it would bother me.

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 7:57:29 PM

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Everyone has fetishes that others may or may not agree with. You seem to by soooo huffy over this one Julia. Ok we get, you don't like it, but you don't have to continue to put others down who do. I am sure there is a fetish of yours that others may not agree with, but that is your fetish not theirs.

I know tons of people vanilla and bdsm who just love public places.... and itsn't all about the thrill of getting caught, My ex and I were so in love that we could not keep our hands off eachother no matter where we were. It was like the world disappeared and we would just see eachother, in that case we wouldn't even notice if we were in a public place or his apartmment. That is a great feeling!

And like I said in an earlier reply, before I got more into this lifestyle i was more of an exhibitionist before then i have been since i've in it. I have had sex or fooled around in more places then i can remember, and not because i wanted to get caught, it was just because i got so caught up in the moment!

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 8:17:22 PM

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Everyone has fetishes that others may or may not agree with. You seem to by soooo huffy over this one Julia. Ok we get, you don't like it, but you don't have to continue to put others down who do. I am sure there is a fetish of yours that others may not agree with, but that is your fetish not theirs.

I do not have to post on this thread, but I want to post on this thread. People have asked me questions and are discussing with me. You may have started the thread, but you do not control the posts that are made on it. If people want to ask me a question, and I want to respond, I will.

I do not have any fetishes really. I suppose masochism could be considered a "fetish". There are people that do not agree with me being masochistic. I do not involve them in my masochism though. I do not force them to watch it or take part in it. Other people are squicked that I call my mate "Daddy". They have a right to feel that way. They express that feeling all the time around here... go them!

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I know tons of people vanilla and bdsm who just love public places.... and itsn't all about the thrill of getting caught, My ex and I were so in love that we could not keep our hands off eachother no matter where we were. It was like the world disappeared and we would just see eachother, in that case we wouldn't even notice if we were in a public place or his apartmment. That is a great feeling!

I wonder if the wee ones that may have been watching you wanted the "education" that you so generously provided.

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And like I said in an earlier reply, before I got more into this lifestyle i was more of an exhibitionist before then i have been since i've in it. I have had sex or fooled around in more places then i can remember, and not because i wanted to get caught, it was just because i got so caught up in the moment!

So you getting caught up in your moments is more important than anyone else in this world... ok, I got it! I am not that selfish... and btw, I am an exhibitionist too. I cannot wait for the socially appropriate time to engage that part of me.. which would be at the Lair or a play party... not where people may not choose to be exposed to it. BTW, exhibitionism is a fetish in which someone gets off on public exposure, not getting caught up in a moment. People who flash are exhibitionists. Women who masturbate in front of windows hoping to get "seen" are exhibitionists. People like me who get off on being watched while strapped to a st andrew's cross are exhibitionists...

There are other ways to engage this part of yourself other than the ones you have been talking about... why not join a local group or go to a swing club?

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 8:24:50 PM

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And the Universal tour guides thank you for those great security camera monitoring tapes!

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I definitely agree with you littewench. In my past vanilla relationships I had sex in neumerous semi-public places. All different levels of the Universal City Walk, LA parking structure, pulling off random dark roads for quickies, sex on my ex's car hood in his drive way, im sure there are plenty others places i could list. And like I said this was a vanilla relationship!

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 8:44:50 PM

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This thread is becoming funny now....

People are making people sound as if they don't have a clue about where they have fun... If there are kids around, of course you wouldn't display things.... if there's a huge crowd in broad daylight... of course you wouldn't be getting it on.... Just because people get caught up in the moment or however your want to put it, in certain places.. doesn't mean they do it right out in the open where everyone can see them. There is such a thing as taking that person by the hand, going around a corner where your less likely to be seen. Or going for a midnight walk when everyone is sleeping...

I highly doubt people are stupid enough to do things where kids can see them... or people that don't appreciate that type of thing can see it. There's alot of people in this world for some strange reason that seriously don't like showing affection of any kind in public. Not even holding hands... to a point I think that is sad... but to assume that when other people do get carried away with themselves in public, to assume they are doing certain things in front of everyone and anyone of all ages.... Well.. I'm sorry.. that's a poor assumption to make.. If they were doing it like that... well.. I'm pretty certain they would be in jail or whatever for indecent exposure in public.

I've been doing things in parks, schools yards, in the mountains, in cars, parking lots.. so and so forth since I was 15-16.. Only once I have been caught, and only got off on a warning. I will keep doing things outside mainly because the truth be told.. I love the fresh air, the openness of it all... it gets boring being inside all the time.. I don't know if this is a fetish or not.... But being outside to be is one of the best places to have a little fun... Doesn't mean I do it in front of the most crowded place in the world.. I think that people are a little smarter than that....

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 8:52:19 PM

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Thank you Syn!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I totally agree!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You def put my thoughts into better words then I could have ever done!

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 9:15:36 PM

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You know there are reasons why having sex in public places is against the law, and people get arrested for having sex in public quite often... so there must be someone out there doing it irresponsibly in order to get busted for it... otherwise no one would know and we would not be having this conversation.

She started a thread about giving a blow job in a theater, and now she is here talking about other venues for public blow jobs... ok... if that is not someone that is getting a thrill out of possible exposure, I do not know what is... someone PLANNING to get "carried away", yeah right.. whatever

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 9:35:53 PM

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Ok fine... you guys can think what you want... feel what you feel.. Like everyone else, there is no changing that..

I know there is a ton of stupidity out there ... or else there wouldn't be labels on coffe cups ssaying this coffee is HOT don't be stupid and spill it on your self....

That theatre thread... seriously.. it can be done.. in fact.. it's almost tempting... Find a movie (Like the OP did after all mention) that no one is watching anymore.. theatre is empty... Underneath the projection screen.. they can't see anything.. As for that Manager that was mentioned.. well.. I would fire him to. After all he was a manager and most likely on the job having his fun with probly a customer.. But it can indeed be done... As for stuff getting on the seat.. well.. a dude doesn't have to pull his pants down.. all they do is unzip their pants, wal la.. they are free.. it'll just get all over their pants.. as for her.. i'm sure her skirt will take care of that as well..... As for the floor.. well.. umm bring a towel, shove it her purse.. or maybe a travel pillow.. something you can discard.... Anything can be done if thought out well enough.

But all in all.. I'm pretty much done with this thread... I'm to the point to where I'm laughing about it more than anything. Perhaps i'm just to open minded to take this seriously....

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RE: Semi-public task part 2! - 12/12/2007 10:30:23 PM

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you can't stop them.. no one knows who they are.. yadda yadda yadda

I may not be able to stop people, but I can say they are wrong, and that is exactly what I am saying

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