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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:21:05 PM

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First of all, John Warren knocked it out of the park with his reply. I can recall making each of those observations when my man in service and I began courting. (And yes, you better believe the courting was mutual.)

I have to second (or third or fourth) this comment.

I do court boys. Well it's more like I set a little trap for them, but hey, that's how I court. ;-)

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:26:25 PM

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hi there

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:26:59 PM

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As far as I am concerned I would post my number if they woud let me... no fear here...

My impression is that sillysub whose disconnect seems to be mostly dishonest dominas' fault, is becoming less believable with each post.

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Many people have different nicks on the forum, (mostly female dommes), for anon reasons thats nothing new? I made it known many posts ago that this was my forum nick and nothing is reality on my profile...

I was honest and straight up about it right up front...

I agree with Akasha, because your professing to give out phone numbers on the forum if need be, than telling KC that if you approach someone you would not tell them of these posts/your thoughts, and than telling Akasha that your reasons are for privacy do not add up even if you're not interested in anyone here, and therefore makes all your words in my opinion, null and void.

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And in addition to that -- why should we believe he won't use another account to back up his own opinions here in the forum? It just seems dishonest and motivated purely by self interest. If he preaches anything about honesty in these topics it will fall flat at this point.

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:45:22 PM

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Let's hope that's the truth, sillisub, no offense, because it definitely leaves the propensity for and impression of dishonesty...again, just out of curiosity, would you tell a Domme if she passed your tests (I really hate that terminology here) that you were this nick? What would you do and how would you feel if, after you found her, and told her about this, she decided she had changed her mind about you? (I'm assuming in advance you are going to say you are honorable and would tell her)

people who know me know I am an open book...

Hey I have a great idea... how about if I just leave since this seems to be such a traumatic experience for everyone... no skin off my back either way... like I said dommes do it all the time to protect their privacy and no one holds it against them but let me do it and its a criminal offense

what would I do if a domme ditched me because I use a different nick on the forums than I use for dating?
why I would laugh of course... pretty much like I am now...

If I were using this forum as a springboard to meet people and dating then you would have grounds to have concern... but since I do not you have no grounds for concern... I am just here for talk period...

If you cannot separate that then I apologize for causing you duifficulty...

So,. now you want to leave? I regret that I did not see your post before you edited it. As far as Dommes changing nicks every day, the ones I know have the same ones as when I started on the boards. Some may have more than one, but they are the same ones.....we do not hide, that I know of.

As far as traumatic, I think something that has to be involved of value for us to be traumatized, and from the appearance derived from the Ladies' comments on your opinions, and whether they think your opinions have value.....I don't think that you have to worry about very many being traumatized...

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:46:26 PM

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hi there

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:49:12 PM

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As far as Dommes changing nicks every day, the ones I know have the same ones as when I started on the boards.

Yeah... like I could get 2700+ posts if I changed my nick everyday! LOL

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:49:45 PM

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oh yeh the newbees have spoken! we will surely take your advice

I wasn't giving you advice, really have people I love and trust to deal with.
I would take advice from an honest newbie any day than an old liar.. M

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:50:14 PM

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hi there

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:50:38 PM

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As far as Dommes changing nicks every day, the ones I know have the same ones as when I started on the boards.

Yeah... like I could get 2700+ posts if I changed my nick everyday! LOL

- LA

No, don't we each have 2 per day, minimum????

KC

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:52:31 PM

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hi there

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:57:38 PM

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So, sillisub, decided to stay??? We don't want to traumatize you either, we were just hoping for straight answers, since YOU are the one that brought this all up.

We are just trying to understand what you are saying, that's all.....

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 6:59:26 PM

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 7:01:18 PM

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oh yeh the newbees have spoken! we will surely take your advice
I wasn't giving you advice, really have people I love and trust to deal with.
I would take advice from an honest newbie any day than an old liar.. M

yeh well you allied with AAkasha and as you can see there is real truth!!!

When people start claiming there is a gang up on them or a conspiracy, or all the dommes stick together or are secret friends and it's a conspiracy -- that's a nice deflection.

Only one person here has admitted using multiple profiles. As for femdoms changing profiles all the time, yeah, I'm sure that happens. But I don't think the ones posting in the forums represent that any more than they represent the dreaded 'money dommes.'

As for me, I only use this account to post here despite the number of people that "know" me from various histories on the net, including times of disagreement, you name it. I don't see the point in changing my profile identity, or hide my identity from people who post here that may know me from other boards -- even as far back as 1995.

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 7:01:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: sillisub

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oh yeh the newbees have spoken! we will surely take your advice
I wasn't giving you advice, really have people I love and trust to deal with.
I would take advice from an honest newbie any day than an old liar.. M

yeh well you allied with AAkasha and as you can see there is real truth!!!

Sorry, I have never known M or Akasha to lie, so you are not making points there. They are known personalities with a rep for honesty and forthrightness....who would you expect to line up together????

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 7:01:25 PM

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This is my last warning on this thread to stop flaming. Those who persist will be put on moderation. No exceptions.

If you have nothing more to contribute to the topic at hand, then move on.

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 7:02:35 PM

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So, sillisub, decided to stay??? We don't want to traumatize you either, we were just hoping for straight answers, since YOU are the one that brought this all up.

We are just trying to understand what you are saying, that's all.....

I just sent you my number be my guest

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/1/2005 7:08:47 PM

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Negative opinions of a personal nature, flames, inappropriate posts and baiting are not acceptable.
Please concentrate on the OP and not allow the thread to degenerate into flame wars.
It is prefered to keep personal difficulties with individuals and specific personal differences out of the forum.
Please keep on topic.

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/2/2005 1:09:36 AM

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That's my take on it, but the person you really need to ask is the domme you want to attract.

John....

I have enjoyed your take as well as the whole thread. If a little anarchy breaks out, I don't mind; if it becomes too much.... the Ladies will take care of it. LOL!

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/2/2005 3:53:00 PM

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On the basis of this thread, there are a number of key points that have been touched upon that are not only of relevance but are reflective of our wish to connect with another person at something other than a superficial level. These were put quite well by John Warren and have also been added to by Sandi. The take home message is that whether you are hoping to "reel in" a submissive or to attract a dominant woman, it is far better to approach them as people than as a persona and to be open enough to allow the other person to learn about you as a person.

A dominant woman is a woman (an obvious though often neglected point) and a person (also sadly neglected by some men) who has hopes, interests, and wishes that are reflective of her as an individual. In order to establish something far deeper than a "scene" it is important to know each other and to be attracted emotionally, intellectually, and physically. The way that vanilla people get to know each other over the course of time may well be short-circuited at a site such as Collarme, where specific D/s and BDSM interests take precedence over other interests. Does the other person enjoy going to used bookstores, sitting outside and "people watching", going to comedy clubs, watching a DVD at home and snuggling with the person that is so very special, going to an upscale restaurant on occasion (or for no special occasion!), receiving flowers, and have parents, brothers, sisters, or children?

Warmth, the ability to learn about each other, and ultimately falling for the person is very different from meeting someone and having a "collaring ceremony" the following week. For this to last -- a truly long-term loving relationship -- there has to be love of the person. In effect, John Warren's post noted the importance of what forms much of the basis of initial vanilla romantic attraction, something that those in the BDSM community may well understand but so rarely voice given the emphasis on play parties and other means of immediate gratification in the absence of an emotional connection.

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RE: Grrrrrr.... - 9/3/2005 1:42:39 PM

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I just want to throw my 2 cents in as well. I think the phone is a much more effective form of communication, as some have stated. You can say so much more in the time it takes to type a simple one sentence response. It is extremely hard, I think, to get a good dialogue going over IM. I know everyone seems to have this fear of using the phone fearing that their private lives will now be in the hands of that person they are talking with...but that is what caller ID blocking is for. Another thing to try is the new IM'ing feature of at least one major service where you can place voice calls over the net. I have used it a few times and love it. I think you would be much better served by voice rather than text.....it also makes it easier to weed out the "undesireables" as well

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