CreativeDominant
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ORIGINAL: MadameCris
whoever choses to travel and/or whoever is willing to buy a ticket. we all have free agency and we are all adults here, right?
Nicely put, MadameCris.
I have paid to go and see someone and I have had people visit me. I am a divorced father who is still paying child support. I have debt from a divorce that is 9 years old...I chose to pay off the debts in 10 years rather than 20 as I didn't want it hanging over my head the rest of my life and I needed to re-establish credit as a single man again after 20 years of being part of a couple. I make nice money but let's face it...a weekend together with someone from a distance away is not your normal date, no matter how much many would like to make it so. Hotel and meal and entertainment expenses are going to be anywhere from 300 - 500 bucks or more. A flight can range from 79 bucks to 1000 bucks (or more) depending on where the submissive is traveling from. So...for a 3 or 4 day weekend that may turn out to be fantastic (or may not), I would be spending close to 1000 bucks. And she would spend the parking fees at the airport? Does anyone else see where a dominant could be leery of the submissive who wants you to pay for everything?
And before anybody thinks I am just ranting at the submissives here, I feel the same way about dominants who insist that the submissive pay for everything if they want to see the dominant. Be they male dominants or female dominants. I almost have to laugh when I hear a woman who has twisted and upended the "traditional" by being dominant over her men but who insists on the traditional when it comes to footing the bill for her travel and her entertainment and her food. If you are going to take a turn "from the traditional" in the D/s roles, then take a turn from the traditional when it comes to being reasonable about expenses. Male dominants who expect a submissive to meet all their expenses if they want to see the dominant...and then insist on not only being "traditional" in the D/s roles but who almost always seem to be the ones to carry it to the extreme? They cause me to do the same brow-furrowing "Huhhhh?????" thing.
When I have traveled to see a submissive, I have at times ended up picking up the entire tab...and have been willing to do so, when I could afford it and she could not afford anything...when the submissive was someone already with me or at least very much into me and trying, along with me, to move the relationship forward. I have never asked a submissive to pay all my expenses and would not do so. An equal split or a split agreeable to both the dominant and submissive as something they can both swing and want to because they want to see each other...yeah. That makes sense, at least in my world.
In the end, it comes down to what MadameCris...and others have noted...most of us are all working. We can all afford to pay a part of seeing each other if we really want to see each other. Why should it all be on one or the other for what is not your normal evening or even weekend out?
~~puts on flame suit~~
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