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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/25/2008 5:05:32 AM

sexyred1

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awwww...you say the sweetest things...so NOW will you twirl some tassles for me??

Only if you promise to join me on the pole

We can dress as nuns with garters and knives...then you can show me how to make all three tasssles dance at the same time

Do we have to dress as nuns? I like the garters and knives idea, but I am jewish, not sure my mom would approve of the nun's habit!

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/25/2008 5:09:18 AM

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You could be an ecumenical act. Her in an abbreviated habit and you in tallis and yarmulke. And if you do so, pics please!

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/25/2008 5:10:20 AM

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Do we have to dress as nuns? I like the garters and knives idea, but I am jewish, not sure my mom would approve of the nun's habit!

LOL that works for me.

Lose the nun outfit

Garters, knives and GLOWING tassles

LMAO can you just picture that...

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/25/2008 11:14:11 AM

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I feel sorry for some of you. Is this all you do? Come online and start petty fights with people you don't even know? I'm not offended. To be honest, I think it's silly to make attacks on strangers, when you have no information about the person you're going after. Get a life.
Thank you to everyone that has given advice, and thanks to those that have amused me with their minor oppinions that are quite irrelevant.

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/25/2008 11:26:41 AM

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Wait a second. Are you not attacking the attackers??????

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/25/2008 11:26:55 AM

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B, but...you DO realize that we ARE submissives right?
And that...
oh...
nm....

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 10:48:34 AM

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No, I'm not attacking the attacker. Here's the way I see it, MY personal fetishes/desires/whatever are individual. They are personal. They don't have to fit into anyone else's standards. Some of you have said that what I want is not right, according to YOUR standards. This is my life, and my relationship. I've never generalized any group of people, and I've always respected other people's 'kinks' even if I don't agree with them. To each her own.

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 10:57:25 AM

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I really don't see you as having been attacked. People have been trying to point out to you, in varying degrees of tact and bluntness, that in many d/s relationships your wants only matter as much your owner thinks they matter. Which is for the best because if you enter into a relationship like this and don't realize ahead of time that you probably aren't going to get pampered... well.. it's a rough time on everyone.

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 11:02:26 AM

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you want serious?...If you have voiced your thoughts and they are being ignored..that answers your question, you aren;t ever goingto get what you "need". If you haven't voiced your thoughts, well is he supposed to read you mind?. Are you really interested in the thoughts of others?, because you are REALLY going to get them. If , how ever you were looking for affirmation, you might have picked the wrong spot

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 11:30:00 AM

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Kitten4
I feel sorry for some of you. Is this all you do? Come online and start petty fights with people you don't even know?

Yup pretty much

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 11:32:18 AM

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No, I'm not attacking the attacker. Here's the way I see it, MY personal fetishes/desires/whatever are individual. They are personal. They don't have to fit into anyone else's standards. Some of you have said that what I want is not right, according to YOUR standards. This is my life, and my relationship. I've never generalized any group of people, and I've always respected other people's 'kinks' even if I don't agree with them. To each her own.

kitten,

Out of 5 replies to people who have posted to your thread only one that you made has shown genuine gratitude for the opinions/advice that you asked for. Remember that you asked for them?

Since you asked, people gave you their standards and what works for them. No, you don't have to fit into them, but you asked for them. If it is your life and your relationship and you don't want anyone else's input into it, then why did you start the thread asking for our input in the first place?

Most of your posts have shown you for a person who enjoys focusing and dwelling on what you perceive as negative. You have given back handed insults to those who replied and demonstrated contempt for many on this thread.

You get what you give in life. If you spend your life focusing on what you see as negative and what you don't have then you will be unhappy and dissatisfied. If you stop focusing on what you don't have and celebrate and be grateful for what you do, then you might just find that your needs are being met but you were so busy focusing on what you weren't getting that you didn't even notice.

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 12:07:46 PM

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We have standards???? Since when. Lighten up. Take the good advice if any was given and try to learn from that. Take the other stuff and fart on it.

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 12:35:09 PM

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you want serious?...If you have voiced your thoughts and they are being ignored..that answers your question, you aren;t ever goingto get what you "need". If you haven't voiced your thoughts, well is he supposed to read you mind?. Are you really interested in the thoughts of others?, because you are REALLY going to get them. If , how ever you were looking for affirmation, you might have picked the wrong spot

You know you have really struck a nerve when Jeff goes and gets all serious on you.

Perhaps if you told us what you wanted, whether that be honest advice, handholding and headpatting, or if you just want to vent (although I would suggest a journal for that), then you would get what it is you WANT? And isn't that how this whole thing started?

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 12:49:52 PM

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Wants and needs are two different things.

There is a metaphysical saying

"You dont always get what you want, but you always get who you are...."

meaning you attract according to how you feel about yourself. your world is a reflection of your thinking.

ponder that.

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 1:02:56 PM

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I want him to bathe me, pamper me, and prepare me for his use.

hmmm preparing you for his use...... <stares down the well> It puts the lotion on its skin! It does what its told or it gets the hose again!

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 1:09:18 PM

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Irish may not have been pc in her answer

Fuck politically correct...I don't adhere to it in real life, I sure as hell am not going to do so here.

I like you IrishMist..I don't care what they say about you <g>

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 1:13:12 PM

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I am on the side of whoever has the most points at this time! Or at least til I can catch up to my own postings!

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 1:19:53 PM

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Cali, I like you. I don't care what Irish Mist says about you!

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 1:55:05 PM

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IrishMist secretly, or not-so-secretly, stalks me relentlessly. She thinks that I don't know, but I have people.

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RE: Not getting what i need. - 1/28/2008 1:57:45 PM

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IrishMist secretly, or not-so-secretly, stalks me relentlessly. She thinks that I don't know, but I have people.

Cali

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