Leatherist
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ORIGINAL: vampiresscammy call me whatever you like, I choose switch as it covers my ability to take on a different roles based on my partners desires or needs, but its just a word, means very little, if someone looking for a partner automatically cancels me out based on the word label of switch, I'm sorry, they are not worth getting to knwo me anyways, if they can't get to know someone before judging, than tough crap for them I hear some of you folks saying once bitten twice shy, but if you always assume the next person will bite you (without your consent or approval) then your so not being open to what that person might have to offer you, and thats a huge shame. that person could be that one to touch you so deep you always remember it, but you won't ever know if you let a label stop you. just my thoughts, not trying to pick on anyone Say rather 4 times bitten, 8 times shy. My own personal experience with male switches has been: "okay, I'll dominate you," then, once I'm involved, say "here, dominate me now." That wasn't what was agreed upon, but I'm a real pleaser, and I've tried. But it's not in me. Why put in the energy into something, and then they do a bait and switch on you? So, sadly, it's easier not to go there. Does that mean I've missed out? Perhaps, but it's saved me a lot of heartache. I do need someone that is going to want to dominate me 24/7. It's not fair to either partner if we can't get our needs met. I can understand pulling away for fear of bait and switch tactics, literally. I avoid this by simply saying.."Any role play we engage in is purely at my whim, never expect it as your right."
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