Tigrita
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Joined: 8/16/2007 From: California Status: offline
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I can totally see Stephan's response to "I'm not in the mood"... probably would have been laughing "Life's a bitch, isn't it?" It certainly wouldn't fly with Damien either, or any dominant I'd respect. I would not want a dynamic where I could pull that and get out of something. I can't really see myself saying that in those words. If it was something small and I was feeling lazy and playful I could see trying to pout my way out of it just to be silly which I know wouldn't work. If it is something that I really don't have it in me to do, physically, mentally, or emotionally, what I say is "I'm not in a good place for that right now." I guess that ammounts to the same thing, but it is more serious, means we are approaching dangerous territory, kind of my version of "orange", but what is important about it to me is that it isn't a refusal, or a limit. It is information, and trusting them to respect that and handle the situation positively.
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~ Tigrita There is no right path, only the path you take. Success is making life happen, versus just letting life happen to you. "Many of the things I enjoy, I enjoy because I don't enjoy them." - Charlotte
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