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ORIGINAL: Stephann

Hiya captured,

different people handle rejection differently; I think it's one of the best ways to determine their character.

Still, something I should have added earlier was that introductory messages that demand or expect anything more than "Hi, you're interesting, and I'd like to learn more about you." seem both presumptuous, and a little on the desperate side.  I know for a fact, had I written a "You're an awesome girl, and I want you to become my slave" to charlotte, we probably wouldn't have met; I'd seen emails in exactly that tone from men that were firmly rejected by her, before she and I had met.

Stephan

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But seriously, that was the thing I was going to elaborate on earlier and never made it back to this thread.   People who are too into me too quickly come across as extremly desperate.  Some people may be flattered that you think they're the best person to walk the face of the planet upon first contact but many of us already know this about ourselves (just kidding) and would like to see the person we're talking to being choosy as well.  I personally want to be with someone who cares that we're compatible too and has some idea of things he wants in a partner and is taking the same time I am to make sure these things match up.  An inital email of, "You seem like a very interesting person and "I'd like to get to know you better," is a million times more appealing than "You are definitely the person for me," suggesting that they have no actual desire to get to know you since they clearly already know everything there is to know about you....

charlotte

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ORIGINAL: capturedprincess

If I'm not interested and the person has taken the time to write an actual thoughtful email, they get a polite reply, often with the "why" I'm not interested. Curiously enough the reason I'm often not interested is becuae of the way they present themselves in their profile. For example, a lot of peopel self-identify as a "Daddy Dom" which is someting in my profile that I state I absolutely do not want.  Or they say that they are looking for a sex/domestic slave, also something that doesn't interest me as a way of life (and is covered in my profile).  But too often, when I call them on what they say in their profile, they backpedal and try an other approach or just get rude and nasty in their response.

If the person sends me a one-liner I usually just delete it with no response.

If they send me a message in which they tell me how the will sexually abuse me and humiliated me to make me their slave (or some version thereof) they get a nasty reply and a block. Not for the sexual content, which is just tacky and indicates, to me, a lack of maturity, but because if they had read the part where I have no interest in being a slave they might have sent me a more interesting message. ;)

I work with words for a living; perhaps my standards are too high to expect other people to have some facility with the language.