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Hopefully I'll get through it with the most minimal amount of tears.

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Don't you understand?

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ORIGINAL: MeliciousProse

Don't you understand?  I've tried contacting Him.  I've tried to send things, but without His address at hand and without the room number let alone the hospital, I'm at a loss. 

I've tried...and yáll're still making it seem like my fault.  I did everything I could to try and smooth things over.  The ball literally is in His court because my hands are tied.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Why, after six months, do you not know his address? If the relationship was as serious as you believed it was, wouldn't you know his address, or at least how to find it?
But, of course, that point is moot as well. Because as some of the others have said, if he wanted to contact you, he would.
It's time to walk away with your head held high, and some dignity salvaged.
(if my um's were having an operation, you can bet, I'd be leaning on HoneyMaster for support instead of ignoring Him.)
Good luck, hun.

~Christina

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ORIGINAL: MeliciousProse

When a Dom and slave establish a relationship, they draw up goals, create rules, chart out expectations and things of that nature.  This makes sense to this girl. 
When a Dom has outside responsibilities, it is, in this girl's opinion, the slave's responsibility to have a great deal of patience.  The relationship of that kind of strain would not work out if she did not. 
When a Dom is not necessesarily financially able to afford expensive gear and things of that nature, it is the slave's responsibility to understand and have even more patience.  We are human, we have things we must deal with.  All this girl understands.
And when a Dom, who has children, work, and financial difficulties takes on a slave, it is still His responsibility to give her at least a minimal amount of attention if He is to retain her respect and loyalty. 

It's been seventy-two hours since this girl has spoken to her Dom from the moment He said she was smothering Him. 
The Facts: 

1. Their physical time spent together is maybe once a week.  she hasn't seen Him in almost two. 
   
2. Their time on the phone, the only time when physical means of seeing one another is not an option, has been a total of fifteen minutes.
   
3. The confusing fact:  Two weeks before, He gave her a set of His car keys and was having a set of His house keys made for her. 

Now, while this girl completely understands His situation at home, she has made it as clear as possible, that all that she expects of Him, all that she requests of Him, begs of Him, is that He make the effort to speak with her once a night.  girl has spoken to many slaves and even a few Doms about this.  They all agree that this is NOT a lot to ask for. 
What would possess a Dom to make these great gestures of a commitment and then claim she's smothering Him?  What advice do You have for girl? 

-Sighs.-  This girl is at a loss.

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ORIGINAL: MeliciousProse
For those of You/you who were concerned, I thought I'd update You on the status of our relationship. 

He called last night and we finally sat down and talked.  His reason for pulling back so much:  He got scared of how deep He was in this relationship.  So?  For now, we're going to take it slow.  His heart's still healing from His ex-wife and I can understand that completely.  We're both going to make the effort to be better to each other. 

Thank you for the concern and the sympathies...  I think we'll work this out.