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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 9:12:24 AM

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Doesn't birth control have to be used when having sex in order for it to work? Did the OP use any?

What would make you ask such a thing? Other than nosiness. It is not pertinent to the OP at all.

I think it is very pertinent question,Did he and she have unprotected sex,If the question is yes and did she insist on BC then the question is very pertinent...Did he knowing get her knocked up and skip, as many do theses days..If she asked for BC and he chose not to provide it for her then I can be a bit more sympathetic to her story...bounty

you wouldn't be sympathetic if it did fail? just out of curiousity.

What are you reading my mind,Yes I would....

no you just framed your post as either she had it or she didn't and i was literally just curious

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 9:13:01 AM

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I think its tacky as hell when you women sit and pick another one apart,we men don't do this shit ,,why do you all gather up and have a hen picking contest at another expense...BOUNTYHUNTER

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 9:15:45 AM

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I think its tacky as hell when you women sit and pick another one apart,we men don't do this shit ,,why do you all gather up and have a hen picking contest at another expense...BOUNTYHUNTER

Well Said Bounty ... goes back to .. if you cant say something nice dont say anything at all ... ie be supportive or shut up

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 9:15:50 AM

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On that Bounty, we will agree......as my post back around 142ish or so, mentioned.

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 9:18:07 AM

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"no you just framed your post as either she had it or she didn't and i was literally just curious "

No my post wasn't
framed that way at all,I asked if she perhaps had asked for BC and did he knowly withhold it from her....

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 9:28:57 AM

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This is a FR ~

Did she use birth control is a legitimate question. The Op is under no obligation to respond however, as it is quite a personal question.

However to assume automatically that she didn't use contraception is an indication that one has already decided the OP is in the wrong.

Here is a little story.
When I was much, much younger - I thought I was in love and my contraception failed - and after just over a month I lost a precious and 'unfortunate' occurance. I was 18 when I married. By 21 I was pregnant because my contraception failed me again - not only was I on the pill, I was using condoms as well. I now have a beautiful surprise, who, at the time was an unfortuante occurance. But I love him more and more with every passing moment. He is my gift, my struggle, the person who helped shape me into what I am now, just as much as I have influenced his life. Two years after him and with a conscious decision I had my third blessing - I only have to sneeze and I fall pregnant.

Not once did I give up BDSM. NOT ONCE did I deny myself the ability to be me. Neither did I stop my children in anyway shape or form - and yes in the womb they probably heard EVERYTHING.
That is why, today - they rock more than most of their peers in understanding and tollerance.

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 9:31:07 AM

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Its not unusual for what at one time seems unfortunate to become a true blessing ........

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 9:36:00 AM

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Exactly - and words are just words until you define their exact meaning and the context they are written in.

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 11:29:38 AM

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Ok... so alot of those posts really really hurt... Yes i say its unfortunate.. not because of the child because of the circumstances.. I thought i was in vanilla love but he ended up being nothing but a liar and a fraud. Try being a single military woman who finds out she is pregnant and he bolts quicker than lightning. Try being bareley able to survive on your own with what the military pays.. now im worried about a child... try being told oh yeah now your preg... you gotta move off base...... deal with that... its not cheap to live in hampton roads.. well it is if you want to live in an unsafe area. Why does everyone tell me to take a step back.... why should i back down? obviously your all here.. and to takenbyjon... go off and screw yourself... This is my decision. I came here to ask for advice not to hear crap from you.. Most everyone else has been very kind.. Imagine someone who finds her first.. (yes first....) love gives her prize of virginty.. stays with him.... and a month later.. gets pregnant he is is gone.. dissappered.. and when you find out then everytihng he said is a lie.. wouldny you say thats unfortunate? freaking assholes..

There's a wonderful feature called block in the right hand corner of each post. I would suggest using it as obviously there are those that have some agenda that has nothing to do with your OP and is not at all responsive to your OP. Whether you used birth control and it failed or whether you did not and planned to have this man in your life to assist you and he did not are also not paticularly relevant to your OP and you cannot go back in time. We all make mistakes, no one here is perfect either.

I can tell you I'm sorry you are embroiled in this drama, it really has nothing to do with you or your questions and I would really like to see you stick around because despite the nasty turn this thread has taken you can get support here from people that do have knowlege and wisdom. I have a good friend whose wife got pregnant later in life. He was livid and acted incredibly immaturely at first. He is now one of the most gushing, picture toting, talking incessently about his child parents I have ever seen. It will get better and you are not wrong for being shocked at your situation or the ramifications of it. In fact, I see people all the time that treat pregnancy as commonplace without considering whether they are truly ready for the responsibilities of raising a healthy child.

It's a tough road you are on. I won't pretend to tell you it will be easy. I will tell you that I'm sorry you find yourself on it unwittingly but many people find themselves there and later realize this road is wonderful despite how they got on it originally. While it may seem that being in the service and pregnant is detrimental, you may find that the programs they have to help you and your child are actually very beneficial.

Good luck to you. Again, if you would like to you may email me.

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 11:40:09 AM

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The "rest of the story" isn't even germain to the question. Nor is sympathy for failed birthcontrol or condemnation for not using it. How does any of that have to do with will dominant males run away from pregnant women. unless of course those three facts would change the fact of her submission to a dom while preggie.

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Bounty .. all of that is true ... but sometimes .. we are not told " the rest of the story " that is held back by players that have no stake in this other than to stir the pot., and they are not always the OP

Yes I agree but how are we to know if we don't ask and receive an honest answer...bounty

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 11:49:21 AM

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Maybe I havent read the entire thread... but I think the OP simply asked if now was good to get into being a sub. She didnt want opinions on her situaion as to the pregnancy, whether or not there was contraceptives used doesnt change the fact that she is.

My answer is this might not be much of a time to be getting involved in anything, simply becasue of the emotional rollercoaster you are likely to be on. Being pregnant messes with emotions becasue of chemistry and it complicates all interactons, it could be the kiss of death for anew one.

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 11:50:42 AM

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it is all germain to the overall tone of the thread .. ... and having been made a part of that thru no fault of our own ...it disgusts me that some things are manipulated for private agendas and vendettas .......and are perpetuated for no reason other than makeing fools of those that sincerely wish to help and support others.

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 2:11:54 PM

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"Sirs..... would you be afraid of taking on a sub who was pregnant? I mean im new to lifestyle.. and unfortuntaly pregnant.. but i still want to learn and serve"

Questions, Are you in the Navy ? If so, is the pregnancy your way of gettting out of the Navy ? There are easier ways. Per your profile you are unwilling to relocate which means a lot of potentials for you are not possible. If the father is out of the picture and you may want to have a child with your master, why not an abortion which is viable this early on in your pregnancy.

I took on a sub who was pregnant about 25 years ago and helped her through her pregnancy and childbirth just to have her tell me she wanted to try to find someone else after the child was born.

Good luck to you but I have to agree, learning and letting your body and mind do what they want now is the best way to go before jumping into a relationship where you might be hurt.

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 2:41:40 PM

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Oh. My. God.

Bounty, I've seen you post before and you're a decent guy. If you'd seen the posts the Mods removed from this thread, I think you'd have been less concerned about asking your question, no matter how legit you might consider it in a thread that was even borderline sane. Please just take my word for it and back off.

Some posters are acting like a hyena at a feeding frenzy -- smelling someone young and injured, and trying to rip as much away from her as possible. Hyenas are ugly. Their posts on this thread are uglier. Fortunately, the OP sounds as though she can see how ugly and false your posts are. I think she will be fine.

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 2:54:39 PM

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Nothing greater than the fortune of getting knocked up when your 17, dropping out of school, spending the rest of your life working as a cashier and waiter, and never being able to provide the child anything close to a decent future.

I can just feel the fortune washing all over me as I write this.

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 2:56:07 PM

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I think its tacky as hell when you women sit and pick another one apart,we men don't do this shit ,,why do you all gather up and have a hen picking contest at another expense...BOUNTYHUNTER

Because they are all insane

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 2:56:13 PM

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The percentage rate of birth control was not the point of the post. So the percentages don't matter. the point of the post was. There is no excuse for not using birth control in the first place. i said that the only unplanned or unwanted pregnancy should only happen when birth control fails. Where did i say that if you use birth control you will never get pregnant?

i'm not sure anything constructive is going to come out of criticizing her for becoming pregnant in the first place, that isn't the issue. the issue is that she is now and needs some support and friends. nobody is perfect, accidents happen, blah blah blah. it does no good to go back and rehash the fact that she got pregnant or how or why....i don't get it.

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 3:04:11 PM

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Because they are all insane

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 3:16:33 PM

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takenbyjohnr07, you are acting like a hyena at a feeding frenzy -- smelling someone young and injured, and trying to rip as much away from her as possible. Hyenas are ugly. Your posts on this thread are uglier. Fortunately, the OP sounds as though she can see how ugly and false your posts are. I think she will be fine.

A, you are my new hero. Thank you for saying that and taking the heat, it saved me from getting it lol

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RE: Pregnant and Submissive - 2/4/2008 3:21:17 PM

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At some point. Kc's advice is best......... ignore it and it will go away

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