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ORIGINAL: philosophy

....seems to me that some people wish to define our differences over our similarities.....hence the bitch/jackass dichotomy......basically it's all the same, some people are just, er, arseholes, regardless of gender.

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ORIGINAL: MissMorrigan

Thank you for articulating my sentiments far better than I could, Philo.

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ORIGINAL: kittinSol

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ORIGINAL: philosophy

....seems to me that some people wish to define our differences over our similarities.....hence the bitch/jackass dichotomy......basically it's all the same, some people are just, er, arseholes, regardless of gender.

How do we kill assholeness?

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ORIGINAL: kittinSol

Huh... well, you can try... I'll stand back and watch .

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ORIGINAL: philosophy
...pffft

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ORIGINAL: kittinSol
Yes. There is a world of difference between strongly worded disagreement and outright unpleasantness, rudeness, assholeness (which I fear I may have exhibited towards you recently, MissMorrigan, and I apologise for that).

I find humour is great at defusing charged situations... if one still has the energy for it, goes without saying. And humour doesn't work with twue assholes (they don't get it).

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ORIGINAL: MissMorrigan

Thank you for the apology, it is a very nice gesture and appreciated although I have to say I didn't personally feel you were being anything more than a person who felt strongly about her view/s. I think sometimes (It has been known!) that often the typed word lacks the inflections we'd place in our every day speech and therefore can be seen in a different light (I sometimes have difficulty articulating my thoughts also). For example:

Her: Nah, you're wrong.
Me: That's your viewpoint, of which you're entitled, but that doesn't necessarily mean that I am. We simply have opposing viewpoints.
Her: Fine, it is MY viewpoint that you are wrong. Better now, get it?

Often, with people that engage one another online, they feel territorial over their comments and engage in behaviour that I can only liken to virtual chess insofar as it is important for them to strategically dominate their position on forums such as the ones here on CM - it's no different on IC or B.com either. Debating is a natural talent that some people either understand or they don't, and I think that when a person resorts to personal slights they've lost their advantage. In the above example, I could reply with soemthing like, "Yes, I get that we have opposing viewpoints, I find yours interesting but we're going to have to agree to differ here" but if I choose to respond in kind and opt for something more acerbic, I weaken any kind of point I was trying to make initially as people will be less inclined to listen to me. 

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ORIGINAL: kittinSol
Yes. There is a world of difference between strongly worded disagreement and outright unpleasantness, rudeness, assholeness (which I fear I may have exhibited towards you recently, MissMorrigan, and I apologise for that).

I find humour is great at defusing charged situations... if one still has the energy for it, goes without saying. And humour doesn't work with twue assholes (they don't get it).

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

If you are confident, strong, intelligent and ok with yourself. Why in the world would you need to be bitchy to everyone? The world would be your oyster and people would flock to you for inspiration.

There has to be more going on inside than meets the eye.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
LOL. I really think you have overanalyzed this.

If you think that what goes on in this forum is intelligent debate, I would beg to differ. Once you are out in the real world involved in major business negotiations and actually having serious intellectual debates with intelligent and interesting people, then this forum chat is as important and deep as melting snowflakes.

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

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ORIGINAL: MissMorrigan

It's possible I have over-analysed this. However, people rarely share the views of someone whose self-aggrandisement is supported by their attempts at belittling those they see as 'insignificant'. People's success are measured in varying degrees and should only really be important to them. Let me ask you something, if debating something on these forums is unimportant/seemingly unintelligent (flotsom), why are you so territorial in defending your place on these boards?

Now, that is where you are mistaken in your terminology. I am not "territorial" which would connote this to mean that I think I have territorial rights over the board, which I do not. If your definition of "territorial" means that one is not allowed to express a different opinion than the masses, then your definition and mine differ.
 
I also find it interesting that you are singleing me out for the aggressive words that have passed through this thread. If you took as much time to read through the thread and see that in this case, I simply stated an opposing viewpoint, which is my right and then, I was attacked for it.
 
But territorial about defending my place on these boards??? Are you serious? I have a place on any board I choose, I don't need any defending of that right.
 
And, just like I sometimes watch reality TV for entertainment, posting on these boards is a similar activity, ranking low in importance.
 
So hopefully I have clarified things a bit.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
LOL. I really think you have overanalyzed this.

If you think that what goes on in this forum is intelligent debate, I would beg to differ. Once you are out in the real world involved in major business negotiations and actually having serious intellectual debates with intelligent and interesting people, then this forum chat is as important and deep as melting snowflakes.