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Are S/switches typically interested in other S/switches? - 2/8/2008 11:16:59 AM

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I know this is a bit of a generalization, and i not big on those, but...

It seems pretty intuitive that Dom/me's tend to be attracted to subs, and the reverse would be true.

Top's i would think would be attacted to subs and bottoms.

But, i've never quite been sure about S/switches.

i do tend to fall outside of "bottom" mode and if the one i'm with enjoys taking the bottom role, i do enjoy Toping. but not enough to consider myself a S/switch.

so....what type of person do S/switches tend to be attracted to, and with that occasional interest in Toping, is bottom still the best description of myself?

RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/8/2008 12:14:07 PM

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I am primarily a sub switch. The people I identify with recognize that and in them I recognize their ability to fulfill that need. It may be a Dom/me, it may be a switch, it may be a sub....it really is more about compatibility and accepting me the way I am more than being any set role.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/8/2008 3:36:26 PM

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If you can enjoy being a Dom or a sub, you are a Switch. Some switches have more submissive tendencies, some more Dom tendencies. A switch enjoys doing what the name implies... Switching. It might be every other day, or it might be once a year, but they recognize their ablity to take up either role and enjoy it, depending on the situation.

Compatability? Yeah we kind of fall short there. Though if you have more submissive tendencies, chances are you will attrack Doms a bit more, and vice versa.

I play middle of the road which really sucks for me. I don't want control over anyone but myself until it's time to play. So the Dommes.. expecting atleast a bit of difference from a man interested in them, resent it when I disagree. (They end up really resenting it, if they come at me with a condicending tone... it just inspires me to dig my heels in harder and stand firm.

Which happens more than I'd like it to.)

At the same time, I"m not demanding of any subs because I feel no right or want to control them until/unless I've got them tied up in front of me. Well that usually gives them the impression that I'm not dominant enough. (In which case, I usually say "Get you in front of me and watch what a little slut I make you become.)

A switch will generally get along best with a switch, because they will understand this more than either D's or S's. They know that on any given night things could change. You'll also find that most switches who run very close to the middle, will want a 95 percent vannilla relationship. They save role for play.

I think for switches, it's not about the title. It's not about the Dominance, or the submission. It's really about the fun of the hole experiance. It's about being having D and s tendencies in you, and embracing one or the other (sometimes in the same night), because you enjoy them.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/10/2008 9:23:29 AM

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Compatability? Yeah we kind of fall short there. Though if you have more submissive tendencies, chances are you will attrack Doms a bit more, and vice versa.

Did someone call my name? I'm thrilled to learn subs might find me irresistible.

I prefer switching within a relationship, so...yes, I prefer other switches - though the frequency of the top role or bottom role can depend on the other person. The woman I've been dating has had some health issues over the last several months which has made binding her more difficult so I've been more on the bottom. Now I've got a whole backlog of topping ties and teases and tortures just hankerin' for an opportunity.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/10/2008 12:28:23 PM

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Most female switches I've come across seem to be searching primarily for dominants. Even when declared as switches, I think most people here are looking to explore one side more than the other, and actually prefer to find someone who leans strongly to the other side.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/10/2008 1:50:45 PM

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I am a switch that leans to the Top. I prefer other switches and subs.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/10/2008 2:15:58 PM

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I guess I am the opposite of most. I am a Mistress who needed to fulfill a need to be submissive to a strong Daddy Dom. I am still and active Mistress, but not in a sexual way. That is saved only for my Daddy. I consider myself a Mistress with a Daddy, so I don't even list myself as a switch - I did for a few hours and got too many predatory Doms checking me out.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/10/2008 3:48:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dmon

I think for switches, it's not about the title. It's not about the Dominance, or the submission. It's really about the fun of the hole experiance. It's about being having D and s tendencies in you, and embracing one or the other (sometimes in the same night), because you enjoy them.

That's pretty much it (at least for me).

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/11/2008 11:20:59 AM

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Completely off subject.....

ROFLMFAO @ Fnordstrum's signiture.

Now thats witty.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/16/2008 2:26:41 AM

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Absolutely. Ideally, switch can satisfy both of my desires.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/16/2008 4:24:29 PM

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I tend not to switch within a relationship, which throws people off. A lot of times, because I identify myself as a "switch" they assume that I enjoy the power play and not knowing who'll top each time. I go with whatever feels natural between myself and another person: a person rarely strikes me as on par in terms of dominance (the equal switch) with myself. I tend to like other switches because they know the way I feel more than a D or s, but even in play, I would lean to one side.

Does that make me tilted?

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/16/2008 10:25:58 PM

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I think what folks are saying is, there is no such animal as a typical switch, therefore, there is no one typical switch behavior or preference. You just take it one switch at a time.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/16/2008 10:35:03 PM

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Typical is a bad word to use in your question. I think common would be better. Personally, I find switches to be more desirable and of interest because they get where you, as a switch, are coming from and why.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/17/2008 8:20:03 AM

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One switchy type person , or 2-3 subbies , and a Domme ? well it would make the dinner table less crowded . There is NO blanket formula in bdsm i will say that . no one group is looking for the same thing in all this nor do i think we all would fit into A group , way too many spliters and sub groups . If your lucky to find someone that fills both parties needs , and you dig eachother , and are both happy , thats close enough for me .

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/17/2008 11:20:06 AM

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If you mean by switch somebody totally open minded, you can enjoy every single things...Not enslaved by her own fantasms that she will play over and over again until you get bored to death then that it is what I'm looking for. I'm looking for somebody who can be everything she would like to be.Someone I could simply love.

I always wondered what is the point of being a dom(me) or a sub? Isn't a human being with all our complexities more interesting? The one I will love will be a queen that I will worship totally, an helpless tourmented body under my hands, A funny girl, a friend, a partner, my wife, my love, intelligent but sometimes stupid, so beautiful and sometimes so ugly, courageous and sometimes so weak, adult and sometimes so childish. I intend to love a woman not a cliché.

If a switch is that kind of person...Then I'm truly looking for a S(s)witch.

When you practice BDSM you break rules. You thought that something more interesting could exist outside the common moralility and you have the "courage" to experience them. The thing I really dislike in the community is the will to impose new rules. Some petty bourgeois habits to put people in small boxes. She is that, he is that, so they can be this. Like this female supremacy thing, dom & sluts or whatever. I hate rules. My life is too short and your world is too small.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/17/2008 1:54:10 PM

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I"m personally i dominant switch. However. I do enjoy being dom'd. I am actually interested in a switch right now. I enjoy knowing that we can do either together, depending on how we're feeling. But that's just me.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/17/2008 4:37:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressDawn18

I"m personally i dominant switch. However. I do enjoy being dom'd. I am actually interested in a switch right now. I enjoy knowing that we can do either together, depending on how we're feeling. But that's just me.

Seems like there as many interests and variations as could possibly be imagined. i should have know better then to use the word "typically"

have You must experience in rt m'Lady, or just staring down the road to all sorts of fun and exciting kind of play?

i'm sure a number of Your curiosities will grow to be great intersts over time.

i do wish i had realized my interests, well more like admitted them to myself, a few years earlier then i did.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/19/2008 8:44:00 PM

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I have to say I strongly prefer other switches. I like power struggle and not knowing who will end up on top. I love flipping and being flipped. I also love brattiness and resistance. I love the flow of energy with another switch, love love love. I've mostly identified as Domme and mostly played that way but I find that I get a bit tired of playing with subs who aren't switches. I love the rare ocassions when a rare someone can actually flip me. I'm not necessarily typical in that well, I'm queer, and also, I like to play hard but I don't take myself too seriously. I demand respect, I command it and I get it but I'm not caught up in trappings or bs. I find power incredibly enticing, sexy, erotic, alluring, and, just plain FUN.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/19/2008 11:02:16 PM

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When it comes down to it my main interest in the other person is the other person - rather than if they are switch, sub, dom etc...

I think those things really only come as a complement to initial attraction and compatibility.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 2/27/2008 5:05:29 PM

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I don't care where I am...as long as I'm gettin' some!!! :P

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