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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 3/4/2008 12:07:43 PM

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I think a lot of it depends on the context. I'm a switch who leans pretty consistently Dominant--but that can change depending on whom I'm playing with. For example, with couples, I feel more comfortable as a sub than a Dom, even if I usually am very much a Dom.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 3/4/2008 12:31:44 PM

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Typically? What's typical about a switch? Or anyone, for that matter?

Answer: no. Always best to ASK rather than ASSUME.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 3/4/2008 1:12:06 PM

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I don't care where I am...as long as I'm gettin' some!!! :P

will keep that in mind!

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 3/12/2008 4:57:55 PM

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As a switch, from a personal, relationship - wise point of view, I like 'em a little bossy. This just because I'm not the most organised person in real life and I think I could learn a lot from an ongoing, structured relationship. I require my significant other to have the ability to say "hey, bitch, you're ignoring me! Get over her and gimme some luvin'!" That, however, is like, husband material and I'm not even close to ready for that.
In play and friendship, what my partners like is more important to me than how they align themselves. If I have a friend who is submissive, and she likes the way I pull her hair and tie her up, I'll do it! I will put out with gusto if I believe that someone is coming from a place of honesty with their request. People who ask to be beaten past the point of sensibility or sanity because they "deserve it" I won't play with. It's a degrading form of self-dishonesty. Some people I just won't submit to, but there are people close to me that I would do almost anything for. I prefer people who are real, who are free in their choices and who take ahold of their chosen title and wear it with pride. I prefer people who don't care what title you hold as long as you get along. And I'm with Frenzy - as long as I'm gettin' some I don't care!

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 3/24/2008 10:54:46 PM

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I like playing with anyone who has good chemistry. My commmited relationships in the past have all been with either strictly Dominant or mostly Dominant men. In my current relationship ((which I am very commited to)).. I am involved in a 100 % Dominant/ submissive relationship. Of course he knows I switch with others and that is okay with him when He lets me do so. I find that a title is only that. A person can be attracted to another outside of a role. It is more of who has good chemistry and makes you the happiest. It can be sometimes frustrating to be in a relationship with another switch, so if you lean more to one side of the fence it is easier to find a potential partner to balance each other's needs. I would classify my switchyness as "mostly submissive with several Dominant tendancies" hehehe

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 3/25/2008 12:00:27 PM

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I am attracted to positive energy. It does not matter so much whether the person is dominant, submissive. or switch. That being said, over time my sadistic and dominant desires have increased and at this point I am only submissive with my master. I still have a special place in my heart for Philip the Foole who started me on this journey so I do occasionally bottom to him, but at this point in time it seems that he is usually content with me on top <eg>.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 3/26/2008 7:48:29 AM

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I prefer the term switch because i really hate labels and i like being able to explore my options in a setting that makes me comfortable. one of my favorite women was a dom and i switched and it worked wonderfully for both of us. so if it takes another switch to fufill my needs then lets have a party but i like options

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 3/26/2008 4:05:32 PM

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I have to echo the voices of other posts and the general tone that permeates this issue. I will interact with people who understand me best. No more and no less. I may relate to a given person in many different ways, but it is chemistry and the desires of both parties that make that determination. The label has little to do with my decision. Labels can change as people experience more and are able to be honest about exactly who they are. I have made other posts that are more indepth, but I hope this gives an adequate answer for this thread regarding my personal perspective.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 3/28/2008 10:55:16 PM

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I'm not at all interested in other switches. For one thing, I'm mostly submissive. For another, I can't truly be submissive with a man who lets me top. My dominant urges are few and far between. I was in a relationship with a male dominant for a little over a year, until just recently, and now, I have a female friend who is more submissive than I am and has asked me to top for her. I'm not bisexual, which is only adding to the confusion here, in that I'm not especially attracted to women, but sensing her innate submissiveness excites me. This will be a short-term contract since I'm not a lesbian and have no desire to pursue a long-term relationship with a sub.

*grins* I hope that clears things up for you!

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 3/31/2008 6:52:33 PM

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Great question! I suppose so...switches are fun and things can change in an instant...

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 4/10/2008 3:11:04 PM

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I can only speak for myself, and for my current experiences...as life is ever changing and I am ever growing as a person, I may feel differently 5 years from now. But for now, I have to say that while I enjoy Topping the right submissive, my true passion lies in submitting to the right Master. I fantasize about both sides, but it is the bottoming that makes my blood burn. I personally am more attracted to Dominant Tops, but there is the occassional subbie that makes me long to have them kneeling at my feet. As for other swtiches, I cannot Switch with the same person, so I would only enjoy a swtich that was more sub or more Dom rather than shifting. But, thats just me

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 4/10/2008 7:17:00 PM

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I want another switch. A lot. Right now, in fact....

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 4/13/2008 11:26:30 AM

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My wife and I both identify as service sub switches. We both enjoy domming each other, but largely in the context of subbing to them, becuase domming is what they want... if that makes sense.

I like going back and forth from being the top to being the bottom, and every woman I've ever dated has tended to be the same.

Beyond that, while my wife and I are monogamous, MOST switches I've known, particularly female switches, tend to be poly. They tend to get one dom and one sub, and thus switch with the different people, rather than the same partner. Not always, but I see it alot.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 4/15/2008 4:47:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: solvr70

I know this is a bit of a generalization, and i not big on those, but...

It seems pretty intuitive that Dom/me's tend to be attracted to subs, and the reverse would be true.

Top's i would think would be attacted to subs and bottoms.

But, i've never quite been sure about S/switches.

i do tend to fall outside of "bottom" mode and if the one i'm with enjoys taking the bottom role, i do enjoy Toping. but not enough to consider myself a S/switch.

so....what type of person do S/switches tend to be attracted to, and with that occasional interest in Toping, is bottom still the best description of myself?

*hugs solvr*

For me, the attraction isn't dependant on -what- a person identifies as. It depends on that person and their personality and how they make me feel.

As for giving yourself a title....it's not required. You are what you want to be and are comfortable being, and for some, that changes occassionally over time.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 4/15/2008 11:03:00 PM

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I'm a switch, more dominant than submissive. I've found that the majority of the people I play with/would consider a relationship with happen to be switches as well. However, I rarely switch within a relationship. People, even other switches, push my dominant or submissive or neutral button. Very rarely does one person bring both sides out of me. I just try to be open...open to possibilites.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 4/16/2008 3:24:26 PM

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its been a while since I last posted, over a year in fact.

But my girlfriend and I switch. We pretty much have a vanilla relationship and we play every so often. When we do play we tend to flip each other every now and then. We even role play every now and then.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 4/17/2008 10:29:59 AM

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i love being a switch, but on other hand love being a Mistress to.. but to play both parts in the same night.. no i cant do that plus if im being a Mistress its hard to bow down to another but switch on switch was the starter question. it can happen but with me if im under the ofter switch i stay under them intill the sesion is over... i dont switch in the middle of play. onless they dont have the experince im looking for then i will flip the scept quick..

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 4/17/2008 6:26:02 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dominmd

its been a while since I last posted, over a year in fact.

But my girlfriend and I switch. We pretty much have a vanilla relationship and we play every so often. When we do play we tend to flip each other every now and then. We even role play every now and then.

XD! I like you! My girl and I switch on occasion, and we roleplay, (although I doubt it's the same kind of Roleplay *laughs*.

Publicly, she's the sub. For the munches and clubs, she's the sub. I'm the Domme.

In the bedroom? Another story, it depends on who has gotten which role and what our storyline progresses to be.

Seph aka Reb.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 4/18/2008 10:22:03 AM

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In short, (speaking for myself) I am most attracted to other switches.

Mind you, as has been mentioned (or at least implied) so far with this thread, different people consider switch to mean different things.

To many, switching is simply the ability to enjoy either position, depending upon trust and power levels when interacting.

To me however, it isnt a truly explorative relationship unless the power shifts, and is in a constant state of flux, reacting to both/all parties.
I find this to be absolutely exhilirating, and something that if people havent experienced, they really should.

Sadly, it requires an extremely rare creature to carry off, but my god are they worth the effort.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 4/23/2008 12:04:11 AM

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Although I list as a sub, I suppose I am may be a switch who is looking for a Dom for a change. I think I could do, but I hate power struggle. I would prefer a scheduled thing. One day me on top, one day you on top.

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