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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 7/11/2008 12:15:48 PM   
HerselfTheElf


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I believe, at least for myself and my own observations, that most Switches are about sensation play, that is Top/bottom play, than true D/s. One who is naturally Dominant will be unlikely to be submissive, and vice versa. Not impossible to play against the grain, but quite impossible to live against it.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 7/15/2008 8:09:18 AM   
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I consider myself as a switch but tend to me more attracted to dom/dommes. My primary partner is always dom but sometimes I am domme with others.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 8/11/2008 5:21:24 PM   
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Hi This mainly Cobra since Lola is cooking dinner.

Well i more Dom switch them much of anything. But i prefur swiches my self as my wife lola is one. I like to get take the back seat for while and let her play be the about 95% of the time I am the dom one. We swiched are profile to Dom/dom couple since When Lola with other woman she ver dom over the she love be the aldpa female. We both like very much the swiching of are roles and odd seem every easy for us. It workds very well and very few times dose the domness but heads.We do like to hand with other switches couples more the  Dom/sub couples. Not the We can be freind wein Dom/Dom couples or sub sub couples seem much easyer for is to hang with other the feel the same a we do.

Ps sorry about  me scar spelling and grammer yes i know it's that bad

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 8/18/2008 7:22:53 AM   
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I think it depends on the person, switch basically means you can enjoy being both a dom & a sub. Although, most switches have a preference, and will only sub to a very limited range of people, or visa versa.

Sometimes it is good to be in a relationship with another switch, it means both tendancies are satisfied, but it can also work with a Dom or Sub, a lot of Dom's don't mind their switch subs to have a sub of their own. Or, if you're with a Sub a switch can have a Dom at the same time.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 8/19/2008 8:18:55 PM   
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I'm frickin' attracted to everyone.  LOL.

Seriously, though, if the chemistry and the stars align properly, it doesn't matter what orientation the person subscribes to, nor does gender matter, I'll still be attracted.  When it's there, it's there.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 8/27/2008 8:21:27 PM   
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I love subbing for my Master. However I am very Dominant with other women and love that too. I also love making other men submit. I'm just a switch. And I love being a switch.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 9/30/2008 10:10:26 AM   
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I love switches! ( ok, and dommes and subs too!)

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 10/3/2008 3:08:59 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: NakedOnMyChain

I'm frickin' attracted to everyone.  LOL.

Seriously, though, if the chemistry and the stars align properly, it doesn't matter what orientation the person subscribes to, nor does gender matter, I'll still be attracted.  When it's there, it's there.



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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 10/27/2008 11:24:22 PM   
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Nice to see the last few posts compensating for a wealth of early posts where clearly there are people lookin to set up camp in "temporary switch" land where it is a safe ground to consider their Dom/me or sub tendencies. And this is that route a lot of people are taking when they are going from BDSM-curious to being settled as they get a feel for everything.

Also it's true there is a HUGE greyscale inbetween and some people will really spend ever onwards without ever firmly defining themselves at the poles of Dom or sub.

But what I'm lookin for is that rare camp of people that are just so dead sure they are right on that line 50-50 switch, and that will never change. Hey it's usually from enough experience but sometimes younger people will just know. What I can't seem to stress is how rare it is, and how much it can cause a problem when you know that as one, you will only be happy with another, and you can't find them anywhere.

You'll find people that'll say "yeah I like that idea!" and then before long you can see them drifting towards one of the directions! And the problem is that if you are really enjoying how that is turning out you can compromise your own switch status just to enjoy things for their sake - hence the eternal plight of the established switch. You'll end up migrating from where you're comfortable to help make other people happy.

Now I've looked a lot into the character type that makes up a true switch so I could profile better - hopefully what I came up with is accurate, maybe someone can verify.

A diehard switch is so enamored with the psychological aspects of it, that they really want to split their time between both roles to get tastes of it right in tandem with new developments in their creative minds for both roles. They'll be the best adult fiction writers because they can really understand the inner workings of the mind in deep Dom/me space and sub space. And it will frustrate them to only be getting one side of things for too long.

You know I wish there was a BDSM personals site for just switches to make this easier but overall it's probably more important that the whole community stays together. But at least it might make it easier to look into how rare this sort of perspective really is (I would dream of co-writing adult fiction professionally with another mastermind switch and then acting it out on the side... but just to get into the psychology alone with someone at that same level of mind would be truly satisfying all by itself).

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 11/7/2008 9:23:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: solvr70

I know this is a bit of a generalization, and i not big on those, but...

It seems pretty intuitive that Dom/me's tend to be attracted to subs, and the reverse would be true.

Top's i would think would be attacted to subs and bottoms.

But, i've never quite been sure about S/switches.

i do tend to fall outside of "bottom" mode and if the one i'm with enjoys taking the bottom role, i do enjoy Toping. but not enough to consider myself a S/switch.

so....what type of person do S/switches tend to be attracted to, and with that occasional interest in Toping, is bottom still the best description of myself?



I tend to gravitate towards other switches.  It just ends up working better for me.

Often times though those switches have a preference so I have to decide if I want to be involved with someone who is going to want it a certain way a certain percentage of the time.

Finding someone who is totally 50/50 would be cool but I'm not holding my breath to find another like me.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 11/13/2008 4:10:30 AM   
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I tend to look for Doms or switches.  As a sub-switch, i'm not much for another submissive. 

Wimpy men irritate me, and for some reason those are the only subs that I ever find. 

It seems from my experience that switches are more open to vanilla play than tops and bottoms, because they don't solidly identify as Dom/sub/Top/bottom/whatever, so there's a little more wiggle room. 

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 7/8/2009 4:58:52 AM   
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I tend to feel submissive around older, more dominant people, and more dominant around younger people.  Experience comes into play here too.  Someone my age or younger, with more experience can talk me into rolling over. 

I just worry about attraction first, who tops who will tend to make itself clear early on.

I prefer other switches to doms or bottoms, but will play with anyone I genuinely like and have fun with.

Herself...It is definately about sensation play for me, and for most of  that, I dont even need a partner, shhhhh. Total d/s tends to piss me off after a while. I want a partner who can let me get my revenge and be good humored about that. 

In all things sex, I like fun.  Most doms and subs, especially straight males take themselves far so seriously.  I like the good humored devilish, witty kind of person from whom you never quite know what to expect.  Laughter and leather do not have to be mutually exclusive concepts.  

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 8/22/2009 3:27:25 PM   
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Most switches I know tend to have one side that they lean towards more frequently.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 8/22/2009 7:17:20 PM   
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i'm a slave and i submit to male dominants only. when i flip the switch and feed my inner sadist i prefer submissive men instead. i have never had an affinity for switches.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 8/23/2009 10:59:01 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: HerselfTheElf

I believe, at least for myself and my own observations, that most Switches are about sensation play, that is Top/bottom play, than true D/s. One who is naturally Dominant will be unlikely to be submissive, and vice versa. Not impossible to play against the grain, but quite impossible to live against it.


Then your observations are wrong because the switches I know, including myself can be deeply into the D/s side of things. I can go for ever without taking or giving sensation play but I can't be happy without my D/s. I neither consider myself a Top or a bottom (not ever). My submission is total, my Dominance is total.
I am naturally submissive, I am naturally Dominant depending on who I am with, so please don't put me in a box of not being natural. You have not met me!!

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 8/23/2009 11:07:29 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: allthatjaz


quote:

ORIGINAL: HerselfTheElf

I believe, at least for myself and my own observations, that most Switches are about sensation play, that is Top/bottom play, than true D/s. One who is naturally Dominant will be unlikely to be submissive, and vice versa. Not impossible to play against the grain, but quite impossible to live against it.


Then your observations are wrong because the switches I know, including myself can be deeply into the D/s side of things. I can go for ever without taking or giving sensation play but I can't be happy without my D/s. I neither consider myself a Top or a bottom (not ever). My submission is total, my Dominance is total.
I am naturally submissive, I am naturally Dominant depending on who I am with, so please don't put me in a box of not being natural. You have not met me!!



I agree.




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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 9/8/2009 12:56:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: satyrsnymph28
Wimpy men irritate me, and for some reason those are the only subs that I ever find. 


AmEn.  You are very much singing to the choir!!  Wimpy men are THE most aggravating creatures ON the face of Earth (nearly tied with Stupidity).

As for me myself and what i'm most attracted to?  For play, it really doesn't matter as long as i'm physically attracted to them.  Switch, D-type, s-type, vanilla just going to let me beat the shiznit out of them to see if they like it.....play is play and if it doesn't work out the first time then there isn't a second.  For relationships i've leaned toward dominant men and submissive women, even if the D/s influence wasn't there (however those never worked out and ended BADLY soo...i've learned my lesson).

i'd never say there was a "typical", "common", or "standard" switch-type.  But i'd never say that about D's or s's either.  Everyone's idea of what they want/need and what it really is to be anything D/s related.....they are all kinda different.  Sometimes the basics are the same, sometimes someone's idea is completely unheard of.  i don't think anyone is right or wrong, i just think everyone is different.  Makes life more interesting that way.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 9/21/2009 8:38:23 PM   
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Ya know I've been avoiding this thread thinking I already posted in it and as it turns out I never did.  I can't answer for what is typical of switches, but I can tell you what my deal is.

In my profile I put that I was looking for submissive, dominant, or switch girls.  My preference, were I to get to choose any of the three, would be another switch.  This is because I am the kind of switch who is looking to be both dominant and submissive at times with the same person.  Now... do I require another switch?  I would say no.  I would say that someone being strictly dominant or strictly submissive would still be a lot of fun for me, I am the kind of person who would have a lot of fun in either of those scenarios... but probably even more fun with both.  The only thing I am trying to avoid now is vanilla.  Having been in a vanilla relationship for 4 years I've kind of decided that I'd like to be with someone much more BDSM-minded.

To date I've seen many more submissives looking for the kind of relationship that I would be happy with than dominants.  The dommes, at least it seems in my area, seem primarily more interested in sessions and tributes than people.

But anyway, yes.  At least in my case I would most prefer another switch, but because I personally have a lot of fun being either dominant or submissive... being with someone who wanted me to be either of those two things all the time wouldn't be bad by any stretch.

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 9/21/2009 9:48:28 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: HerselfTheElf

I believe, at least for myself and my own observations, that most Switches are about sensation play, that is Top/bottom play, than true D/s. One who is naturally Dominant will be unlikely to be submissive, and vice versa. Not impossible to play against the grain, but quite impossible to live against it.



No, as a switch, I'm not in a true D/s relationship.....


I'm in a true (for us) M/s TPE relationship.

*coughs and goes back to being unworthy of a true dominate*

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RE: Are S/switches typically interested in other S/swit... - 9/30/2009 5:42:01 PM   
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I preferably like other switches just because I like being both, and someone who is a dom can only dominate me, and vice versa...

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