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would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:04:35 PM

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I know that a lot of subs / slaves may state that they are willing to relocate......
But would you really move half way across the world ,,,,, or even further.
And yes I understand about getting to know and learning to trust your Dom / Master before doing anything , it's just as a Dom I see very little point in having contact with subs that are so very far away.... Please tell me I'm wrong...

RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:10:40 PM

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For the right one, yes.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:11:59 PM

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To tell the truth?

ALOT of factors would have to go into the decision. I guess some would say it depends if you are submissive or slave. That's bull crap IMHO.

Sir and I are as close as I want to be right now... I am his devoted and He is mine... living quarters doesnt not make for more devoted and adored property.

Just for the record? I would NEVER go farther than my trust would allow me.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:16:33 PM

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I don't put that I'm willing to relocate in my profile. It would not be easy for me to move, which is what I think of when I see the "willing to relocate" thing.

For someone I was serious enough about to want to spend the rest of my life with, yes, I would relocate, and I would jump thru the hoops necessary to do so (for instance, I would have to get a judge's approval to take the little ones permanently out of the state).

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:17:05 PM

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Thanks for your reply ,,, but surely if you can not touch , feel or hear how each other are ......... how can you bond other than by words.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:23:29 PM

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hear? thats what phones are for LOL

before I would move I'd have to spend time visiting on either (or both) ends. and yes, I'd move (planning to, actually..)

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:24:26 PM

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Since i was unwilling to relocate i would not allow myself to become emotionally involved with someone who was not close.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:32:59 PM

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On this question I can say that there are also other subs out there like myself (my profile is on LostLittleSoul, but unfortunately for whatever reasons I dont get into this forum with that one, which is why I opened this one here additional) who are already living away from home, who might experience/know that there is no need / way to return really and therefore will know that I will move on as I personally don't want to live in UK for the rest of my life.

Or to say it precisely, I came from germany to England due to the bad economy at home. Now I am here since 3.5 years and made my decision that I don't want to stay here for a variety of reasons. Therefore I am interested to see another part of the world once my studies are finished in 2010 and will definitely move. Either on my own, or with/to a Dom. Simple. Some guys on here said, that I might want to go back home. No i dont. Because in what I am studying the economy won't get any better in my country and the payment in that job is additional ridicioulus low in my country (for the payment I would receive at home, I wouldn't need to be bothered to study here, to get my mountain of student debts and then to pay it off with this low income....there I would have been better off to stay in my previous job and to try to get back into that one at home - instead of struggling through the uni demands).

So it also depends on the background of the person who says that he/she would be willing to relocate. I do as I certainly will. But I don't think I would do it anymore, if I would have found work at home before i got my place here at Uni.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:34:53 PM

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I did. From NS to AB to be with my man. We are not D/s but we entered a Gorean Free Companionship. Online as friends for months, online seriously for months, phones for months, visits for months, finally the move a little over a year later.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:36:24 PM

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quote:

it's just as a Dom I see very little point in having contact with subs that are so very far away.... Please tell me I'm wrong...

You are thinking logically. Nothing wrong with talking to people who are far away, just don't get imbroiled in intense situations. I am not willing to relocate, for me to do so would mean giving up a lot of stuff, and this is something I can't do and I don't want to do.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:51:43 PM

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I've moved a few times at least in primary priority for my relationship.

We move for lots of reasons- why wouldn't the person you are committed to be among those as legitimate?

However, it would be wrong to assume you cannot bond in any other way but through words just because you are not physically together.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:55:38 PM

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Your right devil, you cant touch, taste or feel from a font or a phone line.
BUT...... chemistry can be tested to some extent that way.
It's all individual how or IF you proceed.
With that said, if it's right, it's right and the ends of the Earth would not be a barrier.

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ORIGINAL: devil1963

Thanks for your reply ,,, but surely if you can not touch , feel or hear how each other are ......... how can you bond other than by words.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 2:57:20 PM

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Its funny how i always find this subject before me but ever since i have discovered BDSM i have also got used to the idea of having to relocate. From the old porn magazines i used to read to now with the internet technology relocating is always something that will be under consideration. Someone told me once of how small our local community is so i would assume of how hard it would be also to find a suitable partner. In my case relocation should not be as a big issue as it should sound as i am single with no children. The past year i have been involved with a Lady from overseas online but i also have made friends with a few people of my local community. The connection i have experienced with the Lady overseas is nothing to compare with the one i have with local members. We have made the effort to meet on a holiday trip for 3 weeks She came as my guest. During Her stay i notice many differences that i could not come accustomed with but also something that connected us. i felt for the first time able to be myself or at least act out my sexuality with someone who could understand me perfectly. i still think i wouldn't be able to live with Her until She would start taking more changes of caring about Herself. During the time we have known each other She has made enormous efforts and changes to rectify Herself. i am quite comfortable with living here but i would love to try to live with Her and Her family when i get a chance even as a long holiday.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 3:01:04 PM

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He wasnt able to, so when I claimed Angel, I moved away from my home to be closer to HIM. It is not only the submissives who have a touch of wanderlust and can make themselves relocatable after all. You bond through visits, and if you really think its worth it, there isnt much distance that is insurmountable. I was in Vegas, Angel was here in Nashville and yet we made it work. Why, becasue he was worth it.

I have had a few who were moving to my area, with or without my infulence, and others that would have moved had we worked out. It all depends on the circumstances and whether or not the person moving i ready and able to handle the change without screwing up the relationship thats at its core.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 3:01:08 PM

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I find allot of subs say that will relocate, are bisexual and will submit to do anything--as a means to get attention/ accepted/taken--and when it comes to it---pffttt they won't, aren't and wouldn't.

Again, I think far too many subs are enamored with the fantasy---and have given no thought to reality--

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 3:31:14 PM

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Thank you LadyHathor
Your words have expressed just what was in my mind...... shame my typing lets me down so often.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 3:33:05 PM

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I did not check "Willing to Relocate" because I don't want to move away from my general area. (Climate is a big factor here.) However, I'd be willing to move from the exact spot where I live, within a reasonable distance.

I'm just beginning to look for employment after 3 years on disability. I may have to move a certain distance in order to make the commute more reasonable, so a move is in my future anyway. From there, I would only move within commuting distance to live with a Dom.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 3:46:14 PM

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I moved from New Zealand to the USA - for reasons other than BDSM - and can catagorically state that it is very hard. You are left adrift with no friends, acquintences or even knowing where the local supermarket is. It takes at least a year to settle into a new place, and to balance that with a new relationship? Very difficult , very difficult. If I was asking someone to relocate more than an hour or two away, I would want to have enough money that if they were unhappy, they could return to their original home. It would be hell to be stuck with no resources, in an unhappy relationship. This would be one reason why subs and doms need to be financially self sufficient - so if they want out, they can, without worrying about money.

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 3:48:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: devil1963

I know that a lot of subs / slaves may state that they are willing to relocate......
But would you really move half way across the world ,,,,, or even further.
And yes I understand about getting to know and learning to trust your Dom / Master before doing anything , it's just as a Dom I see very little point in having contact with subs that are so very far away.... Please tell me I'm wrong...

Hello Devil,
There was a point in life in which I said that for the right one I would move around the earth.
Now a few years later, and a whole lot of experiances later, I know I will never leave My country.
I'm a singlemom, and not going to drag My son half way across the world for anyone.

My sub lives in Italy, and I visit him twice a year, I'm still looking for one close by, but as Lady Hector said, there are more liars out there, who are very good in sweettalking, instead of anything else.

So, let Me stay where I'm
and if I'm found?
s/he would be happy to come My way.

I wish you enough.

and a Happy Easter.

GoddezzT`

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RE: would you really move away from your home ? - 3/22/2008 3:49:24 PM

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i sort of did do this...i lived in CA and then had to distance myself from my past life before really being with Daddy so i moved to the other side of the country (Daddy made this possible though)..i lived over there for a year and got to spend a month here and a month there with Daddy and then now we are both in CA and have been for about a year....

Considering alot of factors in my life, if Daddy hadn't made it possible for me to have that year to get things in some order, then it wouldn't probably have been possible for me to do (i don't drive and had to leave my career etc)

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