NakedOnMyChain
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Joined: 11/29/2004 From: Indiana Status: offline
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I don't run into a very often. This is probably due to the fact that I'm only searching for friends right now, though. Before I was so happily settled I came across it more often. One in thirty, or so, is a rough estimate. I will, however, say this. The only time I've ever come across that mindset is online. Everyone I have met through my local community has been exceptionally welcoming and understanding. I've never been treated as less by the wonderful people I've met in the community, or removed from consideration for anything simply for being a switch. In fact, they've all been downright fantastic and helpful. Edited to add: The gist of what I was getting at is that I believe this is more of an online problem than not. In real life you meet the switch and get to know them as a person. You can then judge whether they'd be a good fit, either as a dominant or submissive. A person doesn't have that luxury online and often puts forth that they aren't interested in switches just to weed out a bit, even if unwisely. I also feel that some people hold the belief that if they cast a switch into one specific role in their life as top or bottom, the switch will ultimately be unhappy or unfulfilled. This is a genuine concern, but one in which I would hope a person would be willing to trust the switch. If he or she agrees to a role as either dominant or submissive, it would be best to trust that they mean it, and it's up to them to let you know if they change their mind.
< Message edited by NakedOnMyChain -- 3/28/2008 1:02:47 PM >
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"Oh, it's torture, but I'm almost there." ~The Cure "I ask for so little. Just fear me, love me, do as I say, and I will be your slave." ~The Labyrinth
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