RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH?

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 12:36:51 PM

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Short answer to thread title: yes! Aren't we all?

More seriously, about the actual OP post...

I consider "bitch" to be something of an honoriffic from most people, so being called one is not a problem. However, about this particular scene? Nah. I would not have done it in a million years. I know it's just me, but I have always been extremely careful about how I play. I'm even more cautious in situations where the people involved have a pre-existing relationship.  And I would be very reluctant to do emotionally edgy play of any kind with close friends.

I'm not really sure this is about dominance or bitchiness per se--could just be a matter of personal taste. I hate getting involved in someone else's relationship melodrama; even trying to referree, mitigate or counsel that sort of thing is the Yuck, and causing it is right freaking out. That's not necessarily about dominance or bitchiness per se, it's just about avoiding things I don't like.

So far as the general sub-domme dynamic here...I think anyone who knows you well should know by now that you occasionally "teach people a lesson" with your strap-on. You have a very strong domme persona and an incredibly consistent fetish. Pushing through resistance and discomfort, emotional and physical, is what you do.

You have said more than once that when someone's eyes are bigger than his hole, your impulse is to give him what he asks for--no matter how he cries.

If this woman is a close friend, she will probably have heard you say this many times.  In this scenario, she probably thought that her man was the one who was going to suffer the most discomfort in the scene. She was wrong. But once you became aware of discomfort--hers or his--while you were dishing out something that someone asked for? I think your reaction was pretty predictable. "Bitch" or not, you were certainly being Diane!

I'm not saying that this specific behavior would be generally acceptable from just anyone. But in my opinion, the one most important thing that ANY dominant can be, male or female, is consistent.

People lay a lot of responsibility on dominants, but submissives are also adults who have to make intelligent decisions. There is no one set of expectations or rules you can lay on all dommes; we are all different. The only thing you can count on a dominant woman to be is herself.

A tigress will not change her stripes.  Smart money says...don't lock yourself in that cage if you don't want to be subject to her nature.

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 12:44:38 PM

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is consistent.

EEEEKKKKKK!! Don't let Darch see that post. He'll be in a cunundrum the rest of the week!!

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 1:06:08 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressVnus
EEEEKKKKKK!! Don't let Darch see that post. He'll be in a cunundrum the rest of the week!!

Oh, Darch never listens to me anyway. Hell, I can't even call him "handsome" without causing offense.

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 2:14:11 PM

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Fast reply

She stopped by and we had a long chat...Everything is ok now...I'm done with this thread and thanks for all of your replies.

Diane

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 4:06:00 PM

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she needed you to break her subs virgin arse in , what type of mistress is she , you should have bent her over and given her one to

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 4:27:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressVnus

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An Hour, I don't do something fur for that long!

I hate to burst your bubble, but it often takes me an hour just to start getting warmed up!! I'm sure I'm not the only one.
However, I'm used to getting into my space for days at a time.
And, I don't know if the post is true of not, but I know that there are probabaly several here that could play for an hour and much more, besides myself.

I can go all night, but I have yet to find a man who can take it hard in the ass for over an hour. I've met some who couldn't take it hard in the ass at all.
You know how I know that? I respect safe words.

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 4:48:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

She acts all Dominant when she is around me but, she is really a submissive woman...I showed her how submissive she really is.

Diane

WOW You truly did Ms Diane.

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 6:31:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

She asked me if I would do it.

I was doing my best friends new B/F with a strapon lastnight infront of her after I tied her to a chair. She was ok with it at first. Then she had this VERY jealous look on her face and that made me even more turned on so, humped his ass harder and harder. I didn't want to stop. By this time I could tell she was getting mad. I made her sit there for about an hour while I had my way with his ass before I untied her. Then she called me a bitch.

Edit; He was tied up too.

Am I a bitch?

Diane

Yes, you are...but in a very good way.

She shouldn't have asked if she couldn't handle it.

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 7:39:10 PM

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Just because, you yourself don't fuck or do "something for that long" does not mean others do not, and nor does it make them a bullshitter.

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Don't know if your a bitch as much as a bullshitter! An Hour, I don't do something fur for that long!

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 7:41:54 PM

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Yup. I can and I have played for 2 or 3 hours sometimes continously and non stop..

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An Hour, I don't do something fur for that long!

I hate to burst your bubble, but it often takes me an hour just to start getting warmed up!! I'm sure I'm not the only one.
However, I'm used to getting into my space for days at a time.
And, I don't know if the post is true of not, but I know that there are probabaly several here that could play for an hour and much more, besides myself.

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 10:14:45 PM

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Here's the thing. You might think you're qualified to speak for every one about what this lifestyle is, or isn't, but wake up you're not. The only person you're qualified to speak for is the person you own. Not every person alive doing bdsm.

I think you should re-read my post. I'm fairly certian I say "I" in that post. Also, you should apply this same principle to the person who says no one can do this for an hour.

Go take your SOURPUSS somewhere else and get it out of my ass before I SHEEAT on you!!

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/3/2008 10:16:48 PM

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Here's the thing. You might think you're qualified to speak for every one about what this lifestyle is, or isn't, but wake up you're not. The only person you're qualified to speak for is the person you own. Not every person alive doing bdsm.

Don't you have a 2nd act? *yawn*

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/4/2008 10:57:36 AM

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Learn to read and pay attention. that's called a signature post. It goes on ALL of my posts and was not a reply to you. So take your ass back to learn to read post schools and learn the diffrence between a reply to you and someone's signature line. Before you make yourself look even stupider than you already have.

I agreed that I myself play for hours on end, to your post that people here other than yourself probably play for hours.

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ORIGINAL: MistressVnus

quote:

Here's the thing. You might think you're qualified to speak for every one about what this lifestyle is, or isn't, but wake up you're not. The only person you're qualified to speak for is the person you own. Not every person alive doing bdsm.

I think you should re-read my post. I'm fairly certian I say "I" in that post. Also, you should apply this same principle to the person who says no one can do this for an hour.

Go take your SOURPUSS somewhere else and get it out of my ass before I SHEEAT on you!!

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/4/2008 11:03:16 AM

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Don't you know how to read and comprehend what a post is and what a SIGNATURE LINE IS? obviously not.

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Here's the thing. You might think you're qualified to speak for every one about what this lifestyle is, or isn't, but wake up you're not. The only person you're qualified to speak for is the person you own. Not every person alive doing bdsm.

Don't you have a 2nd act? *yawn*

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/4/2008 11:07:51 AM

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I apologize.

I am not used to looking for responses "above" the quote. And, the one line didn't catch my eye.
Thanks for pointing it out and I am sorry if I offended you.

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/4/2008 11:09:19 AM

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See my response to the earlier post.

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/4/2008 11:12:22 AM

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Thank you. I am sorry for the catty reply. I am sorry for allowing my grumpyness this morning to flow out onto someone elses mistake. Edited to fix a u in allowing.

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ORIGINAL: MistressVnus

I apologize.

I am not used to looking for responses "above" the quote. And, the one line didn't catch my eye.
Thanks for pointing it out and I am sorry if I offended you.

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/4/2008 11:13:40 AM

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Get me in a good space, and with the right mood and partner, and woooooooooweeeeeeee we play for hours on end. MistressVnus

It's nice to see others can play for hours an hours too. A good playtime session is sometimes just what the mind and body needs. Course later on my sorebody might not be thanking him but I sure am.!

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RE: Am I a Dominant BITCH? - 4/4/2008 11:28:43 AM

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Thank you. I am sorry for the catty reply. I am sorry for allowiung my grumpyness this morning to flow out onto someone elses mistake.

NP. Can we hug now?

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