WidowSpiders
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For us, it's not so much an intimidation issue as it is an issue of personality. In our experience, switches tend to be straight forward, blunt, and lack a submissive attitude and demeanor. Further, a relationship with a switch would simply not work out because we would be aware that an aspect of their personality was not being stimulated. There would be constant concerns that the person had urges to dominate us, another one of our slaves, or an outside person, and leaving a person unfulfilled would make us poor dominants indeed.
Switches that we have met tend to be argumentative and wish to be spoken to as equals, not as a submissive to a Domme, especially in conflict situations. Typically switches wish to be treated as an equal or even dominant when a conflict arises. Suddenly we are no longer in a relationship with the submissive person they claimed they could be, but are instead vanilla equals at best. Even if they never ask us to switch for them, they only seem to submit when it suits them, and not because it is inherent in their personality.
It appears that switches are more likely to view dominance and submission as a bedroom activity only, and not a personality type. While switches like to pretend to be submissive when it suits their purpose, they tend to behave dominantly elsewhere.
Issues of responsibilities also come up. If a person behaves like a vanilla or dominant person outside of the scening room, what responsibilities are we to take on? We live 24/7, so switching or slipping into vanilla behavior simply does not come naturally. A lot of the responsibilities we take on as Dommes are created because of the person's constant submissive nature. Our protocols and daily interactions rely upon the person always behaving in a submissive manner.
Lastly, given that the concept of switch varies from person, approaching a switch is quite a bit more of a crap shoot.
The difference between being a switch and being a bisexual is that being bisexual revolves around who you interact with, while being a switch also revolves around how you interact with them.
For some reason we have run into many switches who try to convince people on the extreme ends of the spectrum that we are really switches deep down. One man we met at a munch motioned to a chair next to him and said, "Hi! It's nice to meet you, have a seat!" When I sat down he loomed overhead and said, "See? You did what I told you to do. Deep down you really want to submit. Admit it, you're a switch." Often the argument is made that because we have a boss and pay taxes to the government, we are submissives, must like it, and should admit to being switches. At one point in our early experimental days, we collared a switch. As she explained it, she was submissive only to people she felt were worthy. She constantly argued with us on bizarre topics with the end goal of having the last word and being right. The only time she was submissive was in the bedroom, despite assurances that she could be completely submissive.
Our experiences with switches have overall been very negative, which is a shame because we started out having equally high opinions of every orientation in this lifestyle. It is a terribly stupid thing to do to generalize and hold other people in a group accountable for the bad behavior of a few, but at this point, it is simply a safety mechanism and a time saver.
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