KaineD
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Okay some realities ...your age ...your young...you state you love whips canes crops and I also know from posts that you are new.. a whip can take a few years to become proficient with so as not to do damage eg tearing open the skin , as a sub I am not will to become an experiment toy for someone wanting to learn to use impact toys .
Why would someone assume I want an experimental whipping post? Point taken though. I think you're correct in that if you're going to list whipping as something you love you should be experienced in it, whereas I simply meant I like the idea of it. I've ammended my interests appropriately.
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Also being a novice sub I want someone with experience who knows what they are doing as a result most young subs will be looking for Doms several years older than themselves, so you ages is going to work against you, I have no idea what age range you are contacting but I think most women want someone near their own age and older, I know I am not going to be interested in some Dom younger or around the same age than my own child.
I always message subs younger than myself. Partly because I prefer younger women, and partly because I recognise that subs are generally looking for someone older. The age range I message is between 18 and 23. I can't unfortunately do anything about my age except sit around and wait to get older. So if I'm messaging an 18 year old and she's thinking "oh, he's FAR too young to Dom me", then that's kinda their problem and not mine. I can't do anything about that at all.
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you do not say a lot about yourself in your profile, so this becomes the focal point which to many will assume low maturity level and living in a fantasy world, not enough there to sugest you may be self supporting and have maturity level beyond your years which is important if you are to be control or in a position of authority over someone else.
I was trying to present myself as someone fun. I don't think a Dom should be serious like some school teacher all the time.
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Using your journal to rant about subs probably is not going to score you any points either as again is shows a level of immaturity better to just hold that thought and use as a screening tool rather that complain publicly about.
I had only added that journal entry very recently and have since deleted it because I don't want to present a negative attitude. But part of me figures, 9 out of 10 sub profiles list the type of people they DON'T want messaging them, why can't I talk about the kind of profiles that won't get my attention?
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As others stated most subs especially younger females are going to be recieving a lot of contacts from males so really not necessary for them to be out hunting as a result,, even at my age I don't have to go hunting and can be keep busy enough sorting and filter emails recieve when I state I am searching .
CaringandReal states that she had more positive experiences when she messaged Doms as opposed to wading through her inbox. But obviously it's different for everyone, the same thing isn't always going to work.
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If a person reads your reply and you get no response than in fact they have sent a clear message....meaning ...not interested....... those messages that you send that are not read have likely ended up in the subs bulk folder due to having email filters turned on meaning you do not fit the parameters of the Dom they are searching for, therefore you email does not end up in their inbox so they never even see it
That's fair enough, I can understand a sub reading a message and not being interested. She isn't obligated to reply at all.
I think your post is a little negative. You talk about maturity and such. Search the UK, female subs, 18 to 23. How would you rank the maturity level of about 1/3 of the profiles? And then after that how many even vaguely interesting profiles are there? There isn't a huge amount. I mean, if subs can be bitter, I can be bitter too. Can't I? *shrugs*
If you look around the message boards (in fact there's another topic here with a guy with similar frustrations) you can see I'm not the only one frustrated with lack of replies to well thought out messages.
So just because girls won't respond, it has me thinking "why aren't they responding?" Is it because I'm too young? Is it because sometimes my grammar and spelling isn't awalys 100% perfect? Should I therefore put on my profile "I've got dyspraxia and dyslexia so my grammar and spelling isn't always gonna be perfect". Am I overthinking my messages or not putting enough thought in? Or, and I believe this is the most likely, no matter what I have on my profile or what I have in my messages, I'm still going to get round about the same amount of replies. 'Cause a lot of subs have different standards which they don't list on their profiles. It's like, sorta walking on eggshells or something. "If I say this, am I being too personal? Is she gonna huff and thnk how dare he ask that? Is she gonna huff 'cause I'm not trying to Dom her straight away? Does she think I'm ugly?" It's enough to drive ya mad.
And what's more frustrating, is a likely reply to that kind of post from a Dom results in the Dom being told he's too negative, or he's not confident enough. I'm a human being. I don't fit into a box of what a Dom should or shouldn't be.
< Message edited by KaineD -- 4/6/2008 5:13:31 PM >
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