MsLilac
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ORIGINAL: youngsubgeoff For other subs: Do you ever get sick of dealing with dominants? Does theyre overall ego (and yes, its there) just ever get to the point where you want to start slapping all of them across the face? I know Im sick of most of them, because they cant see more than 3 feet in front of them. Theyre like selfish little children. Why do we do it then? Why do we give and give? Most of us KNOW that theyre not worth it. But still we try. Why? Whats the fucking point? Why do we need it so badly? Geoff, Forget the labels that are imposed, or self styled, it has nothing to do with that. People can be asshats, regardless of what they identify as… domme, dom, sub, slave switch, et al. It’s not label specific. I don’t know you, but you might have better luck if you start searching beyond the label; that is to say, realise that ‘domme’ etc, is just an incredibly broad category that some people identify themselves under. It doesn’t automatically make them ‘real’, or answerable to some code of dommely honour, or fit that fantasy you may have. You need to be just as wary looking for someone in this lifestyle, as you would in ‘vanilla’. I know it must be quite painful for you now, but as time goes by you will realise it is just one step in identifying what you do, and do not want in a partner, and what to avoid. But that said, don’t let it jade you - it was one person, not the whole broad ‘group’. Letting it jade you is the lazy persons way of dealing with painful situations. As someone else said, the only constant in your relationships is you, if they are not working out, ask yourself why. It does NOT mean you are to blame for the way you were treated, it means, why are you allowing yourself to be treated like that? What is attracting you to that type of person? It means taking responsibility for yourself and doing something constructive for yourself, as opposed ranting and ‘throwing-hands-up-in-the-air-not-taking-responsibility,-lumping-all-dominants-as-egotistical-assholes-and-telling-everyone-to-fuck-off’. Hating the world, and telling people to fuck off, but at the same time seeking camaraderie is only isolating yourself, and making you look egotistical. You know that slap around the face that you want to give certain egotistical dominants? Well, that's the same kind of slap that your petulant behaviour will entice from less sympathetic people. I hate to sound harsh, but you obviously seek to make a connection with people in this painful time you are going through, you will only become jaded when you are not aware that your aggression isolates you, and brings negative attention. I am also assuming from what you’ve said, that your search is primarily internet based? Well that brings a whole new set of issues to an already difficult search. If online is your primary search technique, then seriously, get out in your local BDSM community. Searching only online makes you more prone to the situation you find yourself in. Good luck in your future search.
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