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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW
What is shallow to me is being nasty or demeaning to those that one is not attracted to on a physical level or does not have the same interests.

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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

*smile* a nice theory, but I tend to assume that if there's a chance a problem is with someone else, or with me, the problem is probably with me.

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

The guy might only have a twin bed. How about a futon. What about if he has a mini cooper.

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If the sorts of things a Dom is "into" tend to be much easier to do with slender, young, fit submissives, does that mean the dom is shallow for overlooking more voluptuous or mature partners? And if the answer is "it depends" (and it usually is with such questions :) ), what do you feel it depends on

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

You know, i'm usually not in the least bit snarky but the OPs other threads has me wondering just what is going on.  He gets his girl to finally meet his physical requirement and she leave him and now he has trust issues.  Perhaps had he been more involved in being what she needed emotionally instead of her being what he desired physically, she would not have ever left.  Oh well.

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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth
I have this neat idea for a suspension bondage scene. You'll need to be able to arch your back so your butt touches your shoulders, and you'll need to be suspended by *this rope* without breaking it.

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2. "put on these ballet boots, this corset, and this arm-binder, and walk the dog." (Although, to be fair, a 150-lb girl who's recently lost 50+ lbs and has been weight-training for the past 6 months is actually going to probably do better at this than a 90-lb girl who's been starving herself to stay 'thin'. Hmm... amazons in ballet boots... I'll be in my bunk.)

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ORIGINAL: tsatske

Okay, I'm really not trying to be arguementative here, but, have you EVER actually SEEN ANYONE actually walk in ballet boots? We own a pair, and I am afraid that, as far as I can see, they are made to keep a girl crawling.

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Now, the fact that I can't walk in them won't convince you, I am a bigger woman, and you obviously think walking in them is related to weight (though i can't see why wearing heels is related to weight, to be honest)

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But on this site, on another thread, a thin, cute, tiny little bondage model girl poster mentioned an upcoming shoot she had in bondage boots, and i got excited and asked her, 'oh, wow! you can walk in them! tell me how!' and she replied that she had not said she could WALK in them, she said she could stand in them - a bondage model, with a LOT of practice, and she said, she could stand - if assisted to her feet by three people on the shoot, and then she could, in her words, 'manage to totter there like an idoit until they get a teether around me that they will airbrush out later.'
So, I am really, really sincerely interested in if you have ever known anyone who can actually walk in them?

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On the other hand! When I'm in the right mindset, I consider things like a missing limb, or a bad back, or anything like that as an 'interesting engineering challenge', and throw myself enthusiastically into the project. Of course, that mindset comes... once every six months, maybe? And I'd hate to get into a relationship with someone where the other 362 nights of year, I'm saying "not right now, honey." That wouldn't be fair to either of us.

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ORIGINAL: tsatske

Okay, I'm suitably impressed. I understand all the threads of the 'why would you want someone else to train YOUR girl for you', but, if you were close to us, I'd seriously ask Master if i could get some of my heel training from you. Later - after I work up to routinly wearing the 6 inches. (He had the idea that I would learn to wear the 6 inches whenever we were out, and wear my fours or 2 at home, but i talked Him into reversing that goal - wear the 6s at home <which will put me in them more, anyway>, and wear 4s and even 2s when we go out, because there are more fashion choices in those and it will be easier to make them match what i am wearing.)

But i do still think that, while there might be challenges with training a sub who is bigger - or with other physical requirements (even hair legnth, as you mentioned), it is not undoable. But i think it is a very common misconception that it is.

At a recent party, with people from my own munch - Doms who very much live a 24/7 lifestyle, are very good at what they do, who i respect a great deal - a young, thin, and very cute little thing was attending her first party. The demonstrator asked her if she would model for his demo, and when she said yes, he got very excited, and said 'oh, wow. My sub is much bigger than you. I can do things with you i usually can't do with my models'. All the Doms nodded and chimed in about all the things he would be able to do with her - have her elbows meet, have her in a bow with her toes pointing at her head, ect - while she stood there going, 'uhm, yea, i don't really think that is going to work'. When he tried, she had to keep making him take her out, saying 'yea, i'm pretty flexible, that's an advatage of being 19 and i know i'm thin, but - OW! uhm, not quite this flexible?!'
All the Doms were agreeing that 'a big woman just can't get her elbows to meet'. I kept my mouth shut, because, well, i can't get my elbows to meet. But I am training towards it. I don't belive it is a size issue - sure, i am bigger, that means pulling the arms further back, but really it is just training and flexiblity. But, I may never be able to prove that a bigger woman can do that, because i expect it will take some time to train to it, and i am actively shrinking in the mean time, so i might get put right out of that arguement.

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Just as an aside, just wanna be sure, we are talking about the same things, right, when it comes to bondage boots? 7-8 inch heels with no platform?
http://users.powernet.co.uk/wingett/ballet.htm

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ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth

I honestly don't know. I helped her get her courage up to go back to college. I stayed up with her every night, helping her study. I talked with her for weeks, and her sister, when her sister had to get an abortion. I helped guide her into having the strength to confront her father about being abused. I always told her how much I loved her, how wonderful she was, how much better she made my life. It's entirely possible you're right; it's quite likely that there's something glaring that I missed. But I'm too blind to see it.