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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/10/2008 9:54:55 PM

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It's not so much the 'shallow' physical requirements which I feel is the problem - we all have our preferences - but the stigma which is attached to various body shapes.

This is common knowledge in theatre, film and television and how you look is very important when you are sent along to an audition, especially when it relates to television commercials. I use some of the same techniques in my theatrical productions, for example I will usually have at least one larger actress in a comedy with a larger cast and a very slim actress in drama productions.

However when it comes down to personal relationships, as I form relationships with women, primarily Dommes, I have a slight preference for larger women but the number one criteria is emotional and mental connection. Everybody is attractive is some way, it may not suit your tastes but it's a case of looking that little bit harder.

I see these profiles which state 'NO FATTIES' and I think 'aha, okay'. This is often borne out of a stereotype of unhealthiness, obesity, lack of fitness, visions of this roly poly lady drowning under a sea of pizza boxes and take away containers waving a remote control in the air. However body size is one thing, fitness is another and being able to carry a certain amount of weight is another. I've worked with actresses both large and small and the work rate and strength between them is often negligible and from what I've seen size isn't that much of an issue in the music industry.

But what's wrong with having preferences when it comes to relationships? I mean you have preferences for everything else. But it's not good to put other people down for the way they look or who they are. But having preferences in relationships is healthy discrimination to me.

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/10/2008 9:57:39 PM

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When I see the "no fatties" type comments I usually just think "phew! dodged an asshole bullet on that one!"

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/11/2008 7:36:22 AM

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Also what is the persons definition of a fattie?....... I have had some consider me overweight when I was 30 pounds less than I am now my current photos...when a person states no fatties ..I will avoid them as well like the plague even though I do not consider myself fat...as I am not going to risk putting myself out there to potentially be rejected as being too fat

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/11/2008 7:38:33 AM

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A lot of guys are just trying to aviod this when they say "no whales please"

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/11/2008 9:07:07 AM

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...when a person states no fatties ..I will avoid them as well like the plague even though I do not consider myself fat...as I am not going to risk putting myself out there to potentially be rejected as being too fat

I agree, Maya. I am finally is a pretty good place self esteem wise, and I'm not inclined to risk that my engaging with someone who may have a problem with my body. Preferences are what they are, and if someone's just not into me, then I hope I'm mature and secure enough in myself to handle that.

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/11/2008 10:38:54 AM

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/11/2008 10:42:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: Maya2001

Also what is the persons definition of a fattie?....... I have had some consider me overweight when I was 30 pounds less than I am now my current photos...when a person states no fatties ..I will avoid them as well like the plague even though I do not consider myself fat...as I am not going to risk putting myself out there to potentially be rejected as being too fat

People are retarded. I've just been informed that I'm overweight until I get myself down to 90 pounds. Wtf is this? I don't think I've been 90 pounds since I was in eighth grade or something.

I find it ammusing when guys want a teenie 90 pound bleach blonde bunny, with DD natural boobies. Good luck on that one, talk about having cake and eating it too or something...

Hai! Gimmie that cake!

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/17/2008 5:32:06 AM

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People are retarded. I've just been informed that I'm overweight until I get myself down to 90 pounds. Wtf is this? I don't think I've been 90 pounds since I was in eighth grade or something.

90 pounds ... and you're 5'9"? I suspect ... this guy really didn't understand what that would look like ...

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/17/2008 8:03:57 AM

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I'd like some feedback on this, both from the sub and the Dom side:

If the sorts of things a Dom is "into" tend to be much easier to do with slender, young, fit submissives, does that mean the dom is shallow for overlooking more voluptuous or mature partners? And if the answer is "it depends" (and it usually is with such questions :) ), what do you feel it depends on?

fast reply which probably means will be off topic at this point for which i aplogize in advance--

i would much rather have them be up front with me that my size 16/18 is too 'big' for them than for them to start screwing with my head saying that i'm gorgeous but constantly making stupid nasty little comments about my weight. i've done a lot of thinking about this in the past month or so and i've reached the point where at least they know what they want and they aren't going to jerk me around about it. i think it crosses the line into shallow when they start referring to people as 'fat pigs' or discounting an individual as valid due to their weight/age/whatever. i had a dom remind me recently that if someone it doesn't matter if a dom thinks i'm too fat or out of shape or whatever because at that point i would reject them anyway.

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/17/2008 8:08:04 AM

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...when a person states no fatties ..I will avoid them as well like the plague even though I do not consider myself fat...as I am not going to risk putting myself out there to potentially be rejected as being too fat

I agree, Maya. I am finally is a pretty good place self esteem wise, and I'm not inclined to risk that my engaging with someone who may have a problem with my body. Preferences are what they are, and if someone's just not into me, then I hope I'm mature and secure enough in myself to handle that.

i agree. i have come too far to let myself be taken down by someone who can't be bothered to look for the good in me. i have been flat out told that i'm healthy and i would rather have a dominant who acknowledges that than one who nit picks over the fact that i can't wear hip huggers or shirts that are too tight. i would rather walk away until i find someone who is better inclined to the fact that i'm more round than anything else.

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/17/2008 8:16:01 AM

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Hey, I want a teenie 90 pound bleach blonde bunny, with DD natural boobies or ten. Actually the "natural" part is optional, I don't mind fake boobs. And don't call me shallow, I'm just really picky, ok?

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/17/2008 8:18:27 AM

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People have every right to be shallow, narrow minded and picky.

You have every right not to be with a person like this.

Life really is not that complicated.

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/17/2008 8:24:33 AM

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Hey, I want a teenie 90 pound bleach blonde bunny, with DD natural boobies or ten. Actually the "natural" part is optional, I don't mind fake boobs. And don't call me shallow, I'm just really picky, ok?

at least you know what you want lol

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/17/2008 10:19:11 AM

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LOL... I was just on the main page and saw someones profile that said:
NO FATTIES!! NO FATTIES!! NO FATTIES!! over and over again. It is one thing to have preferences, we all do. But some people really take things to extremes in an extremely rude fashion.
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i've seen that one too although now He has a disclaimer about some of His good friends are heavy and He can see their inner beauty. i really wanted to fire off a mail to that one but sat on my fingers instead...much more fun :)

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/17/2008 6:30:24 PM

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/18/2008 7:23:55 AM

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People have every right to be shallow, narrow minded and picky.
You have every right not to be with a person like this.
Life really is not that complicated.

You also have a right not to be with anyone who feels that someone who states a preference is shallow or narrow minded. There are a millions of people in the world to choose from. Keep looking.

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/18/2008 9:06:42 AM

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RE: Legitimate vs. shallow physical requirements - 5/21/2008 1:04:00 PM

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I'm 24 years old and consider myself reasonably attractive and I'm a good healthy weight, so I don't think it's too much to ask that I eventually find a young, attractive girl that isn't overweight. If that seems "shallow" to some, that's kind of tough.

We're all individuals, and we all want different things.

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