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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/21/2008 6:59:20 AM

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Assuming that things didn't work out only because of their weight, as if nothing else could have possibly influenced the guys decision. Oh it couldn't be the bad breath, or the honk-laugh. No way could it be the personality clash. Nothing to do with different social backgrounds. Not a chance that he simply did not like her.
She could only be dumped because she is overweight because that is how she identifies herself therefore everyone else must identify her that way too.

That is part of why I detest the acronym BBW. I hate seeing someone define themselves in such a narrow category and one that is often an automatic turn off to some people. Its like I'm watching them set themselves up for the fall then pouncing on the 'BBW' part as the blame.

Yes there really are some jerks out there who delight in being nasty. I know that, I've met some. But in order to expect everyone else to have an open mind about people, it has to start from the self.

I'm not disagreeing with your post Lucy, just saying what sparked inside my noggin.

Heyas Camille:) I didnt think you were, disagreeing with me:) I agree with you actually, there are those who use it as a shield , a security blanket, hell I used to do it myself many years ago to a certain extent. But I was thinking more about people who use insults to "get" to a fat person. Not the fat persons personal issues with their size. Thats a constant battle for them.
However I have no interest in keeping this thread alive, so I'll say no more.
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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/21/2008 9:23:25 AM

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I definitely like!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/21/2008 9:15:48 PM

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Bah, theres always facial surgery for skinny chicks with ugly faces, lypo, and tummy tucks for fat chicks, implants for chicks with no tits, and ass implants for chicks with no ass.

There is always hope for the not so perfect. I am totally for plastic surgery, especially if it helps boost up self esteem, and confidance in yourself.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/21/2008 9:24:59 PM

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and at the end of it all,I'm glad we ALL have porno.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/22/2008 12:17:36 AM

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are there any Doms out there looking to find rt ltr happiness with a very submissive, obedient bbw submissive?

what do Doms think of the bbw submissive? why do so many not take us serious, think we are gross or use us for temporary satisfaction?

all i ask is the Dom be unattached, within my area (or willing to pay for travel), ready to commit and eager to own and cherish his submissive.

You know what, reading the OP just gives me bad flashbacks of BBW hitting on me, and me trying to be honest and saying I'm sorry I'm not interested.   However, them not respecting my own freedom of personal tastes and desires.

I've had a couple of run in's by BBW giving me a Gruff over this matter.   I'm not into BBW.

This is on Par with the occassional Homosexual that attempts such guilt trippy comments to get me involved with them.

Really, sit down and think about it for awhile.

Now, there are some guys that are TOTALLY into BBW.   What you need to do is find one.   Keep on looking, sooner or later you'll find somebody.   In the mean time, don't take other people's personal choices and tastes so personally.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/22/2008 12:23:06 AM

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and at the end of it all,I'm glad we ALL have porno.

HAHA! So true! Porn is always awesome. Unless its your own private porno with your lover that somehow slips out and ends up all over the web... Then I dont think its so awesome for those folks LOL!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/22/2008 5:34:37 AM

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i do agree that it is hard to find a Dom who is willing to take on a bigger submissive, as i have had problems with that in the past as well. So i will also be reading the responses and hopefully i can gain some insight as well.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/22/2008 8:41:48 AM

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i do agree that it is hard to find a Dom who is willing to take on a bigger submissive, as i have had problems with that in the past as well. So i will also be reading the responses and hopefully i can gain some insight as well.

When you reread this three month old thread, you will see that ANYONE, regardless of weight or orientation, can have a difficult time finding a partner. There is no advice anyone can offer except to be yourself, and continue to make positive choices.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/22/2008 8:45:01 AM

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i do agree that it is hard to find a Dom who is willing to take on a bigger submissive, as i have had problems with that in the past as well. So i will also be reading the responses and hopefully i can gain some insight as well.

When you reread this three month old thread, you will see that ANYONE, regardless of weight or orientation, can have a difficult time finding a partner. There is no advice anyone can offer except to be yourself, and continue to make positive choices.

Daddy's Ballerina, "e"

Uh huh. I've had very slender subs who were basket cases otherwise. Takes more than a lack of poundage to equal a good match. Of course, if you are a 600 pounder AND a basket case-I don't know what ta tell ya-good luck!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/22/2008 2:45:27 PM

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Well, how can i put this.

im a big girl. and honestly, i wouldent be in to someone who JUST whanted a big girl. That would be a compleat turn off and deal breaker for me. im in to those who are in to me, me as a person. I happend to be alot of other things besides just beeing big. Actualy the one that have had the moste issues with my size when it comes to relationships and sex and all of that whas... yupp, you guessed it. ME.

A guy who loves the "poor me im fat" attitude isent for me. cuz honestly, nothing poor me about me. My Master helped me get over those issues fast. Still to this day i havent turnd the lights of. I get loads of attention when i go clubbing. always have. What i bring to the table (or bed or where ever) is me, my submission and desire to serve.

Ofcorse big girls arent for everyone but then again, who is? Some like em tall, some like em short. Some like em skinny and some like em fat. Using weight as an exuse... well, i did that for ages but it was my exuse for why i wasent able to find someone, i didnt whant to find them and used my weight as the reason why i culdent possebly be in a relationship.

Skinny friends of mine dont get stopped in the streets, dont have strangers giving them flowers and asking them out for dinner and im more like twice the woman they are (in size that is). Its all in the eye of the beholder and the attitude you have about youself. If i think im fabuluse others will belive it to. not everyone but people can tell those things about you.

So, kick that poor fat girl of your shoulders and get a fabulus fat girl instead.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/22/2008 3:06:59 PM

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I am a woman of size or whatever it is you want to call me. That does not define who I am or what I have to offer a Master. I have not had problems with Masters wanting to own me. They enjoy my intelligence, sense of humor, confidence and everything else I have to offer. I am without a Master at this time because I am not willing to settle and have not found the one for me. There are those that have not liked me, I do not jump and say it is because of my size. Usually is is because of a personality clash or different interests. Once again, it all boils down to preferences, we all have them.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 1:58:50 PM

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I find that most BBW are more worried about their weight then their actual masters & that becomes a SERIOUS Problem... The word no comes about too often, which leads to negative things he Dom ends up getting frustrated & instead of using construction ways of discipline, sub combs to physical abuse out of his frustration when the real problem lies in the fact the BBW isn't comfortable within herself.. If you’re not comfortable with yourself, how do u expect to submit to some1. U have to totally be comfortable within yourself, have trust in your Dom & let go. U can't do that if you’re not comfortable within yourself...

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 2:22:22 PM

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I find that most BBW are more worried about their weight then their actual masters & that becomes a SERIOUS Problem... The word no comes about too often, which leads to negative things he Dom ends up getting frustrated & instead of using construction ways of discipline, sub combs to physical abuse out of his frustration when the real problem lies in the fact the BBW isn't comfortable within herself.. If you’re not comfortable with yourself, how do u expect to submit to some1. U have to totally be comfortable within yourself, have trust in your Dom & let go. U can't do that if you’re not comfortable within yourself...

What a wonderful first post, AG, welcome to the forums.
I agree with you. How can anyone who is clearly uncomfortable within their own skin, be comfortable serving another? I am not speaking of any one person, just <gasp!> generalizing <s> That's right, a sweeeeeping statement from MoGa :)

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 2:57:38 PM

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Wow. I totally missed the resurrection of this thread. Lucky, I guess. Thanks for the support and defense, you guys.

Has anyone else noticed that almost every female submissive who posts saying she is having a hard time finding a caring master, has a profile that is exclusively sexual? There's a moral in there somewhere.

Okay. Back to your regularly scheduled programming.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 3:00:49 PM

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Thank u 4 th compliment! I also belive alot of peole like to roll play or live the life only in a sexual way. If u get with a Dom or master & your only interested in the sexual part of the life, then u shouldn't be here & u shouldn't be with some1 totally committed to the life. Understand, this is not a lifestyle, but the way we live & carry ourselves @ all times. Not just in the bedroom.. That's y most relationships don't work either. 1 person is serious, the other is roll playing.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 3:13:00 PM

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Bah, theres always facial surgery for skinny chicks with ugly faces, lypo, and tummy tucks for fat chicks, implants for chicks with no tits, and ass implants for chicks with no ass. There is always hope for the not so perfect. I am totally for plastic surgery, especially if it helps boost up self esteem, and confidance in yourself.

in the end, you cannot take those implants and plastic whatnot with you to heaven.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 3:21:47 PM

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I don't care what kind of physical short comings u have & try to make up. On the outside u may correct miner physical errors, but in reality, if u can't be comfortable within yourself & love yourself. you’re never going to be happy with yourself... U have to be happy with what u are & who u are... There is some1 out here for every1, but we all waste time holding onto some1 in relationships we know are going nowhere until we get tired of it or find something we think is better.. If u know what u want & pay attention to what u have, u should know soon enough if that's what u are looking for long term. Don't hold onto some1 for sexual reasons.. As satisfying as it may be, & as a big of a part it plays in the relationship, you spend only a small percentage of relationship time in a sexual way... U may click sexually with some1, but your personalities may clash outside of that.. That's when things go VERY BAD... Be true to yourself, know yourself, by knowing yourself you will know what u want.. Once u know what u want, u can set out to get it... Be strong enough to realize that & let that Sub, Slave or whatever u desire go....

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 3:44:35 PM

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Yeah well I can't take my glasses to 'heaven' either, but I'm keeping them anyway!

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Bah, theres always facial surgery for skinny chicks with ugly faces, lypo, and tummy tucks for fat chicks, implants for chicks with no tits, and ass implants for chicks with no ass. There is always hope for the not so perfect. I am totally for plastic surgery, especially if it helps boost up self esteem, and confidance in yourself.

in the end, you cannot take those implants and plastic whatnot with you to heaven.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 7:30:48 PM

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I've lost tons of weight. Why is it okay to use BBW as a way to make being unhealthy suddenly sexy? Yeah, I have a bad thyriod. I took massive steriods for asthma. I packed on weight from depression and steriods and thyriod. I got healthy. Size 22, almost size 10 now. About an 11 since my 12's are baggy. What happened to healthy beautiful woman? Heath trumps all. I like a guy who I can walk with on the beach for for more than 10 minutes, who can possibly ski with me, who can have a healthy life. I lost 85 pounds. I know healthy is the way to live. If you don't respect and take your own body and well being seriously, why should others? Respect yourself. Take your health and well being seriously, and maybe it'll change?

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/25/2008 8:03:53 PM

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Good for you. But sexy (and healthy) comes in many forms, and one can love oneself and be sexy when one is not a size 10. Not being skinny is no excuse for self loathing.

I guess my question for you would be why is it not okay for a larger woman to find herself sexy and be considered sexy by others?

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