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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:01:50 AM

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To the OP - you get what you pay for. This site is free and open to all - even fakes and posers. And you have to weed through the muck (to mix metaphors) anywhere. If you wanted support - you should have asked for it. I have seen posts asking for sympathy and they have received very posititve feedback. You didn't ask for support - you posted leading questions that pretty much showed how you were thinking.

I am sorry you had such a bad time. Hugs to you for that.

And for the record (as if we didn't know it) - skinny or slim women don't automatically have a great life. Attaining the magic weight loss goal doesn't make you sexy , attractive to the desired sex, or make you happy. Happy is something from inside you - and the people that make hateful comments about weight aren't happy people. If they were they wouldn't feel the need to "moo".

I am not a hateful person - i post on cm - and have had very positive experiences on this site. Consider forgetting this thread and joining in on other threads. One post does not a site make!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:02:27 AM

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once again i will say....all the post were NOT inappropriate. i did appreciate some of the post and found them insightful. but i rather not weed through the muck to get to the good!

LOL! You've struck right to the heart of the matter with this post, OP.

You're not willing to do the work to get to the worthwhile stuff. Yep, that's not gonna work for you too well, either here or in life, or probably not even on the new board you've discovered.

It's not about people being mean to you on a board, or about whether Dominants want a BBW, or even about a Dom who pissed you off and you now call a fake. It's about you needing to learn yourself and a bit about life and how to both conduct yourself and learn how to separate the wheat from the chaff.

OR you could go about your merry way calling 'poor me' all the while. I wonder how that's been working out for ya thus far ...

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:16:19 AM

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All on the same side? Conflict is necessary for the human species to continue. Not to mention that sometimes wisdom comes in the form of a rock that hurts when it hits us in the head.

If you were looking for a support group only, I recommend checking yahoo groups or something similar.

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christine,
once again i will say....all the post were NOT inappropriate. i did appreciate some of the post and found them insightful. but i rather not weed through the muck to get to the good!
there is no need for it. i thought we were all on the same side!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:16:27 AM

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oh thank you kiwisub for the hug! i did not include my bad experience or ask for support. like i mentioned i may have worded my question improperly. yes...i am moving on and marking this one as a lesson learned. oddly enough i have had some very good experiences on CM and have made some wonderful friends here. but believe me, i am not alone when i say, there are some posters here that really have caused some members to feel unwelcomed and mistreated. i have a pretty thick skin and i was mad not wounded when i had my temper tantrum on page 4 of this thread. no one has a right to tell anyone what they can post on their profile or on the message boards. this is a free site and we all have freedom of expression. some of the posters that have berated me and other members have profiles that i do not particularly like or find inviting but i would never insult them for it.
i have recieved numerous emails from other members since i picked this back up yesterday supporting me in what i have said here. the message boards should be a forum to express ourselves, and share ideas, not be insulted or demeaned for doing just that.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:20:21 AM

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You need to be toughened up a bit. Life is harsh.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:22:45 AM

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LOL...yeah life is harsh!

people like us are looked at harshly! why do we batter each other?

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:26:58 AM

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I have no interest in ANYONE who defines themself as a 'BBW', if they put more importance on their size than on who they are as a person then We are NOT compatable. I have owned girls of all sizes, shapes and colours, in each case it was who they are that attracted Me. Body shape may turn My head on occassion but there needs to be far more to hold My interest.

With all due respect... I describe myself as a BBW but it does not define me. I just believe in being honest about my appearance because I realize that people have their physical preferences. If someone happens to not like a larger woman then there's no time wasted on either side.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:32:07 AM

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phoenix, i agree with you totally. i too rather describe myself as a BBW so there are no misunderstandings not because i expect everyone to cheer me on or be attracted to me. i am proud of who i am and what i have to offer. but i do not believe because i am a BBW i must settle or believe i am less than anyone else!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:33:44 AM

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oh i love that one phoenix!

Thanks! On occasion, I also say that BBW stands for Bodacious, Bedroom Warrior... lol!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:35:23 AM

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have you heard the one, "bigger girls ride harder"? hehehehe!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:42:10 AM

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That's a new one on me but I have heard "the bigger the cushion, the better the pushin'"

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:45:11 AM

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I have no interest in ANYONE who defines themself as a 'BBW', if they put more importance on their size than on who they are as a person then We are NOT compatable. I have owned girls of all sizes, shapes and colours, in each case it was who they are that attracted Me. Body shape may turn My head on occassion but there needs to be far more to hold My interest.

Raven, I have always suspected you are a rare man indeed and your post only reinforces that opinion. I use the term to describe myself, not because it defines me, but mostly for ease of communication. Most people know what it means and if it matters to them then any potential partner can move on before either of us have wasted much time.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:45:36 AM

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oh yes....i have heard the cushion & pushing one! always makes me smile!

LOL....wonderful wonderful!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:49:43 AM

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yes Roselaure! exactly just like i have "no smokers" in my profile narrative. there is nothing worse than getting acquainted and beginning to hit it off when you find out the other is a smoker. i am allergic to smokers....yuck! i do not want to show up for a realtime meeting and feel awkward because the other person finds me unattractive etc. finding the right one is difficult enough, right?

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:54:34 AM

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yes Roselaure! exactly just like i have "no smokers" in my profile narrative. there is nothing worse than getting acquainted and beginning to hit it off when you find out the other is a smoker. i am allergic to smokers....yuck! i do not want to show up for a realtime meeting and feel awkward because the other person finds me unattractive etc. finding the right one is difficult enough, right?

I agree. I would not be offended at all by a Dom's profile that said, "No fat chicks". I'd just know not to email him. Check him off the list and move on.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 9:57:17 AM

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exactly girl! no need to hate the guy for his preferences. at least he is being honest and true. so i move on!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 10:41:58 AM

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Your judgement of batter. Just like your judgement of several things in this topic. As was pointed out, you were complaining of how others judge you based on size. You are using judgement to determine you are being treated badly. Suck it up and move on.

So would drama queen, whiney, and thin skinned be good reasons to not like someone?

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LOL...yeah life is harsh!

people like us are looked at harshly! why do we batter each other?

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 10:53:05 AM

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Your judgement of batter. Just like your judgement of several things in this topic. As was pointed out, you were complaining of how others judge you based on size. You are using judgement to determine you are being treated badly. Suck it up and move on.

So would drama queen, whiney, and thin skinned be good reasons to not like someone?

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ORIGINAL: bestbabync

LOL...yeah life is harsh!

people like us are looked at harshly! why do we batter each other?

orion, please accept that this thread is not about me judging anyone. the reason for my OP was not because i was judged by someone for my size. initially i made my OP because someone that claimed to be a Dominant berated and stalked me for almost 2 weeks because he felt since i am a BBW like all other women like me, i deserved whatever i could get and that i was lucky if i ever found a Dom that wanted me. at the time i was angry and questioning my place in this lifestyle or if this lifestyle was for me, so my OP was a result of that experience.

thank you for your opinion and advice.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 11:11:13 AM

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I don't use any special terms, I just simply say I am over weight and out of shape. IT's clear it's concise there's no mistaking what I mean and then there's no come back of why do all bbw's call th emselves beautiful when they're not lol.

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Raven, I have always suspected you are a rare man indeed and your post only reinforces that opinion. I use the term to describe myself, not because it defines me, but mostly for ease of communication. Most people know what it means and if it matters to them then any potential partner can move on before either of us have wasted much time.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 11:26:18 AM

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my last 2cents on this subject

i'm a triple b w type however i'm more than that to Daddy. i'm His sexy black bitch to black pussy. in His eyes, i'm the sexiest woman on earth adoring all of my bodacious curves on this chocolate body. you can say Daddy has this "fetish" for women in size - He finds us beautiful and sexy ...even my pet sees me that way too. he loves holding and hugging this owner that sometimes he doesn't want to let go.

yes around here, OP, you'll meet some who love to voice their negativity about women of our size. i have met my share with nasty insults from you don't belong here ...BDSM is only for the beautiful (slender) people to mooooooooron and omg you're a cow (not the Brit slang). do i get upset? no, because they're simply losers looking to vent after someone else rejected them.

at least i'm brave enough to post a real pic of myself. what you see is what you'll get - a 5'4, triple D-bra sized woman who absolutely loves the skin she's in. i'm happy and loved on both ends of the spectrum.

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