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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 4:43:19 AM   
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greetings to all,

OP, honestly, life is just too bloody short.  Be confident in your body (no matter what size or shape that body is), love yourself for who you are (no matter what your chosen path in life) and get out there and take life by the horns.  Only after you stop worrying so much about what others think will you find what you seek.

I'm close to 25kg over my healthy weight (due to a  few different lifestyle/medical factors) but is that bothering me? no.  If people are turned off by my 80kg frame, then, that is their shortcoming, and definitely not mine.  I don't go around beating myself up for the weight I am; I would rather be healthy and on the bigger side (if my body worked like that) than unhealthy all in the name of being "thin" or "beautiful" in the eyes of others.

Bottom line is, I love myself, and my Master loves me, in all my imperfect glory.  Who else honestly matters?.

(If you need any other advice, please, cmail me, I'm always happy to help!)

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 5:40:37 AM   
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Yes, I read through the 7 pages of this thread before posting, and now to address the OP's opening post.

quote:

ORIGINAL: bestbabync

are there any Doms out there looking to find rt ltr happiness with a very submissive, obedient bbw submissive?

what do Doms think of the bbw submissive?  why do so many not take us serious, think we are gross or use us for temporary satisfaction?

all i ask is the Dom be unattached, within my area (or willing to pay for travel), ready to commit and eager to own and cherish his submissive. 


Yes, there are Dominants of both genders looking to find real time long term happiness with a obdient submissive of either gender and whether they are small, medium, or large.

Every Dominant has a preference of what they are looking for in a submissive.  Some of them prefer to "hit and run", others are looking for long term.  It's a matter of finding the right Dominant for you, and that you have similar interests in what you both want in a relationship.

For you to "demand" that the Dominant to meet your needs, and want  to commit and be eager to cherish you.  Perhaps you should consider what you have to to bring to the table.  The last I heard, BDSM was not all about the submissive and her/his needs.

After reading your profile, it seems that you are more service oriented in your desire to serve.  Personally, I prefer a masochistic, low maintenance submissive to serve me.  But then, that's my preference as a dominant.  As a  submissive, I prefer a confident, humorous, and somewhat sadistic person to serve.  Also, it's not about the size, it's about the attitude.


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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 5:48:20 AM   
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I have no interest in ANYONE who defines themself as a 'BBW', if they put more importance on their size than on who they are as a person then We are NOT compatable. I have owned girls of all sizes, shapes and colours, in each case it was who they are that attracted Me. Body shape may turn My head on occassion but there needs to be far more to hold My interest.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 6:52:01 AM   
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does it not bother any of you that this lifestyle is full of imposters and fakes that prey on some of the submissives here.  no wonder this lifestyle gets a bad wrap!  in everything you will find people with not just positive attributes but alot will be weak and have negative issues whether it be their weight, self esteem, or lack of self respect etc.  but to accept the leaches that are sucking the life out of ur fellow lifestylers is totally uncaring!    it will do no good to expose the fakes here.  let's just keep insulting, belittling, demeaning and laughing at people with concerns and compassion.
thank you all for pointing out my imperfections while all of u and ur profiles are perfect, thank you! 

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 6:55:56 AM   
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Oooookay holy fuck. I was going to respond individually to alot of parts of this thread quoting and such. But the more I read, the more I found I wanted to respond to. So I'm just going to do one, then put some general thoughts out there.

quote:

ORIGINAL: bestbabync

quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

So the OP resurrected their three-month old thread just to pick a fight with RedMagic and others??? Okayyyyyyyyyy.



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i did not mean to pick a fight.  but i do wonder why others are so abusive & hateful here. why do people find humor & comfort in insulting and demeaning others?   i have found alot of friends here on CM, but the mean hateful people keep showing up more & more!

i thought the thread got lost or something.  i never recieved emails alerting me to all the post that carried into june.   when i was changing/deleting my subscriptions, i found the thread with all the hateful post! 


Yeaaah, all the hateful posts. Are you really sure they're all that hateful? Your version of hateful, and my own personal version of hateful seem to differ quite a bit. This is the internet. The awesome thing about the internet, is that anyone can access it and post information on it! The shitty thing about the internet, is that anyone can access it and post information on it! That's just the way it goes. Will you find rude people on the internet? I don't know, do you find them in life? People are also a bit more forthcoming with their opinions when they live several hundred miles away. Of course that's possibly my favorite thing about the net. For the record though, if you think any of the posts in this thread are particularly hateful, you really need to take a look around the web and see actually vitriol. Go check out some flame wars where people end up wishing for some rare form of cancer to befall the person and several generations of their descendants. Now that, is hateful. Some of us are ornery fucks, go figure y'know? We're people, not saints. Hell, some people even come across as alot more rude than they're actually trying to be. You lose alot in text after all. A literal ton.

In reference to your profile I'll say a pic of your body would be a better idea to put up than just a grainy webcam shot of your tits. Seriously. You'll probably have alot better luck with finding a dom if you do. I'm well aware sometimes people don't like to post alot of pics due to reasons of hiding their identity etc. However most of those problems can be avoided just by being careful, selecting an atypical nick for yourself etc. This for example is not the nick I usually go by. I created it especially for here. But I'm starting to get a bit tangential.

As for the question of bbw subs. Some people like it, some people don't. It's like that in every single human being on the face of this planet, with every single thing that exists. Personally unless it's a severe amount of weight, I don't particularly care. I'm primarily attracted by other means. I'm also rather odd though. A bigger turnoff I find is when bbw's go the whole well you're not interested in me because of my weight! That one would automatically assume that is indicative of deeper issues. I may just not be interested in you because you came off whiny, or just did not seem interesting, etc. There are a plethora of reasons why someone may not respond to a message you send out. They may have even just started dating someone. Not to mention some people (and don't feel like I'm particularly referencing you in this paragraph, I'm not) get offended when you read the mail, and don't immediately respond. I've heard that from dom's and subs alike on here that I've met. It's like okay, yes, I opened it. But people have lives, and are not going to drop everything just to respond at that moment. That in and of itself tends to be a turnoff. If someone sends me a message bitching about how I never responded, chances are I'm going to explain why (because I'm a busy guy, and didn't have time to sit down and write a thoughtful noncanned response), and then tell them off for bitching at me, or being all defensive for no reason. Honestly I tend to tell people to take that as a good sign if I don't automatically respond (that I did respond right away is usually because I was sitting at the pc otherwise unoccupied, which is not too common). Means I read it, and I want the time to sit down, and enjoy myself when I'm writing back. But I'm ranting now about another topic :D

In any case, drop the injured oh this site is a place for meanies attitude. You're talking to adults. Conduct yourself as such. We don't shit puppies and piss rainbows. Yes some of us are not nice people. Not everyone you meet in life is nice. You really do need to just deal with it. I'm well aware of how most of my post will be taken. Am I being rude? No. Blunt? Yes. I'm very blunt in general, so are many people here. I'm also not lying, and giving advice. So are most of them I'd imagine. Consider it as being helpful, as that is what it is in most cases. Really I've actually found the exact opposite from what you think this forum is composed of. Most of the people here are alarmingly nice if I look at the whole thing as a bell curve, and very helpful. Like, way way way way way outside of what I'd consider normal net behavior. One of the reasons I like it here.

Though I'd love to see this taken in the sense it was written, rather than grr another rude person. It is not an attempt to be rude. Though I can be quite sarchastic, it's more a matter of entertaining while I'm talking, than any rudeness. I'd gather some people here are already quite familiar with that.


< Message edited by BrokenSaint -- 8/17/2008 6:58:28 AM >


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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 6:58:14 AM   
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OP, every walk of life is full of the types of people you are complaining about, it's not just in our own little corner of the world.  you can't control the actions of others, all you can do is make sure you're not one of them.  i'm a bit confused as to your last post.  if you don't like leeches then stay away from them, you can't change the fact that they exist.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 7:21:26 AM   
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It sounds to me like you are not willing to accept that Doms have preferences and some prefer a sub that is not overweight. Not every Dom is going to leap in your path ready to have a relationship with you because you call yourself a sub. Life consists of rejection at times. It is a fact. Put on your big girl panties, stop whining and DEAL with it.

Sheeeeesh.

< Message edited by sirsholly -- 8/17/2008 7:36:35 AM >


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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 7:28:59 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: bestbabync

oh god!...my opinion and question here was discounted, insulted and made fun of from the very beginning by you and many others.  i understand why alot of people find this site so disagreeable!


No. People commented that around here it's a dead horse and you could have saved yourself a lot of trouble by looking at the old threads dealing with the exact same topic.

The two things are very different. Personally, I don't know why you feel insulted because people didn't treat a thread that gets done every few months as something new and special just because you are new to the forums.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 7:34:25 AM   
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once again i did not say everyones post here was unkind, rude or sarcasstic.  as a matter of fact i thanked Angelic for her kind words.  what i do find is that almost every thread on this site is littered with insults, rude and sarcasstic posts by so many.  why should we find it funny, positive and acceptable when our members poke fun, find fault with someone weaker or new to the scene asking for advice or opinions.  
am i missing something?  does CM webmasters limit thread postings? 

< Message edited by bestbabync -- 8/17/2008 7:37:00 AM >


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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 7:38:01 AM   
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OP...i edited my post as i read "ur" as "un". Apologies.
The rest of my post remains as it is.


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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 7:49:46 AM   
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oh no!  i understand that everyone has preferences, really! 

what i do not understand why it is acceptable for the fakes & scum to continue their games.  at the time when i authored my original post, as i mentioned earlier, i had just been through a rough couple of weeks with a member on this site that berated me with emails & phone calls because i outed him for what he really was, a fake.  he is still a member of this site. 

so i posed my question at a moment when i really questioned what this lifestyle was about.  i was angry & confused.  so, what i learned is that CM message boards is not a real good place to get advice or support when i find myself in need or stumble. 

learned my lesson....wow!

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 7:52:44 AM   
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Not all posts end up with negative or insulting replies. A few things you should keep in mind: 1) you don't know every one who responds. You have no idea of their sense of humor, how they meant for their words to be taken, etc. 2) this is all typed, alot of what people say lose the emotions, or lack there of, because you can't hear it or see their faces. I type 'I suck' and it sounds like I'm whinning, while in person I could say the same three words with a smile and it's a joke, an evil grin and it's a promise, etc etc. Alot of it all depends on how you choose to take those words. Is this a dead horse? Yes. And yet people still took the time to respond to your post and offer their opinions, good and bad. You grouped all Doms into one collective and expect a yes or no answer from every one either to justify or to disqualify your feelings. That is impossible. Each Dom is different, just like each person is different. Does being a BBW influence a person's ability to be a good sub/slave? Only if the woman allows it to. I know BBW who are always taken seriously because they don't allow any one to misuse them because they know their own worth, and I know the super-skinny girls who are the easiest lay in town because they allow it. You can't group all women into categories based on their weight, just like you can't categorize all Doms based on a few's personal preferences. But I'm only a slave, my opinion doesn't deserve your attention.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 8:08:40 AM   
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OP i guess i'm more than a little confused. Perhaps i read something incorrectly.  i thought Your opening OP was in regard to the frustration to the judgemental, belittling, and hateful ways that people judge someone based on their weight or size.  If that's correct, how do You reconcile with Yourself the fact that You've done the exact same thing You've accused others of: You've been judging people based on Your beliefs about them or their behavior.
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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 8:17:25 AM   
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again, i raise the white flag!

like i said in my last post, i have found out that CM message boards is not a place to ask advice or opinions on my journey through this lifestyle.  this is my opinion and conclusion for myself, not urs Kalista, but my very own.

oh and i forgot, i have found a wonderful site for opinions & advice for bdsm lifestylers.  very open and non-judgemental even if the posts or questions are repetitive.

thanks

< Message edited by bestbabync -- 8/17/2008 8:19:49 AM >


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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 8:27:05 AM   
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i'm sorry to see that because of your victim mentality you couldn't see some of the good advice you got here.  now stand up straight, pull your skirt down and go post on this other wonder-filled site you have found.  good luck chica.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 8:29:00 AM   
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OP, my point I was trying to make in my first post but apparently did not, you have to learn to  pick your battles.  Not everyone is going to like you or anyone else.  Why let someone who does not know you or what you have to offer, upset you?  You must like yourself first.  There are many who like bigger women and men, thinner women and men.  Just as you might not like someone who has red hair for an example, they might think you are rude and using them.  It is a matter of preference.  We all have them. 
Leatherist, to answer your question...if someone views my profile and moves on, fine with me.  I have done the same.  If they view it and send an email that is not so nice, I know they have no clue as to who I am, what a wonderful submissve I am and all the qualities I have to offer the right Master.  I am confident, intelligent with a great sense of humor.  These are just a few of my qualities.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 8:35:40 AM   
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quote:

this lifestyle is full of the unnormal,


I couldn't care less if you are 200 pounds or 400 pounds and have 5 tits or just one gigantic one. However projecting your "unnormal" identity on others is the biggest problem you have to overcome.

You can debate on whether there is any reality behind the reference to "lifestyle" but my life is not "unnormal" and nether should you consider yours or your weight. I'd value and desire a 350 pound confident person much more than an insecure individual complying with the some arbitrarily determined BMI chart.

Confidence. Unfortunately there is no diet, or pill to help you with that.

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 8:40:38 AM   
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christine,
once again i will say....all the post were NOT inappropriate.  i did appreciate some of the post and found them insightful.  but i rather not weed through the muck to get to the good!
there is no need for it.  i thought we were all on the same side!

< Message edited by bestbabync -- 8/17/2008 8:48:13 AM >


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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 8:57:35 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: NeedingMore220

bbw = big, beautiful woman


I prefer Big, Brainy Woman (who happens to be beautiful, inside and out) 

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RE: bbw submissives? - 8/17/2008 8:59:14 AM   
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oh i love that one phoenix!

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