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Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 2:03:27 PM

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I wonder if any of you Dom's or anyone really out there could help a submissive out. I got into some trouble with my Dom last week which is totally my fault. Anyway I got the beating today. Let me please tell you that I hate wooden paddles. Anyway, now for the second part of the punishment. I have to come up with 3 really humiliating things that I have to do. If he thinks any of them aren't good enough I have to do one thing he comes up with then come up with three new himiliating things I have to do, etc, etc. I'd like to just knock it out and come up with 3 really good humiliating things do them and then move on. Any suggestions?

RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 2:07:52 PM

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Hmmmmm... I'd recommend a pencil, note pad and a quiet place to think.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 2:20:48 PM

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Ah..well I 've been thinking about it for days. I'm just trying to get some better ideas.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 3:02:39 PM

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Okay ..... but what is the punishment suppose to be teaching you??? How does it correct the behaviour or mistake you made and prevent it from happening again what if he decides that nothing you come up with is suitable for him will it be a continued game for degrading you how far are you willing to allow it to go ? Are you willing to accept being degraded even if it means breaching your limits... Because it sounds more to me like a possiblble cat and mouse game of potentially ongoing torment and abuse instead of a correction... but I guess your choice if you think he is really worth it......I prefer to have clearly defined rules going into a relationship including how discipline /punishment is to be handled.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 3:08:10 PM

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So, basically, you're asking for someone else to do the thinking for you in coming up with these three things?

If My sub pulled that trick, without prior permission to ask around, humiliation would be the least of his worries.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 3:15:01 PM

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Humiliation is a very personal thing. What any one of us might think is humiliating, 5 other sub/slaves might find hot.

He needs to learn what makes you tick, then he'll really know how to push your various and assorted buttons.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 3:23:26 PM

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Do you enjoy humiliation? Because if so, then how is something that gets you wet supposed to teach you not to do anything?
On the other hand, if humiliation and degradation makes you put up defensive walls, then how is making you fear and distrust him supposed to make you more able to accept his rules and decisions?

It doesn't appear to be you who needs to do some deeper thinking, but him.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 4:19:33 PM

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Ah..well I 've been thinking about it for days. I'm just trying to get some better ideas.

I think you miss my point. Your dominant assigned the task to you. It sounds like if we just "knock it out" for you, it'd be defeating part of his intent. Now I don't know what you did, or why he chose this as punishment, etc... and I'm not going to pass judgement. But it does seem to me that at least part of the intent was to make you think. So my advice is... go think about it.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 4:23:02 PM

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looks like youre not getting any help. Its depressing they helped themselves with their replies and not you.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 4:31:43 PM

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*or* she could just do a search, as this topic comes up often. I believe there was one last week in which many ideas were discussed.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 4:35:21 PM

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Okay I will be the "nice one". Just because It is your duty to come up with some humilitaing things to do does not mean that you can't have someone help you along the right path.... I am one to always offer a thought or two in order to help a person out.I do agree with the finding a nice quiet spot to sit and think about the things that you feel are humiliating Look inside yourself and think about everything that you feel is humiliating. It could just be a simple "test" of trust. Do you trust your Dominant to share your inner most humbling thoughts? Even if it is something that breaks your limits I would make note of it and tell him only because you should tust him to protect you and keep you safe, and within what limits you may have. It would take alot for someone to be able to pour every humiliating thought into another one's hands. A good Dominant could use this to see inside your soul and mind. I don't think as a Dominant I would use anything like that against a person I would do it only as a punishment for lack of communication/trust as a means to measure trust. I am not saying I would be right or wrong for using that as a method to get into a persons thoughts, but thats what I would use it for. It would share how deep a person can let themselves go into the hands of another without the fear of harm. Of course I do not know why you and your Dominant are using this method, but hopefully you both can learn and grow with each other in someway through it. Many people feel that because it does not work in their D/s relationships then it is wrong. I feel that if it works for you both then take it and use it and look into yourself to be the best submissive you can to please your Dominant. I did not give you any clues as to what to write only the thoughts that I have. Good luck with it :)

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 5:00:55 PM

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I know. It's horrible. He could decide he doesn't like what I come up with and it'll neve end and get worse and worse. I'm just trying to make them good enough to get it right the first time. Thanks for replying.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 5:02:16 PM

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I enjoy light humiliation but not when it gets embarrassing in public. Thanks for your thoughts.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 5:03:17 PM

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That's really sweet..thanks for noticing! It's great ro see all the opinions though.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 5:35:03 PM

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looks like youre not getting any help. Its depressing they helped themselves with their replies and not you.

It could also be that we were helping her by very specifically saying that some Dominants would not want the assignment cheated on (for lacking another term) by asking other people for ideas. As stated above, humiliation is a personal thing. In other words, the OP needs to look inside, not be handed the answers.

I stand by My earlier statement. If My boy had an offense that required a dose of humiliation, and I gave this instruction, it had better be something that he had searched inside himself for. Not just something he came up with as an idea because someone else thought it up for him.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 5:40:05 PM

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I think you have a good point but I don't think it would matter to my Dom or I wouldn't have done it. Eveyone's different.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 5:50:57 PM

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Once apon a time a sub I had did a really bad thing. For a week, I reduced her to total slave..no clothes except while at work, not sitting on anything but the floor, no eating, or drinking without permission...peeing only in a stanell steel bowl in front of me..twenty hard swats at first light,then when she got home from work, and befor going to bed..During that week no cums at all...and I used and played with her for hours filling her with my..well..you get the ideal..her only shower of the day in the morning befor work..and a shit load of domestic cleaning[My way] do all the little things that she'd put off for years..I had her get every little thing for me from drink to whatever..no tv for her..at times a ball gap or the training gag headset,lots of corner time..blindfolded and vib in till she was dripping....A very good week..and one where she releared her place..and all kinds of pictures to bring out to show her when she gets a bit mouthy..LOL

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 6:13:44 PM

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Ok some ideas that many find humiliating:

1) If you're inhibited verbally, being required to explicitly ask for what you want while you're tied up and teased mercilessly.

2) Not allowed to pee for a while then having to beg for it, having to pee while he's watching. Or, for that matter, being on your knees and drinking his pee directly can be mighty humiliating the first time.

3) Naked, collared, and leashed, led around the house like a dog, crawling on all fours. Even inside the house this can be humiliating, but outside, well, that can be intense, even if it's in some isolated public space where no one is likely to see you.

4) A variation to 3) where you're in a public space where others ARE around, say at a restaurant, but you're in a corner so that you can have your back at them where they can't see that you've hiked up the front of your skirt and required to part your panties to show your pussy for your Dom's inspection.

5) If you've learned to orgasm on command, then having him making you come while you're talking to a salesperson can be very embarrassing. If you haven't been conditioned that way, you can wear a "toy" that stimulates your clit/pussy by a remote control, have him turn it on while you're required some continuous verbal interaction with someone like a salesperson and having to come and hide what's going on.

6) Being required to serve your Dom and guests naked with a "pussy separator" (to have your pussy lips parted and the pink insides open for everyone to see and play with). The degree of humiliation would depend on the guests.

7)Being required to eat on the floor, using no utensils, like a dog. Or any number of pet plays.

8) If you're NOT an exhibitionist--being required to flash unsuspecting people, say at a mall.

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 6:59:19 PM

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RE: Help: Humiliating Activities For Submissives? - 5/16/2008 7:10:47 PM

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Now that's just sadistic!

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