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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 2:26:22 PM

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Mistress Hathor, i suggest You are a tad confused, as i am on the south coast.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 2:30:33 PM

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MladyHathor
Thank You i appreciate Your comments Ma'am.

Hopefully Your advice helps build a relation.

Have a good day

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 3:35:33 PM

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Mistress Hathor, i suggest You are a tad confused, as i am on the south coast.

and so so far away--

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 4:06:39 PM

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LOL! Thanks Ladies and Gents.

The 'Great for a while, then Wander away' thing has just happened to me so many times. I don't mean to say that I'm glad it happens to others, but I'm glad to know I'm not the only one. Not just here on CM, but on ALL of my forums & even my old mIRC channels, news groups, etc. You make friends. Even if you never meet them... they are very real friends. And unlike the friends you make in real life, the ones on the computer are just GONE with very little chance of tracking them down again. I've had friendships that lasted for years... then that person gets a new job or a new life partner and they are never heard from again. I often wonder what happened to those people.

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Y'all are just going to have to deal with me today. I'm in a funk. Does it show?

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 4:50:08 PM

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Ms. Starlett,
Like yourself, I've been frustrated in my search as well. I've been hoping for a non-professional relationship - online and/or in person - with a Dominant Woman, or a woman interested in trying out dominance. I've been befriended by some pro-Dommes, for which I am very grateful. But I have mostly been alone and met with failure.
So, I guess we are in some ways like lonely hearts passing in the night.
I write this to let you know you are not alone.
Frankly, I wonder how any sub can resist after looking at your photos and reading your profile.
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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 5:31:20 PM

MsStarlett

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Thanks sweetie. I'm just me. To 'soft' for some... To 'bitchy' for others.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 5:33:55 PM

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Thanks sweetie. I'm just me. To 'soft' for some... To 'bitchy' for others.

Give that woman a martini!

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 5:34:32 PM

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LOL! Thanks Ladies and Gents.

The 'Great for a while, then Wander away' thing has just happened to me so many times. I don't mean to say that I'm glad it happens to others, but I'm glad to know I'm not the only one. Not just here on CM, but on ALL of my forums & even my old mIRC channels, news groups, etc. You make friends. Even if you never meet them... they are very real friends. And unlike the friends you make in real life, the ones on the computer are just GONE with very little chance of tracking them down again. I've had friendships that lasted for years... then that person gets a new job or a new life partner and they are never heard from again. I often wonder what happened to those people.

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Y'all are just going to have to deal with me today. I'm in a funk. Does it show?

It seems to me that in the beginning when one first connects with someone through a site like this, there can be a flurry of activity, then you realize you need to pay some attention to the real life you have going because things might be falling behind. That's when things often slow down. It's at that point when it starts to take genuine effort by both parties to make these things work if something is going to eventually happen.

If a woman doesn't show me that she's genuinely interested by opening up and sharing as well as asking things about me, why should I continue to send her messages on the other side or wherever we may have moved our communication to? As has been mentioned, Domme's want a sub with a real life and I have better things to do with mine than waste time writing messages to someone that doesn't seem genuinely interested in getting to know me better and allowing me to do the same with her.

- pixel

Updated Journal today: Wyatt still missing, now over 4 weeks.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 5:43:45 PM

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I wish i could be there for you to take out some frustrations upon ..

after all i am a good listener and flogging post

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Thanks sweetie. I'm just me. To 'soft' for some... To 'bitchy' for others.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 6:39:07 PM

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Thanks AZ! I think I'll just take that bubble bath and wine you offered earlier.

Or a Gin Martini with no olives. Wait? That's just Gin. I'm good to go.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 7:16:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

LOL! Thanks Ladies and Gents.

The 'Great for a while, then Wander away' thing has just happened to me so many times. I don't mean to say that I'm glad it happens to others, but I'm glad to know I'm not the only one. Not just here on CM, but on ALL of my forums & even my old mIRC channels, news groups, etc. You make friends. Even if you never meet them... they are very real friends. And unlike the friends you make in real life, the ones on the computer are just GONE with very little chance of tracking them down again. I've had friendships that lasted for years... then that person gets a new job or a new life partner and they are never heard from again. I often wonder what happened to those people.

MsStarlett,

The net can be rather impersonal. People just disappear into the ether. One minute you're commuicating daily, and you think you're getting "involved"... and then a few months later - nothing. Dead silence. They could have gotten run over by a truck, been kidnapped, thrown in jail, who knows?

Which makes me extremely cautious about investing too much into net relationships. I hold back until i've met the person RT and know they are for real.

Which brings up a question... If you communicate with someone on the net - and never meet them... is that "real"? A real friendship? Real relationship?

Or do you have to meet face-to-face for it to be "real"?

steffie

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 7:59:44 PM

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Ma'am glad i could help in any small way . ummm cold gin ! enjoy your Mr bubble time

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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

Thanks AZ! I think I'll just take that bubble bath and wine you offered earlier.

Or a Gin Martini with no olives. Wait? That's just Gin. I'm good to go.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 9:54:44 PM

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The only trouble I see with a "Good Ones are Taken" thread is it sends a message to all the fabulous unowned ones that they are no good. I'm sure that's not what you intended, but the message is there to be picked up on.

Some of us (like me) were pretty crappy until our Owners brought out our goodness. :)

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 10:17:03 PM

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Or do you have to meet face-to-face for it to be "real"?

For me, personally, though I have lots of *virtual* friends, meeting face to face is necessary for me to consider a submissive candidate as "real".

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/19/2008 10:35:05 PM

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Very well put ..

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The only trouble I see with a "Good Ones are Taken" thread is it sends a message to all the fabulous unowned ones that they are no good. I'm sure that's not what you intended, but the message is there to be picked up on.

Some of us (like me) were pretty crappy until our Owners brought out our goodness. :)

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/20/2008 4:48:55 AM

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The only trouble I see with a "Good Ones are Taken" thread is it sends a message to all the fabulous unowned ones that they are no good. I'm sure that's not what you intended, but the message is there to be picked up on.

Nah….just chalk to up to the fact that everyone has their um, well, <fill in the blank> moments

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/20/2008 5:57:10 AM

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I am here looking for friendship and I just delete the one or two liners that I get. I have found very few read my profile. If they took the time to read my profile then they wouldn't waste the time of adding me to the mass e-mails they must send out. Sometimes I think okay I will see what they are really about and the first 2 or 3 e-mails start out well and then they just go to the one liner of kneeling waiting to serve you or Wow you are a goddess.{eyeroll} I have made some friends here. I am hopeful that I will meet people who will become friends. I don't have time for the wankers or the cyber trolls. Sorry just isn't my thing.

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/20/2008 6:19:02 AM

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The only trouble I see with a "Good Ones are Taken" thread is it sends a message to all the fabulous unowned ones that they are no good. I'm sure that's not what you intended, but the message is there to be picked up on.

Nah….just chalk to up to the fact that everyone has their um, well, <fill in the blank> moments

Quite true. I've certainly had my share!

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/20/2008 6:27:59 AM

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Decent & honest people per se are like finding diamonds in the rough.
Finding a compatible partner is near impossible.
I'm starting to think it's just an illusion everyone lives by.

But hey, this is just me.
I wish all good decent and honest people all the luck & love in the world and quite the opposite to the other side of the coin of humanity (you know who you are!)

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RE: The 'Good Ones' are taken - 5/20/2008 9:16:57 AM

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Respectfully,

Not all the good ones are taken. You simply have to search through the chaff to find something worth while. Online sites are notorious for the amount of players/wankers that inhabit them...from both ends of the whip. I have met many real and genuine lifestyle people from online sites, but ultimately you find more at munches and leather events.

As for the previous posters comments about making the non- taken ones feel like they are not one of the "good ones"...that is not the case with me. For reasons of personal growth I am currently not in a power exchange with anyone, by my own choice....and I certainly consider myself one of the "great ones". :) I do play with a local Lady who is new and uses me as a learning tool..someone who I met here initially, so there are still good people to be found here.

The poster who mentioned this as an illusion...yes...there is a lot of illusion to this, but in the end your experiance will show you the differance between that and reality..and what it takes to blend those factors in your life to an acceptable compromise.

Best wishes and Kindest Regards to all,
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