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Prinsexx -> RE: Serious New Relationship/Show me your test results! (5/26/2008 2:59:05 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MzMia
After reading the thread about "How do you find out?", I decided to start a similar one.
I have not been in a serious or sexual relationship for a LONG time.
That said {or admitted}[;)], I have decided that prior to entering a serious relationship, AND before any bodily fluids or sexual activities take place, I want BOTH of us to be tested for
any sexually transmitted diseases. We can then share and exchange the results with each other.
Of course I realize that certain diseases have a latency period, but recent and current testing is about the best that anyone can do.
I would hope that my partner would be honest and forthright about his medical condition, but I think it is
only fair for both of us to have recent testing and share the results.
Does anyone else operate this way? I think it is also prudent and wise for a submissive to request this of a Dominant. Requesting current testing should be fair to request on both sides of the kneel.
Would you still enter into a serious/sexual relationship with someone that REFUSED to obtain current up to date test results? { I don't want to see results from last year or 4 years ago}
Idea's and comments welcome.
The previous post started off asking about soundness of mind and I am pleased that this has been opened up as an entirely different thread because indeed the dilemma is quite quite different in my opinion.
I honestly believe that most mental health testing is at best 'somewhat' valid and at worse arbitary ultural nonsense. Medical screening on the other hand gives more sound results that verbal, self- ppraisal or interview questionnaire and diagnostics. not everyone agrees here.
Medical diagnostics for the presence of HIV/AIDS and STD's are very reliable. They are available here in the UK free of charge on the National Health Service. This provides a confidential service and at least in my county there is an immediate same day emergency availability of testing and advice from caring professionals who work under extreme pressure and demand. In other words there are no excuses for not getting tested. I believe that testing needs to be done three months after the last sexual contact as this is past the incubation period and likely to give a valid result.
Getting tested retrospectively like this is not the best solution though. What to do with a positive test result is still a question of personal ethics and in this prejudicial society raises huge fears of the disclosure process.
However I would value being contacted at any point by anyone I had been in sexual contact with rather than not to be contacted.
I always always ask about a person's disease knowledge. I always insist on safe sex. In the heat of certain scenes I believe I have been cheated, It put me into a panic and I got screened with all available tests. I will not be swayed. I will not be told that there is no indication in my sexual record that I am comparatively not at risk. I am assertive.
I know today as we speak that I have absolutely no diseases, that my blood, urine, and heart traces are absolutely fine. I am blessed. I am fortuneate given my age and experience. I am fortunezate given the trust I have given Doms and been lied to especially with regard to their 'monogamous' lifestyle.
All I ask is for the same degree of assertiveness by others.
If someone demanded of me that I be tested again then I would comply. If someone told me that they had not been tested, or did not know the results, or refused top tell me the results then it would raise the noisiest alarm bells within me.
And I sincerely wish that mental health had the same decisive tests and resuls. Scizophrenia isn't communicable, however it can be insidiously latent, waiting simply waiting for a trigger.....
What I am saying is this: if an illness is preventable then I personally will take all steps to prevent it.
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