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The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 5:54:09 PM

merrymischief2

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I was told by a Dominant that I do not sound submissive. I did request some information when confronted with his rather implausible circumstances.

I admit to finding it amusing. I mean, really how does a submissive sound? Timid? Gullible? My intention was not to sound demanding or rude but potential Dominants must understand submissives are relegated to slaying dragons here, i.e. disputing the many misleading and duplicitous missives we receive each day.

Okay, 'nuff said. Back to writing a proposal for a client...merry

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 6:08:06 PM

Leatherist

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We all have a need to prove the reality of ourselves in media such as these.

Nothing in life comes for free.

And assuming a "role" does not grant one any special privilege.

Only narcissists and the emotionally weak feel otherwise.

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 6:15:22 PM

Owner4SexSlave

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You don't sound submissive? What is it, the tone of your voice? The lack of using Yes/No Sir when addressed him. Strange, just how should a true submissive sound anyways.

Personally, I think any submissive that sounds powerful enough to slay a dragon would make one hell of a submissive to have, compared to some timid church mouse that might make a few squeeky noises in the background.

< Message edited by Owner4SexSlave -- 6/6/2008 6:16:03 PM >

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 6:27:47 PM

merrymischief2

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The tone of my email. I'm not the milque-toast type.

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

You don't sound submissive? What is it, the tone of your voice? The lack of using Yes/No Sir when addressed him. Strange, just how should a true submissive sound anyways.

Personally, I think any submissive that sounds powerful enough to slay a dragon would make one hell of a submissive to have, compared to some timid church mouse that might make a few squeeky noises in the background.

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 6:29:50 PM

darchChylde

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When i sing classic country, i sound like Johnny Cash.

When i sing honkytonk, i sound like Trace Adkins.

When singing anything else, or talking; i sound like Tiny Tim.

Hehe

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 6:32:15 PM

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Cool!!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skU-jBFzXl0

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 6:33:11 PM

tsatske

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Now that i have the safety to express my slaveself, i get letters from Doms telling me what a perfect slave i would be for them.

If they had written me when i was seeking, many of them would not have felt that way. Many other dominants might, it's just the ones who write me, drawn to the whole TPE dynamic i have with Master - there are clues in their writing, and their tone, that suggest that they would have been among the many, many doms who wrote me when i was seeking to tell me i would never find, because i had too many limits.

If I am not yet your slave - don't expect me to act like it. Don't expect anything beyond basic respect - and you get that, only until you earn not getting it. don't expect me to kiss an ass that I am not intimate with. And, yes, until i am owned, i have HOARDES of limits. They fall away slowly, as i get to know someone, and trust grows. If you can't make trust grow, the limits don't go.

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 6:40:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: merrymischief2
how does a submissive sound? Timid? Gullible?

Well, yeah. I mean -- you don't look submissive either. You're not on your knees, and your mouth is shaped like a smile, not an O-ring. WTF?

Put the phrase "no limits" into your profile in three places, or I will know you are fake.

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 6:51:05 PM

merrymischief2

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Who doesn't love a little Tiny Tim.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Cool!!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=skU-jBFzXl0

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 6:53:09 PM

Owner4SexSlave

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quote:

ORIGINAL: merrymischief2
The tone of my email. I'm not the milque-toast type.

You're a bad girl, scaring big bad Doms with your assertive ways. Was it because you asked too many direct questions, or because you expressed your honest thoughts?

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 6:53:32 PM

kallisto

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I need to go find my sword. I think I must have misplaced it when the last dragon came around with his fire breathing self.

Seriously, I didn't know we subs were supposed to "sound" a certain way. I must have missed that class.

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 7:06:45 PM

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We're supposed to sound like Tiny Tim?????

Who knew?

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 7:13:53 PM

darchChylde

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Then there's the fun paradox of having to "sound" like anything over email.

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I'm a male dominant switch whose experienced as a poly sub to a dominant woman
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Where the fuck do I post?

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 7:28:32 PM

merrymischief2

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Let's see, three direct questions. Didn't even make it to telling the man he sounded like a fraud. Thought I would give him the benefit of the doubt. It's not like I asked for the man's last name driver's license number for lords sake.

Me, a bad girl? Why I'm a regular Rebecca of Sunnybrook Farm.

-merry

"Mischief, thou art afoot." -Shakespeare

quote:

ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

quote:

ORIGINAL: merrymischief2
The tone of my email. I'm not the milque-toast type.

You're a bad girl, scaring big bad Doms with your assertive ways. Was it because you asked too many direct questions, or because you expressed your honest thoughts?

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 7:31:40 PM

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Freckles and all , right? but you don't have your straw hat on., or the basket of eggs.

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 7:38:02 PM

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I have to say this much more.

I've never understood the overblown sense of entitlement I keep hearing about with "dominants" on sites like these. My personal experiences have been that I needed to get to know a friend first-then we saw if it could go farther. And you don't just wander in and "demand" someone like you. Much less submit.

It has to be earned.

I can only think that the attitude comes from spending way too much time watching bad porno.

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 8:19:09 PM

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Or reading too many fantasy books.

CD

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 8:25:00 PM

darchChylde

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

Or reading too many fantasy books.

CD

Hey, that's hitting below the belt.

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I'm the man your mother warned you about...
if only to keep me to herself.

I'm a male dominant switch whose experienced as a poly sub to a dominant woman
.
Where the fuck do I post?

Proud Owner and Protector of chyldeschylde.

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 8:25:57 PM

Leatherist

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

Or reading too many fantasy books.

CD

I blame "the story of O"

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RE: The Misleading Dominant - 6/6/2008 8:50:41 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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Dorks will use anything they can to shame, guilt and get you to listen to them. They know lots of s-types just want approval from someone so having another person deny them that can be a great manipulator to get them to "prove" themselves. And by that point, the battle's pretty much over.

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