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why is it - 10/30/2005 11:20:43 AM

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that some just can't understand the concept of not interested when put politely?

i truly am at a loss at the nerve of some with their jumping to conclusions.

my profile is quite honest about what i want.

odds are when i am only replying back with no i don't want to chat or no i don't wish to give out any info to someone.....its because i do not wish to get to know them for whatever reason(no profile or their just asking about sex pretty much gets me there FAST).

they are extremely rude because their kink is not my kink or whatever

i guess i'm venting

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 11:27:12 AM

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Because people don't like having their expectations, no matter how unrealistic, disappointed.

Generally when someone contacts someone else they do so with hopes and expectations of how that person will respond. When that person doesn't respond the way they hoped, they get disappointed. Some people don't deal with disappointment very well.

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 11:29:46 AM

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Reminds me when I used to date at the age of 17 or so, when I honestly said "no" to guys asking for sex they usually thought I will give up if they were more pushy. When I asked what part of NO they didnt understand and should I kick them in the balls along with words to make them understand, they were genuinely surprised in me getting "all hot and bothered for nothing".

Its just men. But vent all you want

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 11:40:10 AM

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ah yes, those unspoken expectations...that didn't occur to me.
some of these people really need to be reading how do you deal w/ rejection posts,lol.

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 11:41:33 AM

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lolol, i remember those days all to well.

truly tho it is enough to make one just automatically delete instead of trying to be polite.

thanks for listening to my vent

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 12:38:27 PM

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Some people do not understand NO let alone not

I just cant figure what part of NO they dont understand

The N for niet

OR

The O for ouch when I hit them.

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 12:59:08 PM

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hugz to you IronBear,
always you are such a dear,
with putting a big grin on my face

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 1:06:25 PM

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rbp

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 1:41:18 PM

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I think it might also be because some people think you've said 'no' due to a lack of information, or a misunderstanding. So they want to hone their presentation and come at you again to give you another shot at their wonderfulness.

Also, I know some guys take heart in the romantic stories of the persistent suitor who eventually wins the fair maiden over. So they might think that their insistence is a way of showing how caring they are.

Then there are those who seem to feel that pushiness, even to the point of aggression is a Domly trait that will mesmerize you and make you glad that they didn't give up on you.

Those last two things I mentioned are from the "Faint heart ne'er won fair maiden" school of non-thought.

Another, more mundane explanation could be that they are simply dumb, drunk, suffering from too much testosterone in the blood, or are just jerks for some as yet undiagnosed reason.

Just my thoughts....not that I'm an authority...

Bob

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 2:05:25 PM

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I think it might also be because some people think you've said 'no' due to a lack of information, or a misunderstanding. So they want to hone their presentation and come at you again to give you another shot at their wonderfulness.

Yep, there is that one. I tend to think that most of it is a lack of courtesy, of basic manners. When manners fail, then think Iron Bear has it right. *G*

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 2:11:39 PM

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quote:

I think it might also be because some people think you've said 'no' due to a lack of information, or a misunderstanding. So they want to hone their presentation and come at you again to give you another shot at their wonderfulness.

Also, I know some guys take heart in the romantic stories of the persistent suitor who eventually wins the fair maiden over. So they might think that their insistence is a way of showing how caring they are.

Then there are those who seem to feel that pushiness, even to the point of aggression is a Domly trait that will mesmerize you and make you glad that they didn't give up on you.

Those last two things I mentioned are from the "Faint heart ne'er won fair maiden" school of non-thought.

Another, more mundane explanation could be that they are simply dumb, drunk, suffering from too much testosterone in the blood, or are just jerks for some as yet undiagnosed reason.

I agree with all of the above, and feel the first reason is valid in terms of allowing one a singular chance/opportunity to provide more information.
I sometimes get a lame hello/one liner from someone with a decent, potentailly compatible profile, I than write back not interested since you didn't tell me a thing about you personally nor a thing a bout why you liked my profile...
I try to be courteous and kind whenever possible, and whenever I've not been approached disrespectfully. M

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 2:13:45 PM

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quote:

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I think it might also be because some people think you've said 'no' due to a lack of information, or a misunderstanding. So they want to hone their presentation and come at you again to give you another shot at their wonderfulness.

Yes, right, like when I said "No, I am not going to suck your cock not now not ever not anything you say ot do or became will convince me into that" and they still kept pushing and showing me their "precious one" like I didnt see what pathetic little exemplar it was at the first look. Some men think that "no" means "maybe if you are persistant enough". Actually I pity them..... what tough world they must live in

I like your post, Bob, and I would say you are much more of an authority than you say you are

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 2:24:52 PM

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My personal fav -- entirely of my own making -- was the guy who spent 45 in YIM, trying to convince me that since i had never been peed on (where did he think i had that kid? in a jar?) i simply could not understand the transcendental joy of it. Stuck record, ovder and over:

"Pee is so fabulous"

"Not now, not ever"

Repeat 45 times...and you know what i experienced.

LOL...pinkpleasures

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 2:27:00 PM

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probably the later, which is unfortunate.

sometimes i wonder is it the newness factor,of my date joined on profile?but new to CM doesn't mean newbie totally,lol.

if they wish to win this fair maiden,lol, they should try manners instead of insults (i have a redheads temper)

so the block button gets used alot.

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 2:29:25 PM

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you would be amazed at how many Doms in Ga. have no profile whatesoever,just stats.......that does not make the man!

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 2:32:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures

Repeat 45 times...

Oh....... but you have nerves, Pink Lady. I would tell him to f*** off after second time repeating.

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 2:33:44 PM

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quote:

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you would be amazed at how many Doms in Ga. have no profile whatesoever,just stats.......that does not make the man!

Like they know what makes the man, poor things

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 2:37:08 PM

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brings to mind the saying better to be pissed off than pissed on

, i would have had to said bye way before 45 minutes.you are definately much politer than i am.

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 2:46:47 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fyreredsub

you would be amazed at how many Doms in Ga. have no profile whatesoever,just stats.......that does not make the man!

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Like they know what makes the man, poor things

Kasia

Hadn't quite thought of it as a state issue....wonder if Men are more articulate in NY? LMAO.

pinkpleasures

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RE: why is it - 10/30/2005 3:05:18 PM

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Only if rude hand gestures can be considered more articulate. And its not just doms or men, its submissives and women as well. A blank profile with only stats listed does not impress me at all. I realize not everyone is capable of writing a lengthy, well thought out profile or cares to make use of the journal feature... but at least make an effort to say something about yourself.

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