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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 3:21:51 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Hunting for readily available men that we are compatible with sucks. It just DOES. Be glad that the doops show their true colors early on before you waste any more effort on them. I try to avoid newbies for the most part---not that many of them are not grand, but they do have a higher HNG quotient than the men who have been out for awhile.

Lots of guys have this wacky notion that we are supposed to be instantly demanding bitch goddesses from the first email. This seems odd to me, because who wants to live with a harpy? Make it clear who YOU are and what you are like, and be very specific about what you are looking for. You are dealing with MEN, and men are not subtle creatures. (not a dis, guys, just the truth!) Tell them what you expect, and that if they are not up for the challenge, suck it up and hit the road.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 3:49:33 PM

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In my experience, the kind of man who is attracted to 1) your screen name (Fem Supremacist-ish) and 2) the tone of your profile (bitchy) are often the ones who are into the fantasy of it. This is not always true, but I have seen this trend through the years. Plus, you've only been here three months. That's not a lot of time when you're looking for 'the one'.

Try an experiment. Change your sceen name to something benign, post a profile that simple states what you're looking for and what you have to give, post a simple, nice picture of your face without any toys or whatever and see what you get. You'll get a LOT of the same guys just 'cause they email anything they think might wear a thong and have labia, but you might get one or two you didn't before. Unless they're totally new to the site, they might be the difference you're seeking.

Also, get out into your community. Meeting a male sub at an event, especially if there are Male Dominants at said event, goes a LONG way toward them being comfortable with themselves.

Best of luck!

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 6:10:04 PM

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Very well said , as usual Ma'am ..

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

In my experience, the kind of man who is attracted to 1) your screen name (Fem Supremacist-ish) and 2) the tone of your profile (bitchy) are often the ones who are into the fantasy of it. This is not always true, but I have seen this trend through the years. Plus, you've only been here three months. That's not a lot of time when you're looking for 'the one'.

Try an experiment. Change your sceen name to something benign, post a profile that simple states what you're looking for and what you have to give, post a simple, nice picture of your face without any toys or whatever and see what you get. You'll get a LOT of the same guys just 'cause they email anything they think might wear a thong and have labia, but you might get one or two you didn't before. Unless they're totally new to the site, they might be the difference you're seeking.

Also, get out into your community. Meeting a male sub at an event, especially if there are Male Dominants at said event, goes a LONG way toward them being comfortable with themselves.

Best of luck!

Master Fire

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 6:19:27 PM

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And I also ask only three things of a slave, OP.

1. Shut the fuck up.
2. Suck me off and bring me coffee. (A complex proposition, I know.)
3. What's for dinner?

I can't find that either, and it appears we are at the opposite ends of the spectrum.

Some would call it the fringe.

6

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 7:15:53 PM

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Pussy is power.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 7:20:42 PM

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So's pud. But everything needs to be effectively harnessed for the good of mankind.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 7:21:09 PM

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.......what about pocket pussy? grins......are those battery operated ummmm and would that be power?...lol

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 9:34:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: NumberSix

So's pud.

Preposterous.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 9:40:41 PM

NumberSix

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I am haunted with faint echos of some Milton-Bradley boardgame...

Pud Preposterous
or
Preposterous Pud

the only thing I cant envision is the number of dice, in the first named game, I can easily see two in some sort of faux leather sack.

If we name the game as you want, it could be whimsical, not tied to any sort of numismatics......kinda nebulous here, throw me in a frame of reference, chief!!!

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 9:44:06 PM

LuvnFemAuthority

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Thanks for not jumping down my throat, Selena. Appreciated. ::hug::

Truthfully, I think some are right that my profile was a bit angry.... at the time I was. The venting/profile, however, was not indicative of my personality.

I invested a lot of time and self into this person only have him bale when it got too "real" for him. Sure it meant changing his workaholic lifestyle and redefining himself I understand it is a big change but running away was the wrong answer. He said he wasn't sure anymore whether he really wanted the lifestyle he told me under not uncertain terms he wanted. In essence what he said was that I was what he was fantasizing about and now the reality wasn't what he wanted. Is that fucked up or what?

quote:

ORIGINAL: selena123

First of all a big hug, next it's okay (at least to me) if you vent here online. Many times we can't tell our vanilla folks this stuff so isn't that why we're here? for support and a little understanding. Doms, Dommes, Masters and Mistresses are allowed to have feelings and emotions, just like vanilla folks, so I wouldn't feel good calling you a whiner or kicking you while you're already down. I would gently suggest re evaluating your methods to see if there are changes you can make to improve your luck, since you can't change other people (at least not until you own them LOL) good luck to you and vent all you want
Selena

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 10:01:26 PM

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Nope, thats a really fucked up attitude, slick.

See, what would be right is you come suck me off and serve me coffee.

Hold it, not your dream?

But you don't own no bitch boys do you?

You're fairly new at this, ain't you?

This ain't no different than real life dating, except you may get to business quicker and up front. He thought he wanted, you thought you had and all that shit.....girlie.

No can do, cap'n.

Next time you make better choices, ask better questions and undersand your heart and soul is still at risk, in charge or not, and people are awestruck and act like kids in the candy store, until there aint no more nickles in daddys (n this case, mommies) pocket..........

Get what I am saying? This is a zen thing. Ain't no different, ain't at all awesome day to day.....

YOU and YOURS only appear to make it so.

Did you get any of that, kid?

Ron

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 10:14:48 PM

BitaTruble

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuvnFemAuthority

This is perhaps more a rant than a question. I need this off my chest. I am sick to death of male subs that can't make a decision to save their lives. I ask for three things that are very rare in a submissive partner (you'll have to look at my profile for more detail): intelligence, empathy, and maturity. Yah I know this is hard to find in the vanilla crowd never mind in the bdsm world. But I am clear in what I want on my profile why the fuck do I keep getting jackoffs that wouldn't know any of the above emailing me? (rhetorical question) I am sick to death of men that fantasize about submission but can't actually submit when the opportunity is presented. Yah sure the heart and mind are much harder than the body but that's what you signed on for when you messaged me. Fuck! I am tired of this. I am tired of having my heart broken. I'm tired of investing so much time and effort into someone that can't get his act together and/or has no idea what he wants. To all of you jacking some Domme around: fuck you. I hope you die alone.

You come into the submissives forum for the express purpose of bashing submissives when one guy fucked with you?

I just realized that I don't like it any better when women come here doing this crap as when the men do it.

If you're looking for intelligence, empathy and maturity, try embracing those qualities yourself because to judge by you, apparently they are just as rare in dominants as they are in submissives.

And "I hope you die alone"? I'd better just gag myself on that one because there's no way I'll avoid getting my ass moderated.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 11:06:17 PM

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Hi.

I know how you feel because I've been there before I found my slave. Sometimes it seems like no slave really wants to be owned. If their men it's because they have a hard time committing to a woman even in a non BDSM world. you have to grab them by the balls and their hearts and minds will follow. They need to be guided and led (you know, like on a leash). That's how I get my slaves.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/13/2008 11:06:53 PM

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In your profile, the first line is troubling. The rest of your profile isn't too bad. But I'd get rid of the 'not like other dommes' bit. Who cares if you're not like them? Maybe your perfect sub thinks those other dommes are awesome and is hoping you share some traits with them.

"I am not here to cater to YOUR fantasies..." Yes. Yes you are. For some of them, at least. Unless you can just walk to the local slave pen and buy yourself a man pet, to be here is to present yourself for inspection and prove desireable; instead of, say, not advertising your presence at all; and telling them you're not is like saying 'THIS IS NOT A PROFILE.' Still, it's a common enough non-sequitur that its presense will likely not dissuade the 'mature, intelligent' subs; they will just discount it as braggadicio, which is exactly what it is.

quote:

I am sick to death of men that fantasize about submission but can't actually submit when the opportunity is presented.

As I've been told by someone wise, 'submission is taken, not given.' While I don't agree with that entirely there is some truth to it.

When the sub first contacts you, do you actually take charge of things? Do you set up the first meeting, do you start with little things that he can do for you (rub your back, paint your nails) that's interesting and exciting and something he wouldn't have had the chance to do before you told him to? Do. You. Seduce. him?

If you don't, he'll walk. Of course, at some point he has to seduce you too; but make it easy for him to, you know? Take charge. That's why you get to end up holding his collar and not vice-versa.

< Message edited by DMFParadox -- 6/13/2008 11:10:01 PM >

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RE: Pussies! - 6/14/2008 12:38:41 AM

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quote:

This is perhaps more a rant than a question.

Whatever it was, it displays no intelligence, empathy or maturity, which are the traits you claim to be seeking in a submissive. Maybe there is a shortage of submissives seeking hypocrisy in a partner.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/14/2008 1:57:11 PM

stella41b

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuvnFemAuthority

This is perhaps more a rant than a question. I need this off my chest. I am sick to death of male subs that can't make a decision to save their lives. I ask for three things that are very rare in a submissive partner (you'll have to look at my profile for more detail): intelligence, empathy, and maturity. Yah I know this is hard to find in the vanilla crowd never mind in the bdsm world. But I am clear in what I want on my profile why the fuck do I keep getting jackoffs that wouldn't know any of the above emailing me? (rhetorical question) I am sick to death of men that fantasize about submission but can't actually submit when the opportunity is presented. Yah sure the heart and mind are much harder than the body but that's what you signed on for when you messaged me. Fuck! I am tired of this. I am tired of having my heart broken. I'm tired of investing so much time and effort into someone that can't get his act together and/or has no idea what he wants. To all of you jacking some Domme around: fuck you. I hope you die alone.

Wouldn't it be worth considering that while you may want a submissive who possesses the three qualities you ask for intelligence, empathy and maturity the reality remains the same - you end up with the subs you attract.

I could oh so very easily turn the whole statement around and talk about the Dommes - shock horror - who haven't got a clue about domination, but seem to think that this is a sort of game where they can demand and expect everything they want but not offer or give anything in return.

The attitude gives you away. Both here in the OP and on your profile. I'd drop the attitude and just chill. The titles and attitude are meaningless, you're either fall within the category of Domme through simply being yourself or you don't. It's that simple. Besides what you'll probably find is that the attitude is what is attracting such subs.

The same can be said about submissives. The reality is that we're all bottom line vanilla, we're all people, the BDSM and kink element is purely additional. Look for a person, get to know the person, then move onto the BDSM/kink element. Trying to go the other way and approaching a relationship from the BDSM/kink angle is at best risky, at worst foolish.

This isn't Wal-Mart or e-Bay, you're dealing with a human being. Sometimes less is more.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/14/2008 2:19:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: beargonewild

quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Damn! Thought this was going to be a much hotter topic.

I just hate the bait and switch OP.

Pussy.

chia* (the pet)

That's women for ya chia, they are EVIL I tell ya....evillllll!
*grins*

Why yes.. yes we are.. Thank you! *curtsies*

Damn.. I was upset at the bait and switch too... here I thought it was *another* thread on what our pussies look/smell/taste/work like.

Damn.. and here I was ready to extol the virtues of my pussy.

Gwyn

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RE: Pussies! - 6/14/2008 5:17:44 PM

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<Fast reply>
Jesus people, let 'er vent. What's the point of coming in here and being an asshole just because someone has a legitimate complaint and bitches about it a bit? Don't post just to be a prick, it just makes you look.. well, like a prick.

Anyway, I think we've all been where you're at, Luvn. Particularly on this website. But you'll find someone, it's all about patience.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/14/2008 9:01:18 PM

Venatrix

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DMFParadox

. . . As I've been told by someone wise, 'submission is taken, not given.' While I don't agree with that entirely there is some truth to it.

When the sub first contacts you, do you actually take charge of things? Do you set up the first meeting, do you start with little things that he can do for you (rub your back, paint your nails) that's interesting and exciting and something he wouldn't have had the chance to do before you told him to? Do. You. Seduce. him?

If you don't, he'll walk. Of course, at some point he has to seduce you too; but make it easy for him to, you know? Take charge. That's why you get to end up holding his collar and not vice-versa.

I suppose this a fine approach if one is the sort of person who offers one's dominance to anyone who comes along, but not only do I find this technique to be rather presumptuous, I can guarantee you that it will only encourage the wankers to be wankers.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/14/2008 9:18:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuvnFemAuthority

I invested a lot of time and self into this person only have him bale when it got too "real" for him. Sure it meant changing his workaholic lifestyle and redefining himself I understand it is a big change but running away was the wrong answer. He said he wasn't sure anymore whether he really wanted the lifestyle he told me under not uncertain terms he wanted. In essence what he said was that I was what he was fantasizing about and now the reality wasn't what he wanted. Is that fucked up or what?

quote:

No, it's not. it's natural.

You have one bad experience with one man and complain about it. It's to be expected that not every experience will be perfect.

More to the point, he was a rank newbie and you made the decision to invest time and energy into him. To CHANGE him. That plain doesn't work with a lot of men.

It was YOUR decision to take him on, YOUR decision to invest yourself in him, and YOUR decision to look only at the lost time/effort instead of the positive learning experience for you.

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