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RE: Pussies! - 6/14/2008 9:21:04 PM

MissMagnolia

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After looking at your profile OP, and what you've written in your post, it looks like you are here for a loving relationship. Nothing wrong in that, but unless you've been looking for a while, the 3 months you've been on CM isn't whole lot of time to get really sick of all these subs who let you down AND find a loving relstionship.

Perhaps you are getting a little desperate to find your "one" (again, not necessarily a bad thing), you're opening up your heart way too soon to someone you really don't know that well. I think the net can sometimes create an atmosphere of deep intimacy that we wouldn't feel in the same amount of real time spent together. I don't mean just here in CM, but anywhere where there is communication online.

It is sad and disappointing for anyone who thinks they've made a connection, to find that the other person doesn't feel the same. In that light, maybe you need to hold back with the feelings for a while. Talk more about common intterests, what movies you like, what happened at aunty Mavis's third wedding, how you feel about free education, stuff that isn't about D/s. THOSE are the things that are common in all our lives. D/s takes up a lot less time so, unless you are looking at a play partner or something casual, get to know the person inside the typing on a screen/on the phone/play sessions/whatever your connection has been.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/15/2008 5:56:50 PM

LuvnFemAuthority

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Actually, I've used this site on and off over 4 years. I've deleted profiles thinking I had found "the one" and even had a relationship for 2 years where I was off it for the duration. I'm not "new" to the lifestyle. I have been dominant my whole life. I did try to find more vanilla relationships in my youth thinking I was just a normal woman with slightly different expectations about the power structure. I was rudely awakened when I dealt with one dom man after another, each end up like clash of the titans. ie. not good.

It is definely true that I do open my heart quickly. I am a sensitive, passionate person. I guess I still need to work on that.

I have not, however, been having online sessions or any sort of play. I want vanilla first and the rest second. I want to know the individual. The last one was really good. I wish he hadn't been so afraid of the connection we had.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/15/2008 6:45:39 PM

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This is perhaps more a rant than a question. I need this off my chest. I am sick to death of male subs that can't make a decision to save their lives. I ask for three things that are very rare in a submissive partner (you'll have to look at my profile for more detail): intelligence, empathy, and maturity. Yah I know this is hard to find in the vanilla crowd never mind in the bdsm world. But I am clear in what I want on my profile why the fuck do I keep getting jackoffs that wouldn't know any of the above emailing me? (rhetorical question) I am sick to death of men that fantasize about submission but can't actually submit when the opportunity is presented. Yah sure the heart and mind are much harder than the body but that's what you signed on for when you messaged me. Fuck! I am tired of this. I am tired of having my heart broken. I'm tired of investing so much time and effort into someone that can't get his act together and/or has no idea what he wants. To all of you jacking some Domme around: fuck you. I hope you die alone.

LuvFemAuthority, if Yr email in-box is getting You this rattled, perhaps You might want to consider a break from CollarMe and other D/s sites for awhile.

i feel strongly that there is enough stress in real life -- to allow 'net stress to affect You is preposterous. Change web sites; read the news; or just turn off the pc.

Not to hijack the thread, but i find it unacceptable, degrading and dehumanising to use the word 'pussy' as a perjorative for a Man. A pussy is a wonderful, delightful, empowering part of a W/woman.

To use this particular word as an insult to Men suggests W/women are inferior ('You've lost Yr balls and turned into a pussy'.)

i hope You are ultimately successful in Yr search, Ma'am, but frankly, i wouldn't even consider a Dom with the kind of anger issues Your Op suggests Yr laboring under now.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/16/2008 7:35:31 PM

LuvnFemAuthority

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I'd expect this kind of response from a 20 year that barely has had her genitalia long enough to notice it but not from woman that seasoned the damn part long enough to see menopause. But hey, some are more sensitive than others. The way I see it, if I have it, I can talk about it. Just like I can make ethnic jokes about my own heritage. But whatever. Gee sorry princess didn't mean to offend you. Yes this is snide and no it doesn't mean I'm a bitch. God, grow up. I can have feelings too.

Oh and for the record, if this is what you consider anger issues good god I hate to think of how fluffy a dom would have to be for you. Christ!

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LuvFemAuthority, if Yr email in-box is getting You this rattled, perhaps You might want to consider a break from CollarMe and other D/s sites for awhile.

i feel strongly that there is enough stress in real life -- to allow 'net stress to affect You is preposterous. Change web sites; read the news; or just turn off the pc.

Not to hijack the thread, but i find it unacceptable, degrading and dehumanising to use the word 'pussy' as a perjorative for a Man. A pussy is a wonderful, delightful, empowering part of a W/woman.

To use this particular word as an insult to Men suggests W/women are inferior ('You've lost Yr balls and turned into a pussy'.)

i hope You are ultimately successful in Yr search, Ma'am, but frankly, i wouldn't even consider a Dom with the kind of anger issues Your Op suggests Yr laboring under now.

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RE: Pussies! - 6/16/2008 8:28:31 PM

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Well, has your rant made you feel any better?...if so...mission accomplished!..If not, then you may have to dig deeper and see what you can do to get out of a box you seem to have fallen into...Now I certainly do understand feeling saddened when you see something with good potential go down the tubes, but while the what ifs and rants certainly helps with stress relief, it however does not solve the continuing issue...seems to me it is time to be pro-active and not reactive...Tempting

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RE: Pussies! - 6/16/2008 10:12:00 PM

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I've happily served several Superior Women in the past few years. I can assure you that there are male slaves who meet your criteria. You just aren't meeting the right ones.

I must admit I've met my Dommes at local parties and munches. They can see what kind of person I am, I guess, and that I am for real.

Sometimes, though, things just don't click. I've had that happen. Believe it or not, I've had a couple of relationships with female slaves who somehow don't find it weird to go out with a fellow slave of a different gender. Most were just friendships. One, though, wanted to serve me, and I wanted very badly to serve her.

That one didn't work out so well, LOL.

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