LadyBeckett
Posts: 865
Joined: 2/4/2004 From: Scotland/Tennessee Status: offline
|
quote:
have Dominated two married men who told me that their wife was aware. We didn’t have sex. We simply had a dynamic based on Domination/submission and sadomasochism. It suited me just fine at the time. Depending on where I am in my life, it may suit me just fine again. In talking with these men, they had a wonderful friendship with their wives and beautiful families. They had kinks that their wives did not want to partake in, i.e.: their wives would not have attended your "How to Dom Your Husband" classes. I had a very interesting experience not long ago with one of my subs, who is a professional male, and married to a *vanilla* wife, very "straight laced", etc. His main *kink* is chastity, and wearing a device when on business trips. I had no doubt that he was for real, and that his situation was exactly as he said it was. My position was one of distance, time, and "how in the world am I gonna do this??? lol He was so sincere that with time and effort, we worked it out, and we have both grown as a result. It was also my position not to be involved in his *vanilla* life/marraige in any way. However, our subs talk to us, and as a result I did get involved. It was his goal to perhaps subtly encourage, or "train" her to Domme him. It wasn't working, and she was non-responsive, gone with girlfriends "shopping" all the time, and he actually wondered if she may be having an affair. This perplexed me. This woman had everything. A successful male who adored her, provided a beautiful home, financial security, and the bubble baths too! She'd say "kiss here" and he was spot on!! I couldn't figure it out. Until another of my subs said, "She wants him to dom her." And I realized immediately, that he was right. lol That was a little more difficult to accomplish, because while he is professionally and socially a very aggressive and well respected man, he is also submissive. To make the transition from doing the dishes , and pampering her, to expecting dinner at a certain time, choosing what she would wear on any given outing, and watching her as she dressed (from panties to zipping her dress and slipping her shoes on), and encouraging her, teaching her how to pamper him, took some time, but turned out to be just what they needed to put the spark back in their marraige and get them back where they both wanted to be. As Dominant Women, we think that if women learn to "Domme their husbands" things would be alright and subbie hubbies wouldn't seek a Mistress outside of the marraige. But I've learned that all wives aren't Domme material. lol That particular sub doesn't see this as dominating her. He sees it as submitting to her need to be submissive. Whatever!!! lol She is whispering to her girlfriends, "He's sooooooo aggressive!" with that flush in her cheeks.
_____________________________
Lady Beckett _______________________________________________ "Submissive boys yearn to fall into their proper place, so the rest of their life will." ~ Lady Beckett
|