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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

I am somewhat Old Testament on these things. A tooth for a tooth, a nail for a nail.....
set up an account on this ashley madison site (site for marrieds wanting discrete what wtf?) and show interest in him. That way you will fing out who really is behind the profile. Mind you if it was him that profile will be taken down already.
If you are not self-contained and strong enough to play them at their own game then the only other solution to to go to the source....the so-called friend at work.
Whatever you chose to do you need to do it with your head held high.
Look: you have nothing to lose and only your peace of mind to gain. At the moment you have your suspicions and are pretty superstitious too. Friday 13th shouldn't really havr any meaning for you if you are thinking rationally.

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooh I LIKE the way you think Prinsexx! 

(However, it would have been more effective if she had done this before she confronted him with it.  But I'd still give it a try.  He might be smug enough to think she would be incapable of such a delicious deviant gotcha )

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

No, right group, wrong song:

Should have taken warning
It's just, people mourning, running, hiding, lost
You can't find, find a place to go
So it's red skies at night, red skies at night
Wo oh, wo oh oh oh oh

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

I am somewhat Old Testament on these things. A tooth for a tooth, a nail for a nail.....
set up an account on this ashley madison site (site for marrieds wanting discrete what wtf?) and show interest in him. That way you will fing out who really is behind the profile. Mind you if it was him that profile will be taken down already.
If you are not self-contained and strong enough to play them at their own game then the only other solution to to go to the source....the so-called friend at work.
Whatever you chose to do you need to do it with your head held high.
Look: you have nothing to lose and only your peace of mind to gain. At the moment you have your suspicions and are pretty superstitious too. Friday 13th shouldn't really havr any meaning for you if you are thinking rationally.

OOOOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooh I LIKE the way you think Prinsexx! 
(However, it would have been more effective if she had done this before she confronted him with it.  But I'd still give it a try.  He might be smug enough to think she would be incapable of such a delicious deviant gotcha )

Wel she's married....she might even end up having a discrete affair with her own husband.....

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Has it occured to you to set up a profile there and engage him in conversation.  See if he bites, you'll have your answer for sure then.  Yeah, it's not cool to do, but you've already snooped in his email, so this seems like the next logical step.  Kidding, sort of.

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Maybe time to renegotiate relationship parameters.

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ORIGINAL: Wickad

(fast reply)

Hmmmm, I tried opening the OP's profile and it seems it can't be found .... hmmmm???

Maybe it's just my connection?  Maybe the OP was more about the link provided than the actual scenario?   Hmmmm?

Wickad

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

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ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

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ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily

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Why were you snooping in his email in the first place? You don't need advice from the CM forums, you need advice from a professional marriage counselor. Clearly, there are larger issues you have not dealt with in this situation.

Amen.

PL

A/anyone who discovers evidence of the type described in the Op and fails to take any self-protective measures is IMO a naieve fool.
 
i couldn't disagree more with Y/yr opinions, Lily and SylvereApLeanan.
 
pinksugarsub

Why?  Because I pointed out there's a problem with her relationship that is MUCH bigger than is reasonable to bring to the Collarchat forums and expect help?  Did you actually read what I said, or are you incapable of putting two and two together?
 
<Ignores insult.>  P/pl ask for advice on the boards all the time.  i assume T/they may or may not find any response helpful, and act accordingly, using T/their own judgment. 

 
Let me break it down for you:
 
1. She is snooping in his email.
 
2. She found something that implies he is cheating.
 
3. She confronted him in a hysterical fit and threatened to end the marriage.
 
4. When confronted, he first played dumb and then gave her a lame cock and bull story about a friend playing a practical joke.
 
 
I don't think checking his mail was a regular assignment from her Daddy....
 
What difference does it make whether her Master instructed her to do this or not?
 
Being a submissive or slave does not equal being an idijit.  If i were collared, i'd insist on complete 'transparency' from my Dom; access to all His email, cell phone, and pc info, etc.
 
i would check it periodically.  This is nothing more than sensible, self-protective behavior IMO.  (Of course i'd provide Him with 'transparency' on my stuff too...fair is fair.)

IMO, she didn't need 'an assingment from her Daddy' to check His email.  It was her right to do so.

Yr opinion may be different. Exchanging POV's is the purpose of the boards. 
 
otherwise he wouldn't have used that email address to set up a profile on a site designed to help people cheat.  He would have created another email account someplace like Yahoo or Hotmail. 
 
As other P/pl have pointed out, He may just not be very adroit at sneaking around on the 'net.  i am baffled as to why You insist  that this factoid from the Op 'proves' anything about matters the Op did not disclose to U/us.

You seem to jump to conclusions and get personally offended when not A/all of U/us join You. This is not a desirable means of communication, IMO.

At what point do you not see there are underlying problems in the relationship that caused her to feel like she needed to snoop in his mail?  
 
At the point when i finished reaing the Op without finding any disclosure about 'underlying problems in the relationship. 
 
i never said anything about what motivated her to 'snoop' as You put it.  Don't know, don't care.  See my response above re: transparency.
 
Now that her suspicions have, more than likely, been confirmed, how in the name of all that's holy do you not get that they need professional help -- not a message board -- if they are going to save their marriage?
 
When did it become the mission of the boards to 'save' A/anyone in real life?  All W/we can do is take what's posted at face value and reply with opinions, reasoning and the occassional factoid.
 
BTW, what is Yr investment in marriage counseling? Why do You feel that couples cannot solve problems on T/their own...or with a clergyman..or in some other manner?
 
Seems to me Yr guilty of the very 'sin' You accuse me of: insisting You 'know what's best for her' -- in fact insisting You know 'the only viable option' open to her. 
 
How can You 'know' anything about the Op's real life situation, apart from just taking what she's written at face value?
 
IMO, Ops such as the one on this thread as best responded to with general advice, based on O/one's own experience, that may be of value to the Op or to A/any O/other member.
 
pinksugarsub

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ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

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ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

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ORIGINAL: ProtagonistLily

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Why were you snooping in his email in the first place? You don't need advice from the CM forums, you need advice from a professional marriage counselor. Clearly, there are larger issues you have not dealt with in this situation.

Amen.

PL

A/anyone who discovers evidence of the type described in the Op and fails to take any self-protective measures is IMO a naieve fool.
 
i couldn't disagree more with Y/yr opinions, Lily and SylvereApLeanan.
 
pinksugarsub

Why?  Because I pointed out there's a problem with her relationship that is MUCH bigger than is reasonable to bring to the Collarchat forums and expect help?  Did you actually read what I said, or are you incapable of putting two and two together?
 
<Ignores insult.>  P/pl ask for advice on the boards all the time.  i assume T/they may or may not find any response helpful, and act accordingly, using T/their own judgment. 

 
Let me break it down for you:
 
1. She is snooping in his email.
 
2. She found something that implies he is cheating.
 
3. She confronted him in a hysterical fit and threatened to end the marriage.
 
4. When confronted, he first played dumb and then gave her a lame cock and bull story about a friend playing a practical joke.
 
 
I don't think checking his mail was a regular assignment from her Daddy....
 
What difference does it make whether her Master instructed her to do this or not?
 
Being a submissive or slave does not equal being an idijit.  If i were collared, i'd insist on complete 'transparency' from my Dom; access to all His email, cell phone, and pc info, etc.
 
i would check it periodically.  This is nothing more than sensible, self-protective behavior IMO.  (Of course i'd provide Him with 'transparency' on my stuff too...fair is fair.)

IMO, she didn't need 'an assingment from her Daddy' to check His email.  It was her right to do so.

Yr opinion may be different. Exchanging POV's is the purpose of the boards. 
 
otherwise he wouldn't have used that email address to set up a profile on a site designed to help people cheat.  He would have created another email account someplace like Yahoo or Hotmail. 
 
As other P/pl have pointed out, He may just not be very adroit at sneaking around on the 'net.  i am baffled as to why You insist  that this factoid from the Op 'proves' anything about matters the Op did not disclose to U/us.

You seem to jump to conclusions and get personally offended when not A/all of U/us join You. This is not a desirable means of communication, IMO.

At what point do you not see there are underlying problems in the relationship that caused her to feel like she needed to snoop in his mail?  
 
At the point when i finished reaing the Op without finding any disclosure about 'underlying problems in the relationship. 
 
i never said anything about what motivated her to 'snoop' as You put it.  Don't know, don't care.  See my response above re: transparency.
 
Now that her suspicions have, more than likely, been confirmed, how in the name of all that's holy do you not get that they need professional help -- not a message board -- if they are going to save their marriage?
 
When did it become the mission of the boards to 'save' A/anyone in real life?  All W/we can do is take what's posted at face value and reply with opinions, reasoning and the occassional factoid.
 
BTW, what is Yr investment in marriage counseling? Why do You feel that couples cannot solve problems on T/their own...or with a clergyman..or in some other manner?
 
Seems to me Yr guilty of the very 'sin' You accuse me of: insisting You 'know what's best for her' -- in fact insisting You know 'the only viable option' open to her. 
 
How can You 'know' anything about the Op's real life situation, apart from just taking what she's written at face value?
 
IMO, Ops such as the one on this thread as best responded to with general advice, based on O/one's own experience, that may be of value to the Op or to A/any O/other member.
 
pinksugarsub

( altho I dont know if you are blonde or not..but thats close enough ) ...