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RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress - 7/9/2008 4:08:59 PM

LadyPact

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I'm glad this thread came back up. It was mentioned in another were I made a comment, but I haven't been on this one yet. I'm going to add that this is My opinion alone. It's not a popular one and I don't expect everyone to agree with it.

There are a lot of terms floating around out there. Some people say they all mean the same thing. I don't especially see it that way. I don't consider them interchangable, but when I talk with other people, I understand that they don't necessarily hold the same view that I do. For those who are interested, here are a few terms.

Yes, to Me, dominatrix is usually associated with a professional. That doesn't necessarily mean that they are any good at their craft. It means at one time or another, they were paid for their services.

Domme. As other people have pointed out, it is pronounced the same as Dom. It is not pronounced "Dom-ay". The only difference is to distinguish the difference between a male and a female dominant.

Top. Being a Top is not necessarily connected with being a Dominant. It means that one Tops another in a scene. In other words, that person is the "do-er", rather than the "do-ee".

Service Top. This is where the Top is doing an activity specifically as a "service" to someone else, either by request or design.

Mistress. There are two ways that people get this title. One is that they have owned a slave and taken on all of the responsibility that the situation encompasses, OR it is a leather title bestowed by the community.

I said it wasn't going to be popular in the beginning. Take what works for you and leave the rest.

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RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress - 7/9/2008 4:29:30 PM

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always thought a dom meant the lady didnt have sex with her sub while together ..but a mistress does and will if she wants to

boy im probable going to get smacked over this one --lol ..have fun mal

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RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress - 7/9/2008 7:31:23 PM

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In response to Lady Delilah Deb, Domina, originally Italian title of noble ladies who hold positions of power. If you watch the show Rome, you will notice the key women are called Domina by the servants. I think it conveys my position exactly. I am certainly not someone’s Mistress or god forbid their Dominatrix-although I could get into it if wearing latex.

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RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress - 7/9/2008 7:59:31 PM

subtex

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DominaSusan

In response to Lady Delilah Deb, Domina, originally Italian title of noble ladies who hold positions of power. If you watch the show Rome, you will notice the key women are called Domina by the servants. I think it conveys my position exactly. I am certainly not someone’s Mistress or god forbid their Dominatrix-although I could get into it if wearing latex.

Yeah I loved the one where a women was whipping her slave and he called her Domina. I think the writers were chuckling over that. Not that they had to sneak it in it was on HBO I think.

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RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress - 7/9/2008 8:26:41 PM

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I dunno. Dominatrix today seems more associated with professionals. Even on popular TV shows like CSI you see this frequently or when you read in the news about some scandal of a busted ring, you hear or read the term used in that context of prostitution or for pay services. Those less in the know use dominatrix and most likely haven't heard the term domme or domina.

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RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress - 7/9/2008 9:05:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: NumberSix

'trix' is Latin; I should think.
as in:

fellatrix (a woman)
fellator or fellatore (a man)

or as in:

Trixie Belden and the case of the lost blowjob.

6

Exactly. Dominatrix doesn't imply professional status for a woman any more than Dominator implies professional status for a male. Suffixes -rix = female, -or = male. I believe that a lot of people think the word dominatrix implies professional domination simply because that's the context in which they first heard the word. It doesn't mean pro.

Similar misconceptions happen to words all the time. "Chauvinist" is a good example. Chauvinism meant fanatical patriotism, but most people never heard the term except in the phrase "male chauvinist pig", so they thought that it applied to men specifically.

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RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress - 7/9/2008 11:30:41 PM

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Dominatrix is a professional dominant.
Mistress, in this context, generally means a dominant woman.

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RE: Dominatrix versus Mistress - 7/11/2008 9:55:34 AM

misterbananafish

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i tend to agree.

when i think dominatrix, i think someone you see professionally or not, but only for sessions...

a dominatrix is not someone involved 24/7, in my humble opinion...

perhaps it comes from the idea that a dominatrix, while not noting a profession, per se, notes that the woman dominates, and it is assumed she dominates multiple people...

maybe this is why i prefer Domme when referring to a dominant female, instead of dominatrix.

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